What can i do to make more friends?

Question

I have very low self confidence and dont find it easy at all to strike up a conversation with a stranger, when people talk to me i get nervous and stutter. i dont want to become a recluse/loner. please help.

Answer 1

hi there

step 1), address the issue that prevents you from making friends in the first place- ' low self confidence' and 'nerves'.
youll have better success meeting people, talking to strangers if you adress whats holding you back - your shyness. solution is to read, research, learn all you can to build your self esteem up. making friends is meeting people, and how are you gonna do that if your shy? addess this first.

step 2) then, put yourrself out there! once your feeling confindent and happy with yourself, try joining a team based sport, very social, active and you meet new people every week. also go to bars, festivals too. if your working, make friends with co workers. be friendly and funny. that should be a start

point is im suggesting you address your self confidence and nerves becuase we could all give you the best advice in the would but if you lack confindence in your self, what are that chances of you actually doint it?

- i hope this helps - dave

Answer 2

The only way to improve self confidence is to not care what other people think about you - just be content with yourself. I find I stutter more when I am putting it on to impress people like prospective employers or whatnot so if you relax around people you're less likely to trip over your words. Just relax & go slow, don't force what you're saying & you'll be amazed, even if people are just being polite it still feels good.
In the end, what's the worse that can happen? You make an ugly mess of a couple of words? Do you think that person will ever think about it twice? I doubt it, in the grand scheme of things. Just be true to yourself, talk about what you know & place minimal importance on what others think of you. Good luck :)


From,

the shy girl at school

Answer 3

It's quite difficult at the beginning when you decide to make friends but when you meet people, don't force yourself to start a conversation. Relax and it will come magically. BE YOURSELF at all times and see every body as the same as you and not more important than yourself. In this way you'll be able to say things freely without stuttering and even people will love you for that.. As for ur confidence i had a problem with mine a while a go but the only thing u've gotta do is look in the mirror and say the most positive things ever about yourself. In that way u'll never think of the things u did wrong but only the right ones. GOOD LUCK WITH UR FRIENDS.

Answer 4

i used to be quite shy with strangers, not at all with my family tho. my boss recognized this and Made me take a Dale Carnegie course. It is quite expensive, but work paid for it. I think you could have some benefits from it by reading his first book "how to win friends and influence people". You can get this book at any library or bookstore.

Another way would be to join some organizations or clubs that you are interested in. For instance, my brother works for Habitat for Humanity most weekends, he is shy but has no trouble talking about building projects because it is something he knows well and likes.

Answer 5

You're not giving yourself enough credit. What are you good at? At this point maybe you're the best at knowing how not to stutter in certain situations. So run with that! Don't be hard on yourself-everyone is good at something, no matter how mundane it may seem to you. Do you like to read? Volunteer at the library, do you like animals? help out at your Humane Society. Good with computers? Volunteer at a school, take a cooking class, learn how to sail, or hike, or run, or teach someone how to run... Life is so full of possibilities, don't limit yourself ever, ever. please there are so many people who need whatever you have to offer... just throw it out there

Answer 6

you should know that everyone is not perfect. Even the coolest person you see may not be as good as you think. There's lot of people who may not be as lucky as you are. So step out, don't be afraid. Just go there and find a friend. I have the same experience like you, and I always think that no one wants to be friends with me. And it turns out that it's not true. Now I have lots of friend just because I believe in myself more and I learn to accept myself the way I am. The true friend will find you only when you open yourself to them. Good Luck..

Answer 7

you sound like me a few years ago, and somtimes still! it can be very hard. what worked for me was i had one freind i felt safe with, someone i was comfertable with and when i would meet new people it would be with this freind, i would feel ok because i had my freind beside me. also you can meet so many people on the net now, you can chat and really get to no them with out being nervous, and then when you meet in person you will feel more comfertable. i no it can be hard, but dont give up, it can be done. i did it! good luck to you.

Answer 8

You, just gotta get out there, and talk to people yeh it's easier said than done but you have to take baby steps, just start with saying hi to some on that sits next to you, and graduatly then soon you'll be making friends all by your slef :)

Answer 9

Seriously, get a job with the public. Working with the public helps a shy person realize that theres a major difference between shyness and idiocy! Also, it will help you eleminate your shyness.

Answer 10

Just be frank to people Be happy Dont be shy Make a good personality before the people you like. So simple!!!Hey if you say I am your friend from today([e-mail])