I have a friend who I love very much , but he does not want a relathionship with any women at the moment, he keeps on findings problems with me, he judges me on everything, and there is always small things wrong with me, but if any women trys to come between us he tells me and stops writing or talking to her so as not to hurt me at all, he tells me everything , do You think that he tries to dyne his love for me by telling everyone I am not his type but deep down he does love me? Is this a way of leeding with his fustration of trying to run away from something he is not prepared to face? What should I do to get this guy to love me and accept me? He comes and goes always saying he is my friend, but he keeps on talking about me to everyone and saying I must always trust him he is very honest, help me what should I do? to get him to accept me, I stay away from him for a few weeks but he keep on coming back
2006-09-24 01:09:53 · 6 answers · asked by captainfrisco2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It would be better if you pointed that kind of attitude out to him. He sounds like the negative guy who has no idea what he is doing. I used to be like that without realising it but once it was pointed out to me i have stopped doing that. Let him know that you know what wrong and right are and it would be better if he helped you improve on the right ones instead of pointing out to you only your flaws.
2006-09-24 02:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by tyana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably aren't going to like this, but you need to have a long heart to heart with him. Tell him how you feel when he criticizes you and tell him that you are disappointed that he doesn't appreciate you for who you are more and not find the flaws that any human has. Maybe he stops talking and writing other women because, like he said, he doesn't want a serious relationship. Don't read more into it than is there.
2006-09-24 01:31:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if he has some issues with intimacy and relationships. He also sounds very confused. I think you are investing a lot of time and energy on this guy and he just doesn't sound worth it. "High maintenance" comes to mind. He sounds exhausting to be around. Aren't you worth more than the treatment you are getting from him???
2006-09-24 01:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run as far and as fast as you can from this guy. He's not a friend. Friends are supportive. This guys is playing mind games with you that could be considered emotional abuse. Think about it...why would you put up with that?
2006-09-24 01:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by Deb C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he wants to stop LIKING you as more than a friend. There is no love there. maybe as friends, but no more. he wouldn't talk about you in a negative way nor would he pick at "problems" if he loved you.
2006-09-24 01:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by vtrachel2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnot want to have relationship with you. sorry to say it to you.
2006-09-24 01:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by boathouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋