no silly answers from kids,only mature people please?

Question

while marriages are going down,divorces are going up is it unreasonable for a retired ,established,man of 52 who neither looks,acts,or feels his age to thus seek after a life partner younger than himself?
someone in their 20's,30's,or 40's, even though Iam likely to have at least another 25 years of quality time left based on family genealogy & genes,as men on both sides live well into their 90's,some even and beyond 100.
I ask this because Ive not dated in 13 + years by choice (dumb I know-but thats hindsight) I don't need to waste anymore time.
Some younger ppl think we wouldnt have anything in common that couldnt be further from the truth,if they have a mind between their shoulders,if they are creative,adventurous,a lover of music,art,books travel,nature,sailing,
snorkeling,camping,
mudding,4 wheeling,concerts,
horseback riding,fine dining,dancing,sensual
yet not promiscuous why we would have plenty
in common.
Any MatchMakers out there?

Answer 1

I AM 26, I JUST GOT MARRIED TO THE GREATEST, THE MOST FANTASTIC AND PERFECT MAN IN THE WORLD!!! AND HE IS 29 YEARS OLDER THAN ME!!! YES, HE IS 55, I'M 26, BUT I LOVE HIM MORE THAN MY LIFE AND HE DOES TOO!! HE WAS MARRIED FOR 29 YEARS, AND MOST OF THE TIME IT WAS A MARRIAGE WITH NO LOVE OR RESPECT FOR M HIS WIFE. BEFORE WE MET, HE WAS DIVORCED ALREADY, AND HE WAS SO MUCH AGAINST BEING IN ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP. BUT... SEE, U NEVER KNOW WHAT LIFE HAS FOR U. IF U NEED SOMEONE TO SHARE UR LIFE WITH- GO AHEAD! IT'S NEVER TOO LATE FOR LOVE!
AND FOR THE SIMILAR INTERESTS, WE HAVE A LOT! IN COMMON, MORE THAN WITH ANY OF THE GUYS MY AGE I'VE DATED. HE MAKES ME THE HAPPIEST WOMAN ALIVE...
JUST GO AHEAD AND BE HAPPY AND DON'T CARE FOR THE AGE DIFFERENCE!!

Answer 2

I don't think that it is unreasonable. But, a question that comes to mind is why do you knock out anyone around your age or older? Whenever I hear about older men who wants to have a relationship with a much younger woman...control, manipulation, and depravation come to mind...not that you are...but these are common thoughts.

Be honest. You don't like the idea of looking at a body that may have possibly pushed out 2-6 children 20-30 yrs ago? I would think that you would want a woman that might actually have the same if not more experience in the bedroom than yourself. You don't have anything, especially historical context, in common? Would a 25 yr old know who Jack Benny is? or see the first space walk?

A younger person is thinking about children. Granted, you can still put out the little guys to make things happen...but what happens 20 years down the road? You are planning to see grand children? graduations? Oh...you are done with children?? Is that fair to a 20-30 yr old that wants children? Yes, there are some out there that already have them and/or don’t want them.

You don't think that there are any women your age that like music, art, books, travel, nature, sailing, snorkeling, camping, mudding, 4 wheeling, concerts, horseback riding, fine dining, dancing, sensual yet not promiscuous (oh, please be serious...of course you want an intimate relationship)---and promiscuous????

Couples that have a large gap in age--have extreme differences and experience levels that it tends to cause problems and issues within the relationship. To find an individual that works well in an age-gapped relationship (on both sides) takes a very special person...each has to be a special individual to handle the cognitive and physical differences between each person.

Answer 3

wow, some lucky girl should never at least be bored with you! But can you take on a relationship with a younger woman and not be fatherly to her...she would eventually leave you for that!
Can you take on a younger woman and meet her expectations
sexually lets say 20 years from now, once she has figured out
exactly what she needs in that area...most young women do not
know what they want sexually... they just go through the motions to keep the relationship stable...then when they are in their 40's or 50's they know...then most often men they marry that are older than them have issues and have no desire to please their partner...perhaps they think...too late little lady, a John Wayne mentality! And have you thought about the generation gap between you and a younger woman...are you prepared to be a father to a child that could come from this younger woman? More and more women today are having children in their late 30's and early 40's. More to think about than just how much fun you can be for your mate! It seems you are a thinker... so think about this...why don't you just put all your energies into becoming a Christian, or a better one if you already are one...for the Bible says if you put God first, He will give you the desires of your heart!

Answer 4

It certainly doesn't sound unreasonable to me. But you really have to be clear what you're looking for otherwise you won't know it if passes you by. Fifty two isn't what it was 20 years ago as long as you maintain your health you could enjoy another 30, or 40 years sharing it with your best Friend, soul mate, life partner. Now adays more than ever if a marriage is to last the two people have to be on the same page as far as ethics, morals, dreams, otherwise it will all fizzle out when you wake up and realize you've married a stranger. You should start dating even a casual date can tell you if you want to get to know the person better. Happy trails!

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with dating someone younger than yourself. Just make sure that they do indeed have a good head between their shoulders. Too much of an age gap can be a little much though. Maybe someone in their late 30's and into their 40's would be more reasonable. You don't want to be with someone that may view you as an established, older man who they can take advantage of financially. They are out there. If you go with someone who is a little older and is already established in her own right, you may be able to enjoy the relationship a little more.

Good luck..................Have fun!

Answer 6

52? You still have alot to give a relationship. I am not far behind you and don't ever want to think about being alone. Let me tell you this, don't go looking for someone alot younger. Look for someone who enjoys spending time with you for who you are and you enjoy being with them because of who they are. We have a good friend who is 51, his young 27 year old wife just left him to be with someone younger. Took everything they had. He likes younger woman. I told him, he is setting himself up for a life of heartache. Younger woman grow up and realize who they are and what they want. I don't think a person is really mature and able to really know what they want in life and understand what life is all about until their 30's. Think about your friends, how many of them hit their 40's and then one isn't happy. That is what they call midlife crisis. I believe people get better with age, I wouldn't go back for any amount of money in the world. I love the age I am now, and what I have learnt about life. I am not far behind you, my husband is the same age, we have a wonderful loving relationship that has been hard work. But worth every minute. I was never one that was comfortable dating. I think dating leads to expectations. I enjoyed spending time making friends and letting the friendship grow into love. You have to be friends with someone before you can love them. All the other wonderful things will follow. Good luck to you. And remember love really is blind. That is why friendship should come first. You see people for who they are. And with spending time with them you begin to fall in love with them through the time spent getting to know each other and being open with each because there is no strings attached.

Answer 7

At 52, one year younger than me, you should be suspect of any girls in their 20's wanting more than your money or a daddy figure. I do think there are a number of women who may be ten of fifteen years younger who might be interested. Check Yahoo personals and you will find a lot of 38 to 55 year old women who would love some companionship. I think you will find that its a lot easier to talk when your common life experience runs before Bill Clinton.
I have sons who are in their 20's. Its tough talking to them about life before computers, much less life before calculators.
Anyone got any 8 track tapes.

Answer 8

If you go into the dating realm with a view to 'acquiring' a companion according to their age then surely you recognize that the same criterion will be applied to you as a prospective partner. Younger women tend to want children at that age and frequently get "accidentally" pregnant. Try looking for compatibility and you may have more success.

Answer 9

I think you would be fine looking for a younger person. I am 38 and would consider a person up to 50, the right person that is. I almost went out with an older man but he freaked out about our age difference or at least that was his excuse.

Answer 10

I am far from being a matchmaker but I think age does not matter at all. Unless one of the people is not of legal age :) I think you should find someone to spend time with. Happiness and love do not have an age limit.