I need to report something to but I dont feel confident telling my teacher....?

Question

Ive been told and seen that if you have any problems / being bullied, see your head of year.
I dont really feel confident talking to her because she thinks people bully me because I provke them.
However this is not the case. I have been name called Shabaz form Big Brother (since it BB7 started) just because I am the same colour as him.
I know that if I tell her she will think I have said something to the person who calls me names.
This is the stage where I will get stuck and then she will twist it and try making it out that I'm the person causing trouble. Then I will feel really s**t because I have told her about the situation.
I know she will react like this because she has done this every single time to me before (when I have reported bullying).
I want to see one of the higher teachers such as the deputies or someone but last week I saw another pupil report a situation to a higher teacher where he was bullied but he was told to see his head of year. I dont want to see her!

Answer 1

How about telling your music, art or gym teacher.

Answer 2

If you are being bullied then this has to stop now. You have a right to be heard. If your teacher is not going to listen/believe you then she is neglecting his/her duty and should not be in that position of responsibility.

Go and see the Deputy Head or Head Teacher and explain to them exactly what you have put in this email or even take a copy of this email with you to help them understand what you are going through.

You could always tell your parents what is going on. I know if my son told me what you are now I would be straight to the head teacher demanding something be done.

Bullies are really cowards and once they realise you aren't going to take their snide remarks anymore they will stop.

Good luck with this.

Nobody deserves to be bullied.

Answer 3

Your school has a duty of care to you and by dismissing your requests for help they are not fulfilling that duty.

You should, where possible, follow the correct channels first. Talk to your head of year, explain that you have done nothing to provoke this and that you consider it racist. You may not actually consider it racist but your request may carry more weight if you mention something that your head of year is afraid of being accused of.

Your head of year is duty bound to act. If they do not, they are failing you. That is what you need to remember. Explain that you want something done about it and are not happy for it to continue the way it is. If you set out your requests and what you will be accept at the start, they can't pretend they thought you were happy with what they did.

If your head of year fails to act, then go to one of their peers - another head of year. Explain you're unhappy with your own head of year's resolution. See what advice they have. If you're still unhappy, then go over their head and see their superior.

By following the correct procedures when making your complaint, you can't be referred back down the chain. By having consulted another head of year before going higher, the next person up can't refer you back down either.

I really hope you manage to get that sorted.

Best of luck
froggie

Answer 4

i take it your in England all schools are supposed to have a no bullying policy. most schools in my experience deal with this by refusing to accept there`s a problem in their school. i`ve had all this with one of my girls she was 5 at the time if she hit back she was the one who got caught (bully`s are sly)if she told the teacher it was (don`t tell fibs or go away and stop being a drama queen)and at times she was even told to apologise to the ones who were hitting and kicking her.so i can believe that no one will listen to you .you should tell your parents whats going on i know that a lot of children keep it from their parents but they are the best people to back you up and when they still do nothing try threatening them with (your racist and I'm going to the papers)its about the one thing that get people in these sort of jobs to listen to what your saying (i`m white but i know this will work )
all the best Keny

Answer 5

I would suggest a note describing and naming the head of year, then dropping it into the Pricipals suggestion box. Or if there is a bullitin board or some sort of public opinions place that the alumni,and powers that be can have access to your delema.
Just remember to sign it as anamonous!!
By the way....What is a head of year? I've never heard that term.

Answer 6

Its always a difficult situation, but one thing is for sure, once you have told a teacher, you will be releaved, as you are not holding it all inside of you. If you feel that, your teacher will not help in anway, and that perhaps there senior will not. Is there anytone else you trust or feel you can approach (a teacher of a favourate subject of yours) or the welfare teacher, anyone at all. Let them help you, i'm sure they will. If you do not feel confortable, then try writing to them, a simple letter explaining it all.

Whatever you decode, dont keep it inside of you, and good luck.

Answer 7

tough one, but your not in the army, your allowed to go to whomever u think can understand and help you best
Go to the teacher you feel most comfortable telling, and also tell them at the beginning why u didnt go to your head of year.
if your still not listened too, go to the local paper, a bit of publicity often puts a rocket under these peoples backside

Answer 8

Go talk to your guidance counselor. She will help you deal with this issue and talk to your head teacher for you. No one should have to put up with bulling. Have your parent go in with you if needed. It can be done private so as not to embarrass you.

Answer 9

Tell your parents. If they know already get them to talk to your head of year. If anything it is more than bullying its racism.

Answer 10

is it just ribbing or is it genuine bullying? are the perpetrators doing it with malice or are they just having a laugh?