How am I meant to deal with it? If you checked my last Q: Does he love me? Well the man I am very much in Love with, well his ex girl friend is pregnant with his baby :( they are still friends and I try to be friends with her to, after all that happend between us... I was seeing him for over a year and thought he was single then he dropped the bomb shell that he had a girl, and it all got very messy. Her and I rowed and rowed he told me he loved her and I got very hurt and he just dropped me as she moved to London from Kent. Then me and this guy never spoke for 4months until he found out she had cheated on him. Then me and him started seeing each other again, and then I found out he had been sleeping with her AGAIN and now she is pregnant, ready to give birth in December. I try to be friends with her just to keep the peace but it hurts me so much. I want to be with him and I will keep trying. How do you deal with something like this?
2006-09-24 00:13:13 · 25 answers · asked by me_me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You know the answer to this, you just need the strength to go through with it.
2006-09-24 00:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men have a habit of trying to return to ex's when they split up with their current girlfriend/wife. Its known as the yo yo effect. In my mind if you carry on being with this guy, you could go through this several times over. Looking at the logical side of it-she is as much a victim of yo yo effect as you are! Only difference being is she is pregnant and your are not....How do the two of you girls know that you are the only two-he may have others that you do not know about. I know its something you don't want to hear-but there are some really nice decent guys out there and wasting time on someone like this-well life is far too short!
2006-09-24 01:35:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have gotten yourself in to a real mess and it sounds like your love for him may be clouding your thinking, and not just a little. You want to hear something like it will be OK, he will be faithful to you, and to keep trying.... With the history already, it is unlikely that he will stop seeing her. It sounds like he wants both of you, at least for sex, and is not willing to let either of you go. He may be thinking that one of you will give up on him and make his final decision for you.
As hard as it is, think about how you will feel about this 1 year from now, 2 years from now, and 10 years from now. If your honest answer is that you won't be able to trust him, and that you will still be "dealing" with this issue, you will have to get out of this relationship, as soon as you can.
2006-09-24 00:22:20 · answer #3 · answered by missouri bulldog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok to start with, the baby might not be your boyfriends baby. If she has cheated once she could have many other times. Your boyfriend should ask her for a paternity test. Your boyfriend has not behaved in an admirable way here. Im really sorry to say this but i do feel personally, that this guy is only in love with himself. For you to stay with him i fear u may get hurt further. If the baby IS his then i think you know in your heart what do to.
2006-09-24 00:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about the two timing loser. He has been playing you out to be a sucker [which may very well be true]. My advice: never play seconds to anyone unless you are a bisexual. It sounds like you are young and he has gotten into your head. I think you want something that perhaps you shouldn't have. When I was younger I always chased the wrong females because I wasn't ready for a serious relationship.
2006-09-24 00:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by tadpoleslider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh,what a tangled web we weave.The very fact that thid man lied to you from the very beginning implies that he is the root cause of this troble and i do think he has a lot of growing up to do,the pregnant girlfriend will need a lot of support and you trying to get him back is a no no..becuse he has now to grow up fast and face his responibilites as a father,forget him and move on..his girlfriend cannot do this..as she is expecting his baby.thank god you are both not pregnant...you are both better off without him..He is through his own selfish acts the cause..and you two women should get together and support each other...atho you cannot rule him out of the baby,s life...this girlfriend should seek legal support now for maintainace..it is easy for me to say,and i do have children of my own..it will be a hard journey for both of you,but she does need a lot of support emontinaly and he is the "TWIT"..SO GO AND SEE HER and get over this silly little boy.
2006-09-24 00:52:51 · answer #6 · answered by janine s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry... did you just say that your man cheated on you reapeatedly for a year, and now your trying again?!
The fact that she is having his child is obviously a major issue, but the main thing here is that your are giving up all hope of finding happiness for a man who has no qualms about having year-long affairs.
Forget it, he will continue to cheat again and again. Once you show that he's not going to lose you why wouldnt he cheat? he's not risking anything.
Dump him.
2006-09-24 00:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by ladyjinx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
answering the question..."does he love me" no he doesn't...if he did he's dump her and stay with you...worse still she is having his kid...dump him and move on you deserve better and your not going to get anywhere by staying with him....do yourself a favour Hun...kick his *** to kingdom come and back..they deserve each other...you are a nice person by the sounds of it....move on and get a guy who really will love you....don't waste your time on a no mark like him...it's never going to change now she is having a baby to him...that baby is the lifeline between the two....once there's a baby on the scene then she will also be on the scene forever, don't waste any more time sweetie....your making yourself ill staying with this guy....he is sleeping with both of you, and who's to say that he aint sleeping with other girls too...STD is common these days and easily spread....dont go there...have your healing time and move on
2006-09-24 00:22:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him it's not worth it there are plenty of free and single men out there make a clean break for it or you will get hurt.
2006-09-24 03:58:19 · answer #9 · answered by Gossip81 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww babez....
This must be sooo hard for you....
A great solution is just to talk to this guy. And if he loves you he won't care about a thing.
I really hope everything will be okay for you, good and trusty luck.
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2006-09-24 00:16:25 · answer #10 · answered by x_Super_Social_Superstar_x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋