Not ALL Gays...?

Question

OK Not all Gays primarilly emphasize on gayness, obviously. I did not say ALL.

BUT How do we know that someone is gay unless they have told us or someone else? THEREFORE they have chose to put it out to the world--which would then make the question back again to why do gays, bisexuals primarilly use this for an emphasis to be accepted.

Answer 1

I don't see them talking about their sexuality to be accepted per se, I see them talking about their sexuality because it who they are. (With some exceptions, but you do find exceptions among all people.)

Answer 2

It has absolutely nothing with being accepted, it is simply a statement of fact. A persons relationships and whom they identify with is as much a part of conversation within social settings as anything else." Are you married? Seeing someone? Do you have children?" Those questions are common and for the most part aren't considered as anything but conversation BUT they are a mention/reference to your sexuality. The simple fact that the majority of the time the answers indicate the heterosexual nature of the person. The "problem" you seem to be having is the reaction to finding out that someone does NOT fit within the majority and that seems to disturb you.
Get over it. "You" do it all the time(make statements that infer your sexuality). Mentioning that someone is gay is not a statement about what or how they do things in bed. It is simply a statement of fact. You really need to work on getting over your prudish sensibilities.

Answer 3

That would be the vicious circle. How do we get equal treatment without letting people know that we are regular people in all but one way?

You can say we need tell no one, but do you live your life never talking about your family, boy friend, husband...? Imagine if you had to NEVER say anything about your personal life in order to maintain your job. I mean absolutely nothing. It's nearly impossible, and living in fear is so not healthy.

So, support us in getting equal privledges and protections against very real discrimination if you want the political emphasis we are making to go away - won't happen until that day.

Answer 4

I'm bi-sexual, that's who I am, and I like who I am, like the French philosopher said: "...since it is me I will neither deny nor apologize for it." If I live my life openly straights call me a pervert and gays call me a hypocrite, if I don't both sides call me a coward and a liar. I've lived a rich and full life, to define me solely in terms of what I do in the bedroom is deny my overall humanity. I not "A Bi-sexual". I'm a Human Being who happens to be, among other things, bi-sexual. I'm not honest about who I am to gain acceptance, clearly it doesn't achieve that, I do it because to do anything else would make me the hypocrite I'm accused of being.

Answer 5

Straight people talk about their husbands/wives, boy/girlfriends all the time. They CHOOSE to put it out there, and everyone accepts this as normal behavior, because it is ASSUMED that they are straight. Straights primarily use this for an emphasis to be accepted. Now what's your point?

Answer 6

Why do straights emphasize with rings and conversation when we can't? Same questions as before sweetheart...

Do you hold hands with your boyfriend/girlfriend in public?

Do you kiss your boyfriend/girlfriend in public?

Do you mention your boyfriend/girlfriend in conversation with friends?

Have you ever seen a pregnant woman talking about her husband?

If you don't want homosexuality "flaunted," then stop flaunting your heterosexuality. I mean really, what if I have a problem with heterosexuality???

Get over yourself.

Answer 7

It is a matter of equality, not my homosexuality. My being gay bares no relevance to the quality of my character, the level of my maturity or the height of my intelligence. So the mere state of my being sexually attracted to men should not be an issue.

I do not seek 'acceptance'. I accept myself, thank you. I seek respect. Just like you do.

What is the point of your question?

Answer 8

People are accepted, gayness is not. For gay people to be accepted as gay people gayness needs to be accepted.

Answer 9

What? I guess I don't totally understand your question. I don't go around introducing myself saying "Hi, I'm Bilbo, and I'm gay"....the subject doesn't come up unless it's necessary. I don't know anyone else who does either. Do you??

Answer 10

People naturally except you as being straight and when you tell them your not they see you as disgusting.If they get to know you first and later find out your gay they say you lied to them and can't be trusted.That's why!

Answer 11

Stright people don't emphasize their straightness? They don't chose to do so?

You're extremely one-sided on this issue. It's OK for straights because you belong to that "club". It's not OK for anyone that differs from yourself. That is bigotry.