Why do gays, bisexuals feel like it is important for the world to know what they do in bed? I don't care if the world knows I am straight or married or single or dating. I think this is why you guys (and girls) are being singled and separated out so much. BECAUSE YOU EMPHASIZE THIS as the biggest part of you instead of emphasizing your other aspects of yourself. Try letting the world know you are charitable, a good person, or that you do well in your career instead of concentrating so hard on getting the world to accept your gayness or whatever.
2006-09-23 23:46:04 · 29 answers · asked by AveGirl 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think it comes from being suppressed and unheard for so long. Now that they can tell about their sexuality without being jailed or killed some of them act like unruly teens and shouts "hear me see me!" just because they can. I think it's over the top but I can also understand their need to shout out their existence.
2006-09-23 23:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by *duh* 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Hey - support us in getting the same legal privileges as straights and the purpose for telling the world that we are homosexual will pretty much go away. This goes beyond marriage by the way. In many states, if the employer finds out someone is gay, they're free to fire the person regardless of job performance. Same holds with housing and many of the things that the equal rights amendment provides protection for minorities.
Hasn't it occurred to you that most gays and lesbians have absolutely no desire to share our sexuality? It's personal, just as you said. (The reality is that most of us don't and you probably don't even know that we are gay.) But, if you are talking about being able to put a picture of our partner on our desks, being able to talk about our partner as a partner, ya know, regular life discourse, or walk down the street casually holding hands as a regular non-sexual way of couples... then you're asking us to live in the closet for your convenience. That's just not right. Hope that's not what you mean!
and yes, just like very many straights, there are people who make a point of sharing their sexual everything with everyone. That doesn't really have to do with orientation - it's a personality thing.
2006-09-24 10:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by Alex62 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
And how is the world supposed to know that gay people are just like everyone else if we keep our preference to ourselves? Not being open about our transgender status is the main reason that the transgender community is so far behind the gay and lesbian communities when it comes to acceptance. Remember, everyone is assumed to be straight until proven otherwise. If we achieve something and don't out ourselves, no progress is made. Oh, and in parts of the world we're being killed by the hundreds for being who we are. Kinda makes acceptance an important issue...
2006-09-24 11:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From your question it seems that you practice not sharing information about yourself. That is ok for you to do. I practice the same thing today. There are, however, some people in our world that don't mind sharing information about them. That is ok for them to do also. Some people are more open about their lives than others. There was a time in my life when I was more open about the things in my life. Today, I tend to keep things to myself more.
I do not have a right to tell others how to behave. I love and enjoy having relationships with lots of people. This keeps me balanced and healthy. I have learned to allow others to be where they are and to not allow anyone to move me from where I am unless I want to be moved.
When you say, “Why do gays, bisexuals feel like it is important for the world to know what they do in bed?” you are asking a question that is not fair or nice. You said “what they do”, “why you guys (and girls)", “you emphasize”, “part of you”, “your other aspects or yourself”, “you are”, “you do”, “your career”, “your gayness”. Your statements and questions paint a picture of someone who places people in a group and doesn’t appreciate or respect humans for their individuality. I know for a fact that you don’t know all the people in this world, so your statements and questions are not even logical.
It would be nice if you could learn to look at others in a different way. It would be nice if you could learn to appreciate anyone you come in contact with in life as being just as important as you are, having the right to behave the way they want as long as it doesn’t abuse you.
If someone is saying something to you that is offensive, have you addressed it with that person?
No two people are alike. No one is “singled and separated out so much” as a group of people because of the behavior of some in the group. This kind of problem comes from some people who have fear, a lack of knowledge and who think they are better or different. This kind of problem comes from some people in this world who think they have a right to control others and how they behave.
All of “us humans” deserve respect.
2006-09-24 08:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by Jael 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
well, I don't know how many gays/bisexuals/lesbians you know, but I don't know any that always talk about what they do in bed, I don't! you are stereotyping.
and why do you single us out? in my personal experience, I've only ever heard straight people bragging about what they do in bed!
I am charitable, a good person and do well in my career (although I'm certainly not rich!). I don't brag about what goes on in my bedroom, because that's my own business. and yes, I am out and I am accepted by my family and friends.
why are you concentrating so hard on singling us out and passing judgment?
2006-09-24 15:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl, what planet are you from? It sounds to me that you're revealing too much about your own personal life(and you don't sound to happy, either!).
How many gay people do you know? Not all of us tell what's going on in our bedrooms(frankly that's none of your or my business!). Have you heard about Ellen or Elton John talking about what's going on in their "love shacks"? Baby, you got it twisted!
The LGBT community has been doing wonderful work as a whole, and we have allies who feel that we deserve to love, work, live, and play just like straight people do. Just like other cultures, we have our moments of stupidity and screw ups, but hey! Doesn't that make us human as well? Girl, please! Get a grip already!
I find it funny that most straight folks find us so terrible and degenerate when the majority of staight folks come on and be just as perverse and sick! That's so unreal, child!
If you don't like us, then that's fine. But this is a big world we live in, honey! It's gonna keep on turning whether you feel like you do or not. It takes all kinds to make this big, blue marble we call Earth go 'round. Wake up and free your mind. It sounds like you're a tad bit tense.
Another point and then I'm gone. If you think for one moment that generalizing all of us makes you feel more better about yourself, then you're sadly mistaken. It sounds like you want someone to care about you. That you have to work out between you and your Maker. You're so sad, boo. You need a hug.
2006-09-24 11:56:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be right... but it depends on people actually. some are horny and want people to know; but not only gay people do that. I have Str8 friends talkin about that like all daylong. it's annoying, but what do you want, they're like that. if you say that we feel as if it is important for the world to know what we doin in bed, then why str8s also feels it. you see, it's kinda like a generalization thing i am doin. that's the same thing what you just did while asking your question. I personally don't like generalizing people based on some specific persons.
2006-09-24 14:12:13 · answer #7 · answered by Gilno E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AveGirl...you generalise too much!
Not all gays and lesbians shout about their sexuality from the roof tops, infact i'd hazard a guess and say that you probably aren't even aware of 70% of the gay/lesbian folk that you encounter in your day to day life.
Yes there are obvious dykes and screaming queens out there, but for the most part the gay community isn't all about advertising itself, except maybe on that one day a year some of us attend a Pride rally, and we do this to raise awareness, to feel a sense of a larger community and to meet new friends.
I don't see you dogging on Christians for doing similar things!!
2006-09-24 10:23:18 · answer #8 · answered by Sight 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's not what we do, that needs to be known, the bigots always had that pretty well covered, its who we are. Before Stone Wall we felt we were so few we had to hide and pretend we were something we were not. Police oppression was rampant. Our civil rights were violated every day. Now you know that we're here in significant numbers and can fight back. We have some political clout. Many people hate us but most respect us now.
Tammi Dee
2006-09-24 11:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by tammidee10 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My ***. Is it not that there is a section for 'pregnacies, women health, men health' and all that stuff. Where not just not gay people but also straight people talk about their sexual problems, preferences, and problems in bed. If you have such a problem with it get off Yahoo Answers and Stay in your room for the rest of you life becuase in case you didn't know. Gay people are everywhere.
Welcome to the 21st Century!!!
2006-09-24 10:48:57 · answer #10 · answered by Kay 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My partner and I have been together for over 32 years. We don't discuss our bedroom activities.
What's your problem, that people let you know they have a gay partner? Don't straights talk openly about their loves, pregnancies, show affection in public? Wear wedding rings to let everyone know they're in a straight relationship?
Of course my partner is an important part of my life. Why would anyone expect otherwise? We share a life together.
But I guess you think that's "icky" so we should be in hiding just for people like you. Get over yourself.
2006-09-24 06:55:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 1⤋