I'm Bi, but didn't tell any1 but my best friend, who is Bi too...I am afraid that if ppl knew about it, espacially gurls...They wouldn't socialize with me since they are grossed-out that I might crush on them or whatever...So, is my thinking right? Should I just keep it 2 myself? Since the fact might make me rejected...And I won't crush on them...No thanks...PLEASE HELP!!!
2006-09-23 23:09:32 · 17 answers · asked by xXx H xXx 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I am a heterosexual woman and some of my best friends are lesbians or bi-sexuals. I think that they respect the fact that I am not interested in girls so they pretty much just treat me like a sister. Some of the ignorant few may well be afraid you will develop a crucsh on them but if you are straight forward and let them know all you want is friendship then you have done all you can do. If they will not socialize with you, what have you really lost. Just another closed minded simpleton who does not understand. It is no different to me than making a guy friend. Just because I make friends with one I do not automatically worry they want to have sex with me. You should never be ashamed of who you are. Why should you let anyone make you feel like less than a human for any reason?
2006-09-24 05:51:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
At first (before I came out) I used to feel awkward and very self-conscious around bisexual or lesbian women. I knew that they would be able to tell that I was into women too, so I preferred to not socialize with them. Now I am a lot more comfortable, even though I have not told many people I'm bi, but I feel better about it.
2006-09-24 12:10:46 · answer #2 · answered by utxicana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend like that and when she told people she was Bi most of her friends looked at her in a different light. She is still my friend and we still do everything together. I guess once you tell you will find out who is your real friends. I have know ideal why people do that. I mean it doesn't change who you are. Does it? I don't think so.
2006-09-24 02:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean i'm Bi and when i came out to my friends they where all like i hope you didn't eye me or something.But they where just friends i never even looked at the diffrent than friends.Now they ditch me.But i did make a realy good friend that is cool with it,we even do crazy things but it's no more than friendship and i don't fancy her.
2006-09-24 02:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your worries are completely unfounded.
Anyone who wont hang out with you because you are bi is a jerk. Why would you make yourself miserable to please a bunch of jerks? If they don't want to be friends with you anymore, great, you're better off far far away from people who rely on stereotypes, stupidity, and disrespect of others. It will free up your social calendar to find some nice stable accepting gay-friendly friends.
2006-09-24 03:55:59 · answer #5 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel wierd around other women, and I also out myself to everyone I meet almost. It seems like a lot of women are bi. You might find a possible partner. Besides, if someone has a problem with it, then it's their stupid problem. Do you honestly want to be around someone that would run away screaming "AHH! Dyke cooties!" if they found out that you like chicks too?
2006-09-24 03:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they are going to be paranoid around you if you tell them.
You may even lose a few of your friends who are homophobic, as well as risk rejection within your family, once it gets back to them.
Once you are living on your own, if you're not, and don't care what people think of you, then it will be okay to let everyone know.
2006-09-24 06:12:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been bi for most of forever, and my friends have never said anything negative. No one ever seems to assume I might be hitting on them, and they're comfortable changing clothes around me, etc.
2006-09-24 05:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, personally, I think it's none of their buisness. Even if you were dating a guy, what buisness is it of theirs. So why would it be any different if you were with a girl. There are just somethings a girl should keep to themselves. It's our devine right. Your best friend who also shares your feelings should be the only one you confide in. Do what you do girl!
2006-09-24 03:13:59 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends who you want for friends and who you want for acquaintances. Friends, real ones, are people who accept and appreciate you for who you genuinely are. Acquaintances are people you hang with sometimes and don't mean all that much to you and you don't mean all that much to them when it gets down to it. Share whatever you're comfortable sharing, but try not to confuse the type of relationship you have with these people. Oh, and people who are comfortable with themselves aren't afraid or judgmental of others that are different. In my view, they are the friends worth having in my life.
2006-09-24 04:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by Alex62 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋