I sometimes go out with friends and guys have hit on me but I would never stray but it just feels great and it turns me on to know that men desire me.How can I make my husband more interested in sex?
2006-09-23 22:33:14 · 22 answers · asked by poptrash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband is what he is. You can't make him taller, shorter, or more sexually active. Just as he can't make you blonder, thinner, heavier, or even more beautiful than you are. It certainly IS something that you two should discuss, but actually changing a basic aspect of any person is unlikely. Now, as for enjoying guys hitting on you. Don't be stupid. I WAS a single guy once. I often saw women "innocently" flirt with guys. Most of the time, eventually, those women cheated. Guys almost always hit on women that don't "act" attached. Assuming you want to remain married, knock off the going out with friends to flirt with other guys. Married people in clubs without their spouse IS a lousy way to be married.
2006-09-24 00:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband may have issues you have never considered. If your husband is not very interested in sex...it would stand to reason that either he has some issues that cause him to lose his errection...which may be physical, mental, or both! If he does have this problem, he would never tell you for it would be too embarrassing for him. Physical could be he has a prostate or colon problems. Other physical problem could be from too much alcohol....that destroys the sex drive in men! Most common physical problem is STRESS, if there is too much stress in his life, that would prohibit normal sexual arrousal. Mental could be that he masterbates alot and by the time you are available it is too late...Or if he views too much porn, even without masterbation...it may have twisted up his ideals for a normal healthy sex life with you. These factors could be issues for your mate...but you probably can not speak with him about them for
normally men do not do well communicating their own sexual issues. Unless they are bragging and those are usually exaggerated. My answer to you is that you know you are sexy,
and attractive, don't worry about all this any more! If you understand that you have been blessed with marriage, and understand that MARRIAGE IS A JOB FROM GOD; who is the boss, and the creator, surely He will have some happiness for you...If you are not a Christian...it is time to become one, if you are...it is time to become a better one...God said if you put Him first, He will give you the desires of your heart so long as they are His Will. One must live a holy life to expect God to entervien.
2006-09-24 01:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow the loaded question of all. My wife and I are kind of going though the same thing. I know for us it's because of the med's I take. I've been on them for nine years and they do affect my labido at times to the point where I just don't want to have sex. I have a beautiful wife. It's a problem you need to sit down and talk it out. If he becomes upset and can't deal with it then there is a bigger problem.
Like you said you go out and get hit on. Is he also going out and just getting to drunk? That could embarrass him and that's the prob.?
Strange as it may be the older we get the more it affects us. Anyone who tells you different is a f'ing, well we don't need to go there.
Good Luck.
B
2006-09-23 22:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by Brad B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm undecided what you propose by ability of organic orgasm and a well-known way...r u speaking vibrators right here? r u in discomfort on an identical time as having intercourse? cuz you may see a record on that prob. is it a discomfort discomfort? or a just about attaining orgasm and then going away discomfort? in case you have had formative years trauma perhaps you may see somebody to talk approximately it...perhaps your hormone point? i might make an appt with the record and be ordinary and tell him/her each thing!
2016-10-17 21:12:31 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to him then show him how you like the sex , everybody needs teaches maybe he can teach you what he likes-- its called communication and those guys hitting on you in the club, they want you for one reason and its not for cooking lessons especially if you are wearing your wedding ring, most guys hit on the married one knowing that they would not be there if they were really happy at home seen it too many times and tried it a few times with success
2006-09-23 22:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might be he is having some one better than you do or you have more expectations .. or ur chemistry with your hubby has just died....see what is the issue... before sex you have to make him interested in you... rest will follow.
2006-09-23 23:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seduce him - add a LOT of variety to your sex life - do it in unusual places (men like this), change your hair style - "re-invent" yourself from time to time. Also, ask your lady friends what they do - there are ways to deal with a man... ;)
2006-09-23 22:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by Paul H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he works before he gets home put red rose pedals every where leading to the room where you are going to have sex. wear your tightest and smallest outfit with no bra under and when he gets home, relax, sit somewhere in the room and when he walks in tell him to sit down then you stand up and lock the door on him stand by the door while getting undressed, then lay down tell him to get naked lay down with him have sex !!!!!! I have done it before and it works very well(men like women with big boobs)
2006-09-24 00:09:09 · answer #8 · answered by TheRealMileyCyrus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you can be alone with him ~ drop rose pedals from where he comes in leading to you in another location of the home ....wear your sexiest outfit and be waiting ......you should know what to do from there ! Good Luck !
2006-09-23 22:38:30 · answer #9 · answered by Jo Jo Gunn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to have a very open and honest conversation with your husband. he might have a medical problem or ?
talk to him. tell him how you feel. if he loves you he will want to make you feel loved and wanted
2006-09-23 22:37:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋