since my boyfriend and i have been seriously talking about marriage, we have been told and time and time again no to do it. we've been told that no matter how good things are now ( not married) things will take a turn for the worse. what has changed as far as your relationship with your spouse?
2006-09-23 22:07:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we already live together (8 mos.) we've known each other 6 years ahd have been dating 1 1/2 years.
2006-09-23 22:24:01 · update #1
There are only three things that destroy a great relationship by getting married--money, sex , communication-
money -- they say two can live cheaper than one-- sometimes this is not true spend wisely
sex -men gets so much sex any way possible until the guy says "I DO' then most girls say "I don't "- its not tonight dear I'm tired, headache, ect-
comm.--marriage is working to keep it together, in our daily lives sometimes it's easier to say nothing is on your mine and shut out your spouse , bad deal just keep comm. open and honest ---- good luck.... be married 8 years and it was touch and go a few times but all is well at the moment dated for 1 year knew her a year before that
2006-09-23 23:20:05 · answer #1 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So far, so good in my marriage. Nothing much has changed as my husband and I knew each other for quite some time before getting married. Realize that these people are telling u these things because they are speaking from THEIR experiences and it doesn't necessarily mean it's going to happen to u too.
Just remember that marriage is work and it takes both of u to be commited to each other 100% everyday, for the rest of your lives together, to make it last. So, don't let these people's words scare u into avoiding marriage altogether because your experience may not be the same as theirs.
2006-09-23 22:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
one of the reasons "marriage makes things worse" is because so many people wait so long to get married. When you've been living together for 5 or 6 years, you're basically married. Then some people expect to be in the honeymoon stage of their relationship because they just got married. When in reality, they passed that a couple of years ago. Marriage gets a little tougher around the 5 or 6 year mark for most people anyways. You just have to realize that any time spent playing house basically counts as time married. If you wanna get married, get married, to hell with what anyone else thinks anyways.
2006-09-23 22:17:41 · answer #3 · answered by K M 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Many marriages fail because one spouse often takes it for granted that it'll last forever and becomes bossy or stingy.
I like to think of marriage as two people walking hand in hand on two seperate but equal tight ropes. They are supporting each other, and both realize if one lets go, they both fall. As long as they remain best friends and lovers, they cherish all they have in each other.
You sound like you're both happy. There's no reason why marriage will not work for you. Just remember: You're both on the same team. Marriage must "complete" a couple, not "compete" them.
Wishing you much happiness.
2006-09-23 22:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage IS different than living together. Think of it as the difference between driving a rental car, and driving your own car. You take better care of your own. When I was single, I enjoyed being with and around numerous women. But, now that I'm married, I don't need anything else BUT, my wife. I could lose everything but my wife, and still be a rich man. Or, I could win a huge lottery, and have any material things in this world; but, if I lost my wife, I'd be a poor, unhappy person.
2006-09-24 00:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are married it is a commitment and a lot of give and take to make it work.You both have to want to make it work and trust each other and work together for common goals. ( 25 years experience). Good luck and don't let others tell you what to do, Check deep inside yourself and each other for the answer. Ask yourself can I see myself with this person 25 to 50 years from now. Physical things and attractions will change
2006-09-23 22:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by robug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no such a thing as a perfect relationship or marriage and as far as I'm concerned my relationship with my husband it's good we go to our UPS and down but we worked to our differences because we love each other and want the marriage to work.we've been married for 8 yrs now.
for any relationship to work both party have to want it to work as bad as the other one
2006-09-24 00:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by jolie minouche 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married life is what you and your mate make of it. If you are willing to devote yourself to the other and he must be willing to devote himself to you married life will be great.
If you both think your life as it is now will continue as it is you should not get married.
Marriage is for those who want to love each other forever till the end of time. Have children and support each other.
Don't listen to others. Talk to you boyfriend about today, tomorrow and 10 years from now. Talk about children. Talk about careers. Talk about where you want to live now and years from now. Make sure you both want about the same and or are willing to change for the other.
If you do this you will know if your marriage is going to work.
Don't listen to others listen to your heart and boyfriend.
2006-09-23 22:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by Mit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing has changed for us-- but we also lived together before we were married. If it is not against your religious beliefs I would probably suggest trying to live together first-- it is usually living together that causes problems as far as I can tell!
2006-09-23 22:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you see the other side of the person..... the tired side, the angry side, the crazy side. I would describe us as cubic box. Every side has a different angle. I am happy we got married, I love him so much that the more I know him, the more I love him.... but marraige is like everything sweet heart,,,,, it has it's ups,.... and its downs..... thats why the ceremony usually always says: For better and worse.
2006-09-23 22:11:27 · answer #10 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋