my bf and i have a daughter, been together for four years and we are night and day now. we don't talk anymore, spend much time together, he never hardly tells me i love u. i feel so lonely and desperate for help. what can i do to make things right?
2006-09-23 21:22:23 · 11 answers · asked by kelley h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can breathe new life into a relationship, but someone has to be the first to try. It sounds like you've grown apart and that is too bad. If you want to keep your family together try and plan some things for just the 2 of you...maybe a night out to dinner and a movie? Even a nice romantic dinner at home and get a babysitter. He would probably be shocked and happy, too. It's a place to start and see how he reacts. You've got to start talking to each other again. A relationship will fall apart without communication. There is so much stress in our daily lives that we tend to get in a rut.Talk to him about some of your happiest memories together, laugh a little and tell him you miss spending quality time together. If the love is still there he'll be willing to work at it too.There's always counseling but I know some men are funny about that. You owe it to yourself and your son to try and get back into a loving,happy life together.If you make the effort, I bet he'll get on board and try as well. I wish you the best.
2006-09-23 22:13:04 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need alone time.
Get a babysitter if possible a set a date night at least once or twice a month.Quality time is very important in a relationship.
If that isn't possible find something you both enjoy doing
that you can do when the little one is in bed.
I would also tell him how you are feeling,it's very possible he is feeling the same way as you.Communication is the key to a healthy relationship.
I hope everything works out for you two.
2006-09-24 04:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by kandn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dates. Hire a baby sitter and do something fun. REmember why you got together int he first place. Oh yeah...this is one of the problems with having a child out of wedlock. There's no relationship to start with. Why would there be a relationship four years down the road?
2006-09-24 04:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship has its ups and downs. There is no secret ingredient in keeping a relationship healthy. All you can do is give it your best to work things out. Communicate with your partner and take some time out to spend with each other.
2006-09-24 04:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by Meeya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years together and now become like that, what a sad news !Have u ever think back whats the problem between both of you?have you ever really sit down and talk over the problem between you two with him ?Maybe find a relative or friend that know both of you well to help !
2006-09-24 04:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,am George from a small town of Greece.(ill excuse me for my English).well,me n' my girlfriend r together 6 years now.Weber through a lot of difficult things.we broke up several times,although still love each-other.your problem is his to!don't bl aim yourself.u have a kid now,grow up both of u!!go out,go on a trip,start over,(how)?arrange a date and pretend that u 2 meet for a first time.take care n' good luck.email me when u feel like
2006-09-24 05:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by gyairman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look kelly just call him up and talk to him u know flirt a little tell him u love jim and just ask him like how was his day, when can ya'll hang out and just things like that.
2006-09-24 04:24:58 · answer #7 · answered by mcwhiteboy6775 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two need to go out and date again! go to the movies, go out to eat, dance, have fun! you ought to suprise him one day!...... jump out the closet (naked) and attack him (sexually) like you are about to die if you dont have sex.
there is a book that is very informative called " HOW TO STOP THE OTHER WOMAN FROM STEALING YOUR MAN" IT IS A VERY GOOD BOOK THAT WOULD HELP YOU ALOT. OH AND THE AUTHOR'S NAME IS LOUIS GREENUP. GOOD LUCK SWEETIE!
2006-09-24 04:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by DUSTY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first try to understand the problem, why is it so, call him if he listen to you, talk to him ask him why, embark on research to know the problem, if the problem is known the solution will be right there.
2006-09-24 04:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by Sir Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bf and have a child.. your relationship is bore right know.. find new things
2006-09-24 04:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by severler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋