sex with your life partner for whatever reason maybe your just feeling like your depressed and you don't want sex anymore in your life? I feel this way now and i am 50.
2006-09-23 21:16:57 · 13 answers · asked by ohio_angell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel you are entitled to do what you want with your body. If you don't want to do anything with your partner then they need to respect that. Allot of people say what about the other person...well the other person should still be able to love you without having to have sex. Maybe you will come outta this slump and be doing it like crazy. But if you feel this will never end then you might wanna think about letting your partner go. If they feel sex is very important and can not go without then you might have to let them go...or have an open relationship...which has more problems then answers. But by all means your body is OURS and do what you feel is right for you, having sex just because someone else wants it is no fun for either person!
2006-09-24 05:00:25 · answer #1 · answered by tweedy778 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now there is a big difference between "Not tonight honey, I have a headache", and I never want to have sex again. Unless there is a medical condition that is making sex difficult for you- (and yes, depression is a treatable condition) it is not really plausible for someone to agree to a sexless life. If you are married you have entered into a monogamous union and have asked that each of you look to no one else for sexual release, stimulation, or gratification. So yes, on some level your partner has a right for some needs to be met. You have to ask if your partner is the problem here. Has this person kept themselves up to the point where they are attractive... do they feed the other areas of need in your life that would make them attractive to you??? Depending on how long you have been together this could be quite a blow. If you are flat out not interested in sex but hope to remain with this person, you had best not be surprised when you catch your partner looking for attention elsewhere. Sex three times a day may not be what you want but I would hope you could deal with once a month, or at least occasional lesser forms of sex play... one could only hope.
2006-09-24 06:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is it because your depressed??? because that can be fixed..you husband is probably sitting back wondering what the hell is wrong with him..this is a problem that the two of you need to sort out together..you might not feel like you want to have sex anymore and sure it's your right to refuse him... but don't you feel like your being unfair to him??? this could ruin your relationship...do you want that?? go see your GP maybe something could be done about this. you at least owe that much to hubby...good luck with it all !
2006-09-24 04:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by billy_babe_22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go see a medical doctor first, if there's nothing wrong physically, then go see a Psych, if there's no depression, then it's ok to stop having sex. Depression is a dangerous condition that is easily treatable.
2006-09-24 05:07:26 · answer #4 · answered by Drgeeforce 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, that makes two of us ! She turns me off so now , I'll need to look elsewhere ! I'm 50 also, .....you'll get over the no sex thing once you feel better about yourself and someone comes along and strikes your fancy ! ENJOY !!!
2006-09-24 04:44:11 · answer #5 · answered by Jo Jo Gunn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you are being more than a little selfish! Plus, I've been told that a lack of sex WILL cause blindness... So, if not for yourself, think of your partner...
2006-09-24 04:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by Desiderata of Happiness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea but what about him. If you aren't there for him anymore and he still wants sex would you feel bad if he went elsewhere for it?
2006-09-24 04:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by dharmabear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the right.... just don't tell him that... say ur not in the mood...or maybe do it on ocation... but... don't say that... or else what the other person said could be what happends. Get some therapy for it.
2006-09-24 04:24:43 · answer #8 · answered by SunRise 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you has the right,but it's bad for your relationship unless you are willing to share your partner with someone else.Talk to your doctor about this problem.
2006-09-24 08:56:24 · answer #9 · answered by ladybug 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but be prepared for him being dissatified and he might go outside for sex.
2006-09-24 14:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋