I have a wonderful husband of 20 years. We have never had any marriage problems and love each other very much. We have 4 great kids. Here is my issue, I have thoughts about someone I met several years ago. I can't get him off my mind. No matter how hard I try, I think about him all the time. I have no contact with this man at all. Nothing sexual ever happened between us, not even a hint of anything like that ever occured. I just cant seem to help my thoughts. Any clue what to do to get over this guy. He lives in another state, so it's not like I'm tempted to see him or even call him for that matter.
2006-09-23 21:13:50 · 6 answers · asked by together420yrs 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Thoughts are harmless. It means you are still alive and kicking. You also have learned to live with the old saying. " The grass looks greener on the other side of the fence", So when your thoughts stray and you get a funny smile on your face. Hubby will think you are just remembering a moment with him.
2006-09-23 21:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by darscoind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have some kind of admiration for the person. Just take your husband in confidence. If he does not feel jealous then both of you can invite him for a chat and make him your family friend. But this entails danger as any propinquity might endanger your family life.Your best bet is to forget him. After all you have a wonderful husband and four great kids!
2006-09-24 04:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes this man so special that you keep thinking about him ? maybe you should figure that out first since you seem very happy with the man you are with . Was there something about him that you have never found in you husband? I am not meaning to be insulting so please dont take it that way just voicing some questions you may ask yourself and if you answer those maybe you can get this man out of your mind
2006-09-24 04:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by Tears30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is often happan to us that we miss someone just because he or she reminds us of some aspect we loved about our life and that was gone or lost. You said it yourself you can't contact him and you love your husband so perhaps its something else about him: the time n your life the way you were back then or the way he saw you - if you want busy yourself feeling guilty about it it will soon pass or else ask yourself what do you really miss about him and try to achieve it in your current place as well. success.
2006-09-24 04:32:56 · answer #4 · answered by thinker bell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone has someone like that. That's what country songs are for! lol. Best to just close that chapter of your life. You're only curious because of "not knowing" or of closure.
If something was meant to happen between you two, it would have happened long ago. So be glad you're blessed.
That's my two cents.
2006-09-24 04:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by HowlnWoof 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not succumb to your temptations...
2006-09-24 11:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋