its in a room!!we've been dating for a month going on our second and i dont think a room is an ideal place for us to be alone.he's pissed and is making me feel bad but i dont want to be left alone with him.should i just go along with it and trust he wont hurt me?or risk losing him?
2006-09-23 20:19:19 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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2006-09-23 20:21:36 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have doubts that "he won't hurt you" then trust your gut and don't go! I also can guarantee that his goal during that date is to get some, which it obviously sounds like you're not ready to do, so I suggest you just cancel that date and save you both the frustration and potential dangerous situation.
For some reason I doubt you're 18, or maybe you're just a little young/naive for your age, but some advice. Older men date younger girls because they think the girls will be easy to persuade to do whatver they want, and what they want is sex without the troubles of a mature relationship.
Also if this is your second date in 1 month and he wants to meet you at the motel, it is pretty clear that he just wants you for a easy lay, do yourself a favor and consider a different boyfriend, maybe someone your age.
2006-09-24 03:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by Lady G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you first, do you really love him? Love is all about trust and open communication. Why don’t you ask him in the first place, why he wants to set a date in a room. If he respects your decision and he’s willing to wait for the right time, he is really into you. I mean even a guy who loves you and told you that just because he can’t control that feeling maybe tell him that you’re not ready for that kind of a date. If he can’t wait, just leave him he just wants your body.
2006-09-24 03:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by herzae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm old and you're young. I know things have changed but 20 years ago a guy would ask a girl to go out and she would say yes or no.
If he can't hear you say "no" about where you are going on the date, I don't think he'll hear "no" any better in the room that he sets up.
I've got 2 daughters that are in college. My recommendation to them would be to let me ask him why he thinks they need the room.
Good luck.
Be good.
2006-09-24 03:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by imnogeniusbutt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him.
If he's pissed off because you won't go to a hotel room with him, obviously he's only interested in one thing and doesn't respect you at all.
There are plenty of very nice, attractive, smart young men that will respect your feelings and not pressure you into doing things that you don't feel comfortable doing.
2006-09-24 03:37:57 · answer #5 · answered by Ria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your refusal to get a room with him might result in him leaving, you're in the wrong relationship with the wrong guy. Any guy who doesn't respect his gf enough to care about her feelings like this is not worth spending ANY more time with. Get rid of him.
2006-09-24 03:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know what he wants. He wants to get your goodies.
Lose this guy. You don't need the pressure to do something you are not ready to.
Stay away from the older guys till you are in your mid-twenties.
Experience learned me that.
2006-09-24 03:22:00 · answer #7 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, if you have any question in your mind that he might "hurt you", you shouldn't be dating him in the first place. What do mean "trust that he won't hurt you"? You are obviously in an abusive relationship--ONE OF MANY, I suspect.
2006-09-24 03:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a room ??? He loves you as the way you are or he love your body ??? Ask yourself. Losing him ? Hello, in this world we have a thousand of men, he is not a unique guy !
2006-09-24 03:24:02 · answer #9 · answered by Ngoc L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your number 1 priority should be your safety, second of all guys come and go so dont worry about that. its better to be safe then sorry :)
2006-09-24 03:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by rk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm thats a hard one i say go with what feels the best and if he dont respect that then you dont need him anyways you always need respect in a relationship
2006-09-24 03:23:56 · answer #11 · answered by Monica J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋