My girlfriend recently had a miscarriage and being in a long distence relationship I don't know what to do. Now she told me that we need a break. After it happened she's been real quite, putting the blame all on herself. What are some things I can do to try and help her cope with the loss and get her to talk to me again?
2006-09-23 20:17:57 · 7 answers · asked by nuckles 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I lost a baby in January, and it is a grieving period. Research some sites that may help you learn to handle it. Women deal with things differently just because we have more emotions and hormones. I was really hormomal , crying and upset for the first week. I have attached a link that you can look at and may send to her but be careful doing that. Just be supportive as you can, shes the one that has to learn to handle but whatever you do acknowledge that there was a baby and it will be easier to handle. The one thing she doesn't need to hear right now, I know that people mean the best when they say it butits hard to hear is " Its just not the right time" or "Theres a reason for everything" or "God knew there was something wrong with it" none of these phrases help . Here is the link...hope I was some help or insight you can message me if you need more or have more questions about it.
2006-09-23 21:13:39 · answer #1 · answered by poohgrl79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a little room but always let her know that you are there for her whenever she is ready. I had a miscarriage 23 years ago and it took a long time to get over it. Send her flowers and cards about once or twice a week just to show her that you care about her. She will get better in her own time and if you feel she is not getting better you should suggest getting grief counseling for the two of you.
2006-09-23 20:28:37 · answer #2 · answered by unforgettable_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so sorry to hear of both of your loss. let her know you will always be there for her no matter what. if she does need a break, maybe just give her a little one.
when yous both feel comftable talk about making a family again, this may make her feel better. 25% of pregnancies result in a misscarriage.
2006-09-23 20:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by huney_mumi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was it yours? i would say that there might be something going on and that you should take the cue to back off. maybe just maybe she's been fooling around and this was the easiest way to break it off with you without telling you it's yours or not.....long distances doesn't usually work out so i'd go find someone closer in distance to you.
2006-09-23 20:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to deal with a miscarriage ,she needs time and space from you ,its a shame you cant be their physically ,can you? it would help .its normal for her to blame her self but it happens more than people realise ,its not her fault .you just need to be understanding and patient.
2006-09-23 20:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her some space may be best. Since she was pregnant by you and you are long distance then that may be best. If she needs you she'll let you know.
2006-09-23 20:25:04 · answer #6 · answered by Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure she misscarried?if she had an abortion or never was pregnant ,then this is her way of goodbye
2006-09-23 20:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by dumplingmuffin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋