My other question was about falling in love with her, but now..she says that when I come to see her next week, She's going to give me my first kiss from a girl. I'm nervous about it sure..but kissing is a huge turn on for me...what if she kisses me and that happens? I mean, it's no different from kissing a guy, right? And if this does happen..should I just go with the flow of things and go on with my 'first time'? I know that gay relationships are just like straight relationships...but do morales count the same? I know..I'm not making sense anymore. I'm just getting anxious about my first kiss from a girl. This is about 5 years in the making. No criticism, please.
2006-09-23 20:06:20 · 13 answers · asked by LetosGurl85 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think its a lot different than kissing a guy. It is softer and more gentle and the build up is mutual. You are the same and therein lies the beauty of the experience. You can choose to have a relationship if you want. There is no have to. So my advice is go ahead and don't think about anything other than the two of you in that moment. You will not be hurting anyone and you will not be hurting yourselves. Free your mind and let the experience be what it will be. If you clear your mind of all the analytical thinking and the crappy advice you are getting from anti gay people, you will be opening yourself to an opportunity to earnestly experience something significant and meaningful.. If it does not work out that way for you, then at least you would have tried something new and different and not denied yourself the experience; you will be no worse off = you will be better off, because you checked it out.
SO go and be free - you have one life to live and do it as you please. The judgment of others is irrelevant and meaningless.
Keep up with the real and good questions.
ALSO: Being experimental does not define your sexuality. To be with a person of the same sex does not mean you are gay. You do not need a label, unless you want one. Often people like having the label and choose to define their sexuality and that simply means they know exactly where they are at and they are comfortable with it.
MDH
2006-09-23 20:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by meldorhan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your morals count. I will not bore you with dogmatic bible slander (I'm a Christian).
I can give you plenty of Biblical proof that this is wrong...
BUT
I could also actually give you just as much saying it's not wrong...so bible thumpers need not reply ;)
I will tell you this...sexual arousal is something both sexs share...when you are aroused you will prolly do anything (not a pun). As a male I have had attraction to other males...strong attraction...some would say that I'm Bi-sexual and I am currently denying my true nature.
I say that sexual "perversion" is a natural state of being human and is a primal desire. Sexual pleasure is just that and if you can get it from the same sex you will do it...and defend that by saying it is "Natural so it's right" this is not correct...
I say that sexual "playfulness" is something we ALL have...as a matter of self control I do not act on those urges...I do not prescribe to the notion of it.
So what is my point? If you want to kiss this girl then go for it. Don't make it more than it is though. You will feel attraction for her...but again...if I was passionately kissing a guy I would be aroused to...
All I can really tell you...is go with what you believe is right. That's all I can really say. If you feel it is wrong...then don't...I can't give you any solid backing for that...I can defend it...I wish..as a bible believer I could give you a better answer.
2006-09-24 03:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by dogshark2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it'd depend on how you felt bout the kiss. If you don't like it, obviously you'd be turned off. If she doesn't know how to kiss @ all, obviously you're not really gonna like it either. I haven't read your other Q btw. Prob shoulda read that first. If you like it then there's nothing wrong w/ going w/ the flow. I'm gonna read your last Q. Oh & I think that yes, kissing her may want you want more. If you decide that it's wrong or have any negative feellings, don't feel obligated to continue the kiss. Just stop & tell her that you're sorry but you just can't go on w/ it. Kissing a girl is diff't than kissing a guy. Doing sexual stuff is obviously diff't lol. However, if you're gonna have a rel w/ her, it may be really hard for you to come outta the closet. I have a cuz who goes out w/ girls & had a rel w/ a girl for 4 yrs. I've even seen her. I wish you all the best. :)
2006-09-24 03:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I got my first lesbian kiss about 5 minutes before I lost my virginity to the same person, so it can happen. I would say just go with the flow. Also, you might want to think about what you want in your relationship with her and what those wonderful "other things" might do to your relationship. If you don't want to take it further than kissing, a public place *with people around* *might* prevent things from progressing further than kissing. Oh, and yes. Morals still count. If you're into that whole "no sex 'til marriage" thing, same-sex sex still counts as sex.
2006-09-24 10:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that she is one great kisser because by the time the moment gets here you are going to be so hyped about it that it may fall short of your expectations. When the time comes go slow, don't rush it, let it happen on its own. I don't know about kissing guys because i am straight but i think kissing a woman is far superior. The first of anything is always the best! Maybe it will lead to a couple other firsts! Wink. Wink.
2006-09-24 03:15:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I'm attracted to the girl then i can't help but want more after kissing her. Go with the flow hunny but make sure she wants to as well. Try to calm down and relax. oh and by the way girls kiss way better than guys 99% of the time so enjoy hunny!!
2006-09-24 03:22:59 · answer #6 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think kissing someone in general can lead you into wanting more. i know when i had my first kiss from a guy (im a girl though) that i couldnt stop thinking about him and it lead me to wanting more from that. i got soo nervous the next time i saw him because the first time i saw him i felt more comfortable because i had been in between being tipsy and drunk while he was more drunk, and i contemplated if i should kiss him throughout the night, and it was only when i was going home because my dad had got there that i decided to kiss him (after i gave him a hug but unfortunately for people watching that wasnt good enough), and even though the kiss itself was bad, even after he kissed me after that, i still wanted more. i wish i had his number because we'd be talking to each other as much as we possibly could. the kiss from a guy was five years in the making too. i always wanted a kiss from a guy ever since i entered high school, and i only got my first kiss just after i finished high school, but at the same time, im glad i got a first kiss from a guy because it not only raised my self-esteem but it also made it clear to people that im not a dyke and that it is possible for me to get a boyfriend.
2006-09-24 03:16:38 · answer #7 · answered by kristyb872001 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well when i first started seeing my g/f we kissed alot! The answer to your question is yes-it will make you want more if you really like her!
2006-09-24 12:43:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that gay relationships are just like straight relationships...
this statement is completely wrong - out of place ahhhhhh you pervert girl
2006-09-24 03:15:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just relax, enjoy...you don't have to do anything you don't want to do...you have the power to say no at any point....just let it happen as long as your comfortable.
2006-09-24 03:09:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋