How long have you gone with out having sex with your husband and why? Kids? Not attracted to him? Affair?? Would you divorce him if you were "finacially well fit" in your marriage? Would you stay because of money??? would you have an affair??
2006-09-23 19:36:53 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been married for seven years. We have gone up to three weeks without having sex. Not because of him, but me. I feel like he is still a child. He doesn't spend any time with our kids, he tries to buy my affection. I have tried talking to him, telling him I would just love to spend a romantic night together. We just end up arguing. Yes, I just started cheating on him with someone who loves to spend time with me and my kids.
2006-09-24 07:54:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I'm not married yet but, if i were not having sex with my husband or boyfriend it would be maybe because i was not physically attracted to him anymore i guess or didn't love him anymore which i think to me would be about the same thing. No matter what he looked like if i loved him i think i would be physically attracted to him. So i think that is the only reason. No id not stay because of money. An affair, hm mm probably never do that.
2006-09-23 20:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by sammy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a very stressful time in our relationship. He hasn't worked for almost a year and I have been working full time. He's not a very good "wife" at least, not as good as I am. Sometimes we go 2 weeks or more without sex. I am just NOT in the mood. I'm tired. And also, if the only time he spends with me is having sex, then no thanks.
If we ever won the lottery....I'd take my half of the $$ and the kids and leave.
I would never have an affair! I will never be accused of being an adulterer!
2006-09-23 19:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by katie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
marriage counseling would be the first step.having an affair is not the thing to do. when i was younger, i use to get a thrill out having affairs and dating married men. it was so exciting, knowing i was with another womens man.... it was breath taking....then i became married, and my husband cheated on me. i was so hurt, I was devestaded. I could not get over his affair.... something i had done so many times and felt so comfortable with I could not handle when it happened back. money is a good reason to stay.. but you have to also remember, if your not having sex with your husband that me may stray and cheat.. and if you wont have sex with your husband then you should not be looking elsewhere for it.
2006-09-23 19:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have gone for long periods of time without having sex with my partner of 18 years. I have never cheated and to my knowledge nor has he but men seem to think that they can ignore you for weeks on end and then you will come running when they fancy a bit!! I put a stop to that happening and made my partner pay me attention out of bed before I gave him attention in bed.
With regards to another of your questions, if it were just me and no kids involved I would not stay for the money. However, financial stability is a big thing if you do have kids.
2006-09-23 19:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by tiz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not married but the only reason i would ever leave my husband would have to be if he chaeated on me and if he abuses me. Will I have an affair? If i have kids, i dont think i would subject my kids to that. It would be tragic for them. If i was financially able. But then again, i might fall in love with a great guy and fall out of love with my husband...so that could be a tough thing to decide on....I dont know....
2006-09-23 19:42:11 · answer #6 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I haven't had sex for about a month because he is emotionally abusive. I don't feel like having sex with someone who treats me the way he does. And btw, I'm not financially fit to end this marriage, but I'm still leaving him with the help of a family shelter I found in my city. Wish me luck!
2006-09-23 19:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie! 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Because when my husband was alive he couldn't have sex because of his medications. We were married for only 10 1/2 months when he passed because of a heart attack. I never dreamed of cheating on him. Sex was not important enough to me to do that. He was a miserable man in the beginning of our marriage. I had every right I could think of to do that to him the way he treated me at first. But you people it wasn't him I would of be doing that too, it was me. So because of self respect I never even thought about cheating on him. As time went on he became the perfect husband. And still no sex. We never had sex the whole time we were married. I didn't miss it, because he gave me so much more than sex in our marriage. I married him for better or worse and in sickness and health. I still love him to this day, and I feel blessed that I had 10 and 1/2 months with him. I could of left, I did have the financial means to do that. But I just couldn't do that to him or myself. I had made a commitment and I stuck to it. I do not regret it one bit. He turned out to be so awesome and I would of missed that.
For those of you who think that you have reasons to cheat on your mate, please think about. It is really you that you are cheating. If your marriage is that bad then please respect yourself enough to get a divorce.
Good Bless and Good luck
2006-09-23 19:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That actually happened to me. I found out that he was cheatting on me, I found some pictures of him and the other girl hugging really close, I didin't tell him right away,about those pictures and that he was cheatting on me CAUSE I KNEW it wasn't the time I had to be with him, because I didin't had any where to go, no job, no money . So I stayed with him for three months, and that made me stop wanting to be with him in bed. It was really hard for me cause I stilled loved him, and he didint knew that I had seen those pictures, after a while I got a job,got his money, and got out of his life. And now I am doing GREAT! If they use you, you can use them too.
2006-09-23 19:54:09 · answer #9 · answered by ani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I lost respect for him as a man as well as my husband ; I would stop having marital relations with him. How could I respect myself if I used it as an excuse to have an affair. I made a "VOW" and I take it seriously. For better or worse...
2006-09-24 01:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋