In an abusive,dangerous marriage with no options. Best cities for homeless/indigent formerly abused women?

Question

I have no job, no money and I suffer from several chronic health issues that I take medications for. Women's shelters only keep you for about a month and expect you to be able to find a job, ASAP, clean, cook, etc or get kicked out. I have no living/non-abusive family, all of my friends are either financially stressed with full homes already, or battling addictions that I’ve gotten a hold of. I’ve resigned myself to the fact that homelessness is my only option other than staying until he kills me. I remember seeing on TV about a year ago that Palo Alto, Calif. had become a haven for the homeless in America. Its weather is mild and groups come around to give street people food/water/toiletries on occasion. It was also considered safer for homeless women. Does anyone know if this is still true? Also does anyone know if there are other places in the US that are similar where life on the streets would be less harsh perhaps? I can get a bus ticket from the Salvation Army.

"Alpo" and the name suits him. Has some serious issues far beyond anything me or my man are dealing with (LOL). He needs to seek counseling. In the meantime he's been reported for his hate filled, anti-female online tantrum.

So Sorry everyone for the post above. It was a cut and past from something else.Thank you so much for your input so far.

Answer 1

The first thing you need to do is file a restraining order on your husband. Once that's taken care of, he'll be "escorted" out of the house. This will solve part of your problem without you being homeless. When you go before the Judge, they will ask you if you want a divorce, answer honestly. Abusive men DO NOT GET BETTER !!! Find out if you live in an alimony state, if so file for that with the divorce. If you have children, file for support, and go to your local Human Services dept. and apply for TANF. This will help with some of your financial trouble. While all of this in progress, try to find some sort of employment. Anything will help at this point. Homelessness is nothing to take lightly. Once you get to that point, often there's no return. Let the courts fight this battle for you. Chin up sweetie, I've been where you are now, you have options. Don't go down without a fight. If you've never called the police when he gets abusive, do so. What ever you do.........DO NOT STRIKE, PUSH, OR EVEN TOUCH HIM when he starts it. When the police get there, their going to ask you if you did, the correct answer is, "no, i did not touch him at all". Cover yourself and make sure that you can answer them honestly. Lastly, document EVERYTHING !! Keep it in a safe place, when you go to court have everything with you including police reports. Paper trails are your best evidence. Good luck !!

Answer 2

In the past, most marriages actually depended on both partners to contribute economically. The woman's input, whether on the family farm, or the family business, was vital to the economic survival of the family. It is only in comparatively recent times that the model of husband going out to work, wife staying at home, became regarded as the social norm. And even during this period, many married women had to work, whether they liked it or not. Your grandmother might have found it a bit of a struggle raising nine children on her own, even with a job. Who would have taken care of them all while she was at work? And would she really have been able to earn enough to support nine kids? I don't know when your grandmother lived, but in every age there have been women who have had to work for a living, and there would have been women of your grandmother's generation who were struggling to support families on what they could earn. Marriage is about more than economic survival anyway. How would your grandma's nine children have felt about the divorce? Would they really have been happy without a father? If a woman has children the she SHOULD be worried about getting a divorce, even if she does have a job. Casting aside your children's father won't necessarily be the best thing you can do for the family. Also, when marriages end, it isn't always the woman who ends them. Sometimes men leave their wives, go off with other women etc. And the woman who is left isn't always happy about that. This may come as a shock to you, but some women actually like being married, and even like their husbands, and this was true in the past as well as the present.

Answer 3

I don't think life on the streets anywhere is going to be easy. Do your chronic health issues prevent you from being able to seek and hold a job, clean, cook, etc. in order to remain in a shelter longer than a month? It would be easier on you, physically and emotionally to cook and clean than to eke out an existence on the streets of Anytown, USA. Good luck to you, and God Bless. Definitely get out before it's too late.

Answer 4

you need to fine a man that LOVES you .there is always a option as long as you are alive, you are a woman!!! try and get a work first and formost, ( Wash, cook,babysit etc.) save up somemoney and try and get some more education and find a good job later. don't let depression get you down, with GOD on your side anything is possible. pray !!! just like how you can go on the net and ask questions you can also do research about shelters for yourself. Street people do get rape I wouldn't like for that to happen to you so please get the info and get off the road.... If i were in the the US I would try my best to help you..

Answer 5

I know you don't think much of the family shelters, but you need to give them a try. Maybe they will help you find a place so you won't have to be homeless. Atleast give it a try.

I am going to a family shelter in the morning to get away from my abusive husband. I have a 12 month old baby. Her first birthday is tomorrow, well, it's gonna be considered our indepedence day!

Please get out! YOU DO NOT DESERVE TO BE ABUSED OR HOMELESS!

Answer 6

Call Life Line or another place called The Eye... I know both are in San Diego county. Get a restraining order and Call Life line... there are alot of places you can go. Especially here in Calif.

Answer 7

Dang, I hope someone on here has an answer for you. I wish I could help but I wouldn't know what to tell you. I would think homeless would be preferable to death. Best of luck to you & I hope it works out for you.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

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Answer 10

Tombstone or Bisbee Arizona. Small towns, no crime...friendly helpful people. If you really need help contact wkdpixy@yahoo. I have many connections there.