My son is 15 yrs old and he is sort of interested in girls and I've told him that girls don't like smelly boys. I've also asked him if he "feels better" being clean. He says it doesn't make a difference to him. I don't understand this and I don't know what else to do. Help!
(Sometimes he smells so bad that I can't stand having him in the car with me unless the windows are rolled down. I have a very sensative nose!)
2006-09-23 18:52:08 · 29 answers · asked by katie 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
hm..maybe you can work more on the 'girls dont like smelly boys' technique...or maybe you can tell him straightout that people will start avoiding him or people wont like hanging out with him if he's too smelly.
i have a friend who had the same smelly dilemma (but not because he refused to take a shower). anyway, we told him that people were starting to really get uncomfortable talking to him because of the smell. we tried to break it to him without hurting his feelings and pretty soon he's smelling good again :)
2006-09-23 19:01:48 · answer #1 · answered by tralala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stay persistent. As his mother its your responsibility to teach him good hygiene skills and it should never have gotten to the point that he actually smells bad. Make it a rule that every one be showered and freshened up before you sit down to eat your evening meal. Buy him a men's shower gel or shower soap as an incentive as maybe he thinks the soap you buy is too "girly". Maybe he doesn't feel safe from intruders in the shower, make sure he can lock the door to get some privacy or put up a sign on the door that he can use to announce he is taking a shower. Make sure you teach him to wash his clothes or maybe you dont mind washing them for him but wearing clean clothes everyday will help with the smell, if he has gotten in to the habit of wearing the same clothes a few days in a row they will start to really smell... Hope this helps.
2006-09-24 05:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he don't start showering daily you are going to throw him in the shower and not let him out until he learns to bath. That is just sick and no one should be forced to sit in a class room or anywhere else with him having some major B.O. Issues. He is way too old for that and he should know better. Start revoking privileges from him. Don't allow him in your car neither. He will learn if he wants a ride he will have to shower.
I would make him get in the shower. My sons shower daily I would never allow them not to shower. Plus that could cause other health problems such as infections and such.
2006-09-24 01:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by deadly_rose_04 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hygene is the question here.. If he doesnt have good hygene and he smells at school, then you will sooner or later have Child Protective Services knocking at your door. An un bathed child, no matter HOW OLD, is considered neglected. Even if he is old enough to wash and bath himself.
Tell him no more work outs, play no more anything unless he is CLEAN, this means that when he comes out of the bathroom he either SMELLS clean or you can have his dad wash him.
2006-09-24 02:07:03 · answer #4 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband better MAKE him clean up. If all else faile, embarass the heck out of him - get in your bathing suit or shorts and a top and get yourself in the shower with him, and YOU wash him (he stays in gauch). Say you are going to do this every day if he won't do it himself like a MAN. That should work! He needs to have some pride in himself.
2006-09-24 07:42:47 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaha, how do I make my 24 year old fiance take a shower on a regular basis? Bribe him with sex. Ah, yea unless your son is ugly (since teenage girls don't care about anything except looks) and there's no hope for him until he's in his 20s keep telling him girls will like him more if he's clean.
2006-09-24 03:26:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He will jus relaize it when he starts to mature and socialize with other people. If she asks you why the girls don't like him, just answer indirectly that its all because he does not practice good hygiene. Indirect way of telling him is a choice where you cant hurt your sons feelings, so I suggest that let him realize it by himself until he grows up and asks you that question.
2006-09-24 05:09:08 · answer #7 · answered by entrepreneur_boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So weak. A 15 year old kid that has mommy not knowing what to do. You beat his *** and put him in the shower. No options, no discussions, don't act a simp and ask him, tell him. If you don't even get that much respect from him, your probably too late, once again a kid probably heading down the wrong path because of unfit parents. Sorry, I have sisters that are unfit parents, your not alone. If there isn't a dad around hasn't he got a uncle to explain the hygiene thing to him?
2006-09-24 05:09:28 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Know 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
well, he's 15 and not really worried about his hygiene yet, but There might be a day when he really likes someone and they tell him or hint to him something about it. Especially when he is getting more interested in girls. He might have to find out from a certain someone.
2006-09-24 10:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by Summers G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Refuse to drive him anywhere. My step-kids are both the same way. I think they don't know what deodorant is! My step-daughter wanted a ride to a job interview and I told her that she needed to take a shower and change first. She asked me why. I asked her if she went to her other job interviews smelling like BO. I told her flat out that's why she wasn't being hired.
2006-09-24 01:56:14 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋