Ok my best friend came and told me that He was homosexual. I was proud of him coming to me and actually comingout But then he said something that really Confused me he Siad "I dont want to be gay I wnat to be striaght"
I didnt know what to say I feel like because of how society make the homosexual lifestyle more and more people when coming out resent or dont even want to come out But isnt it better just to express how you feel? Then repressing it?
When many religious folks (sorry if that offended anyone) say that religion is a choice its sin and that you can change your ways and become straight Hows is that possible? How can a gay person just have feeling for a someone of the opposite sex? Wouldnt that be decieving? I dont know If I can give the answers to my friend what should I do?
2006-09-23 18:42:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You are on your way by asking some very good questions. But, you need to change some things about yourself. There is no homosexual lifestyle. Lifestyle implies choice and there is no choice when it comes to being homosexual.
Second, I am a gay man and I love many women. I just don't want to have sex with them. I can and have had sex with women, I just thought about guys when I did it. Sorry for the Public Service Message, but it has to be told for the others that will answer this question.
Denying your homosexuality, living a heterosexual one and marrying and having kids can be done. But it is a lie. Too often these families grow dysfunctional and unable to love. It effects the lives of generations of people through the children and grandchildren. So yes, living the heterosexual lie is possible, but it is still a lie and it is wrong.
You should keep doing what you are doing. Supporting your friend. That is all that can be asked of you. Thanks for caring.
2006-09-23 19:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by kiz_ma_az 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just listen to him. It is a hard adjustment because it isn't something you plan. Hell, men have a hard enough time realizing they are going to be bald. Sciety as a whole is still pretty unaccepting of the GLTG lifestyle. Many families turn against us. So coming out is a challenge. People want a 'normal' life.
I knew a long time ago that I would never get married but I still look at wedding scenes in a movie and get a little sad. People want to be 'normal'. Especially when they are teenagers. Personally if I had a choice i would be straight. Life would be easier. I don't know how other people feel. My life is complicated enough with the other **** life handed me. But I yam what I yam and I have to accept that or go crazier. He will to at some point. For now just be his friend.
2006-09-23 18:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by Justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great to see that you're supportive of your friend and accepting of his sexuality. Listen to him and be there for him. Talk him through his issues with his sexuality. Help him become proud of the person he is.
2006-09-24 04:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I wanna be straight"--sounds like a country and western song!!!
....he can't become straight..he just doesn't yet realize how good life can be to him as a gay person...It's tough...life would be so much easier if he were straight--but he's not...and it's tough and takes time to digest this information....Give him time...he'll make the adjustment...coming out is never really very easy...
2006-09-23 18:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
being straight is so much easier-u don't (usually) get ur *** kicked for who u like, ur parents accept you, society accepts you, u accept you, being gay is harder-it's like being black at a kkk meeting
2006-09-23 18:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by Dark Angel 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him that he is what he is and that he should be happy. It is speacial to be gay and it makes him even more speacial to come out and be happy with it......
2006-09-23 19:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by N.M. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come to jesus
2006-09-23 19:57:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋