boys never want to get married...why is it? can you give a good reason supported by some thoughts, not just 'because they dont want to be tied down' etc etc. i'd like some substance and thought, please. thanks!!
2006-09-23 18:41:30 · 21 answers · asked by Mimi Kitty 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I say boys, I mean men.
2006-09-23 19:00:36 · update #1
They are afraid to something
2006-09-23 18:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by CHICA24 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Sure.
Statistics prove it's a 50 - 50 chance of working out.
Boys tend to be the major wage earners but if divorced must give up half of everything. Plus child support, he won't get the kids - he has to pay for a long time.
The "revenge" culture of a woman done wrong. It's encouraged by other women yet totally unjustified.
Why should a boy get married? Odds are it won't work and if it doesn't he gets the worse end of it.
Women treat a relationship as a One Way journey to marriage. First is The Talk to define the relationship. Then is the "level of commitment". Then is exclusive dating (she insists). Then engagement and then marriage.
You can't just sit at Level Two and enjoy life, the next step is always looming over the companionship.
It's harrowing. That first date is establishing the power structure for the entire time spent together in the future. If a guy says that he meant it differently, he's a no-good-skunk.
The culture of dating to marriage looks like a trap ... in fact, an ambush!
2006-09-23 19:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a big step. It means forever or that is what it used to mean. Men are not the only ones afraid of marriage, several women are too. What if you get married and then things start going wrong and you do not get along as well. You have to put up with that person day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year, decade after decade. Then marriage means raising children and having a whole family. Men want to experience fatherhood the same way women want to experience motherhood, but not in the midst of a messed up marriage. Plus guys and ladies want to make sure they are with the right person. Someone who you do not keep making up and breaking up with. It has to be a serious, continuing relationship. It should be someone who you do not have a great number of heated arguments with. It should be someone whose annoying and bothersome flaws/faults you could accept & deal with every single day if you had to commit to the marriage contract for 200 years or obviously until you died. Plus both men and women are hesitant about marriage nowadays because single life can be so much fun.
2006-09-23 19:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak for myself but the reason I don't want to get married is because more than half end in divorce. Those are really bad odds. No matter how much I want to stay married, if my spouse wants out.... there's not much I can do and the divorce laws are sooo biased against men. I don't want to lose everything I have worked so hard to get.
So I won't marry until the divorce laws change and make it fairer for men.
2006-09-23 21:18:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or girls either. Because boys are barely potty trained who still want to be with their mommy. They want to be free to play with all their toys and have a care free time with their boy and girl pals. Kind of like Peter Pan.
Marriage wrecks all that. They then have to grow up and share themselves, like with another woman (not a girl). And, God forbid, they may have to share even more of themselves, help raise children-little carbon copies of themselves- to be men (or women).
You said the magic word "substance". Boys don't have substance. They're two dimensional. Length and width. No depth. Boys don't want to get married, though an awful lot of them do, and with disastrous results.
Men are the ones who get married. Men are the one who stay married "till death do us part". A 24/7 selfless endeavor. Whether they like it or not men are always there for the ones that they love and care for.
2006-09-23 19:42:29 · answer #5 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
$$$$$ thats the major reason but other than that dont like the idea of it or its because of hollywood. The mjority of women are tainted by it thinking that there love life is supposed to be like that fairytale that they see on the silverscreen. I mean come one ladies give us a break were not that smart when it comes to that stuff i mean were lucky if we get youre name right after the fisrt date let alone doing thed most romantic thing you ever saw or been apart of. serously when is the last time you saw someone standing out side someones house with a boombox or making a scene in a resturant or going crazy out in public.
2006-09-23 18:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by jim n 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if a boy says he is not ready then beleive it he is not, and it would be bad. In my experience when they grow up to be men, they want to get married. Sometimes more that a woman at the same age.
2006-09-23 18:54:24 · answer #7 · answered by Breezer_Ne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
holy is right. boys are behind in maturity by 3 yrs. so if he is 20, he's more like 17. stop looking at these kissyface cutiepies your age and begin searching for older guys like 6 yrs older. its time to a woman. by god and mother nature, most men arnt ready for marriage or fatherhood until age of 30.
2006-09-23 18:49:39 · answer #8 · answered by Necat T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they are probably not mature enough yet to think about marraige. For some guys, it takes until they are in their 30's or even 40's to figure out that they want a family. Some guys just want to be playboys their whole life. I don't know how old you are but, try guys 5 or more years older than you. You may find more that would be willing to commit.
2006-09-23 18:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by Hicktown girl66 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You met the wrong boys...
That's why... you have to go out with a nice guy/boy... not a jerk.
Jerks only want your body, free sex.
When he can get it (sex and satisfaction) from you without marrying you... why would he want to marry you?
He can get it for free, why pay (responsibilities etc.) by marrying you...
You just went out with the wrong boys...
In other term... you just got owned by the boys...
Dump them... find someone credible before they screw your life...
2006-09-23 18:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by Jimmy the Cricket 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most men are scared of getting divorced or losing everything they own to divorce,that what my son in law was afraid of,that he would end up divorced because the majority of his family are divorced.
2006-09-23 19:13:05 · answer #11 · answered by alwayssmiling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋