2006-09-23 18:35:54 · 12 answers · asked by sosesyof06 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
yes... it's very wrong not too...
First, you will be sinning... (if you have a religion).
Second, you may spread STDs or get STDs.
Thirds, your parents did not bring you up to be a slut/jerk... show them some respect.
Last but not least, you might get pregnant. If you decide to do abortion, you are killing the baby. If you decide to keep it, you just put some more burden on yourself and your parents plus you just kill your future literally.
2006-09-23 18:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jimmy the Cricket 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a Southern Baptist girl and I think it's in everyone's best interest to wait to have sex within the bonds of marriage. It's something God created for one man and one woman to share because it's not just a physical thing, it's a really emotional and spiritual thing, too...it touches your soul. But I also believe that there is forgiveness and mercy and another chance for people who do mess up. You can get a new start and present yourself to your husband with a pure heart, mind, soul...not physically a virgin, but in every other sense. It's up to you, but I think in the long run, making the decision to wait from this day forward until you're married to have sex would be a really great thing to commit yourself to. I participate in this program called True Love Waits through my church, and they have a website if you want to check it out and read more in depth about why it's a great thing to do! :) If the website in my source doesn't work, just search for True Love Waits at Google or something. It should be pretty easy to find. Have a great Sunday!
2006-09-23 20:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by katy.allred 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answers to this question are (most of the time) dependant upon the religious beliefs of the person responding. Most religious people are going to tell you you're sinning if you have sex before you're married. Most non-religious people will tell you it's okay. I'm not religious but I have strong morals/values/standards and therefore stayed a virgin until age 22. It's all up to you and what you think is right.
2006-09-23 19:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa Faye Chardonnay 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say HELL NO! Sexual compatibility is a huge part of a long term relationship. Is it everything? No. But trust me, if you are sexually unsatisfied in a relationship everything else will suffer. In the long run you will begin looking other places and then you will have to deal with the guilt of not loving you partner as you should along with the guilt of have affairs with others. Find out whether your partner fits sexually as well as emotionally before even thinking about marriage.
2006-09-23 19:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by youngliver2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it's wrong, but it doesn't mean you can't stop now. You can. You can say to yourself "I will not have premarital sex anymore" and then you can wait to share the beautiful love you will have with your husband someday. He is out there waiing for you somewhere and he would prefer you didn't sleep around.
Take care and enjoy being young.
2006-09-23 18:46:11 · answer #5 · answered by a_phantoms_rose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you must stay virgin till your marriage. virginity is the only gift you could offer to your husband on the night of your wedding. Besides, sex outside marriages life is forbidden not by religion alone but by God himself.
2006-09-24 01:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by NIGHT_WATCH 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess it's all academic at this point, huh?? BTW, lose the ebonics and use the King's English... You'll be much smarter next time...
2006-09-23 18:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion it's not wrong to have sex before marriage.
Religions that state it is wrong espouse that it is a 'sin' because when these religions were founded there were no such things as birth control, condoms, termination options, proper hygiene; and they lived in societies where there was a total lack of medical understanding compared to the modern world. Having sex before marriage in, say Jesus' time, meant you ran the risk of falling pregnant without a stable income or home, and if you contracted a sexually transmitted health problem then there was no way to effectively treat it. People died from syphilis back then, today they don't even have to live with it.
These days we have treatments (if not cures) for all sexually transmitted health risks. Laws also exist to force people to be upfront about their health conditions if they carry something such as HIV Aids or Herpes, and are in circumstances where they are at risk of tranferring these to others. These laws carry jail time and in some places the death penalty if they are broken. The risks aren't as big as people make them out to be either. If you are selective about who you have sex with, and limit the number of sexual partners you take, it is likely that you will never contract an STD, ever.
If you are on birth control there is less than a 1% chance you will ever fall pregnant. But if you do there are welfare systems, adoption systems, and other family planning services to meet your needs. We also don't stone pregnant women to death for having pre-marital sex, which is always a plus.
The dangerous risks of having pre-marital sex in the old world no longer exist in our time. This means that the real questions are those of morals and social circumstances.
Morals are you own choice, and always should be your personal decision on how to conduct your life. It is possible to have pre-marital sex without acting like a total slut, and this is how the majority of single/unmarried adults live today. You may decide that you will be willing to perform some sex acts before marriage, but not others. Which is perfectly fine, if not a cool idea for keeping a relationship interesting.
As with any healthy relationship, you should be open about your concerns and boundaries with your partner. If you don't like their reaction, don't put up with them, just find someone else. Life is too precious to waste it on someone who doesn't care about their impact on you.
But under marriage you don't necessarily have that easy option of breaking up with the person you just found out doesn't respect your opinion about your own body. The process is a lot harder and emotionally taxing (as well as financially). You will have to find somewhere else to live, you may suffer financial loss, and you'll probably need a lot more counselling to get over the breakup than if you had been sexually active before marriage.
For instance, when I grew up, I was brought up in a pentecostal christian household, and went to a similar school. A few of my friends from school decided they would stay virgins until marriage. They have all (not one exception) been married and divorced by now. We have only been out of school 7 years. One girl had a non-sexual relationship with her boyfriend for 3 years before they married. It wasn't even 2 months after their wedding day that he left, and they're now divorced.
I also think it is important to have sex before marriage for the simple fact that not every couple is sexually compatible. Not just emotionally but also physically. For instance you may find out after marrying someone that there is a problem with the penis being too large/long for the vagina. Painful and hard to put up with when sex gets heated and a bit carried away. Fewer things are more uncomfortable/painful during regular sex than your cervix being damaged on a regular basis.
Emotionally you may also find that you are adding a new element to your previously non-sexual relationship that neither of you can manage. You and your partner may find that because sex was something you previously didn't have anything to do with, that you aren't able to discuss it openly without experiencing embarrasment and shame that you were brought up to feel.
On the reverse side, you don't want to run the risk of making marriage only about sex because its this great big thing you get to do after your wedding day and you expect it to be totally awesome. Reality is, there's not much awesomeness involved in two virgins going at it on their wedding night. It's the most uncoordinated sex ever and can lead to injury. Seriously.
There are just some things that you need to do before you get married to be sure that you ought to be married to someone. Sex is one of those things, and so is seeing if you can live together or not. Marriage isn't as big a miracle as some people make it out to be, and if you expect it to be like that you're only going to be disappointed and hurt.
So my advise? Listen to your heart as much as your head, and find a balance between the two.
And above all, if you're ever unsure about the whole issue, just go see your GP. They'll be able to give you the facts about what risks and options there are, whereas anyone else is just going to give an un-educated and bias opinion.
2006-09-23 21:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by Sierra 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
probably
but, only because you're worrying about it
it's not "wrong"
to not be a virgin
if you're unmarried.
but,
it's not "right", either
it's also
nobody's business
but yours
(and, if YOU choose, your husband's)
2006-09-23 19:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once. Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.
2006-09-23 19:14:25 · answer #10 · answered by arrow_head72002 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋