2006-09-23 18:20:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just be there for him. Or let him know that you're there if he needs anything or just wants to talk.
2006-09-23 18:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by Miss C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have lost several people I loved. I can only tell you what I found helpful.
In my opinion, stay as close to your friend as is practicable. Doing speaks much louder than saying. Be available, handle some small stuff for your friend, don't let them wander into traffic, mow a lawn. These may sound funny but when someone is grieving they aren't think (sometimes at all, let alone straight). When my Dad died, I went to mow the lawn, there was no gasoline for the mower and that simple thing stopped me dead in my tracks. I didn't know what to do. Now I had purchased fuel for 40 years but the process of where and how was gone. I only told that to illustrate that your friend could really take a mental vacation. Your job is to protect him/her and if you are close and watching it will be worth more than anything you could possibly say.
My best to you and your friend. What you are experiencing is part of life, it isn't the best part but it is most certainly a part.
2006-09-24 01:35:43 · answer #2 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've said just enough. Now, just be there for your friend. Don't try to console him (or her) because if the person is really hurting in the situation, words of consolation often end up just putting salt on the wound. Don't say things like: 'She'll surely get better' or 'She'll be better off after she goes' or 'Well, most people's grandparents end out dying eventually'! When your friend does choose to talk about it, don't argue with what she (he) says and don't comment on it either. Just say something to show you're listening, - for instance if they are crying, say something like 'You're hurting' - if they say something like 'it's not fair' - you can say something like 'yeah, it's hard to understand why we have to hurt so much' - well, you get the picture. Never try to make an original comment. Your friend doesn't need your wisdom. Your friend needs your presence and your friendship. Also, don't bring the subject up if your friend isn't talking about it.
2006-09-24 20:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Ed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let ur friend know ur there anytime they need u...tell them they can call at whatever times, and if they need u there when things are starting to get really rough that u want to be there for them. Just let them know u r thinkin of them. If u know they r at the hospital/visiting or otherwise involved w/their family - stop by and bring everyone something to eat (donuts and coffee)...just don't start crying and making a scene!!! U want to comfort them not the otherway around.
Good luck...tell them "i'm here if u need me...call anytime!"
2006-09-24 01:26:37 · answer #4 · answered by drcil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'm sorry is a nice start it salways right to say your sorry for someones loss. and maybe your friend needs to try to get this off their mind a little sometimes. so if you can, treat them to a movie one night. but dont try to keep your friend from blocking it out totally. your friend needs to deal with this and Grieve. the first step of grief is denial. if you notice your friend is not naturally grieving by the steps of grief, maybe you need to tell a parent. and always let your friend know they can talk about it with you and you should really listen and just be their for your friend.
2006-09-24 01:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No words can express your sorrow or compassion in such a situation. Just being with your fd is enough. It is "being there" to show you share with him his sorrow his feelings
2006-09-24 01:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by Dilnawaz I 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I know it is very difficult. Since you are always scared about what you may say that will hurt him more.. You did very well, feeling Sorry and stating it is fine.
2006-09-24 01:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by sanghvir 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you are feeling, just let your heart talk, then it'll all come out. Sometimes words don't come out, so just hug him let him know you'll miss him.
2006-09-24 02:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dnt need words...jst be there for him in his mmnts of sorrow,mmnts of pain,a shoulder to lean on, let him know if he wants to talk he can count on u,if he needs anyhtin ul be glad to be of help....sometimes silence is louder than words...so all in all.....just be a friend!!!!
2006-09-24 01:28:03 · answer #9 · answered by sah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its life..people come and go...when she really is going to leave us...this world..she might even be in a better place then where she is right now..
2006-09-24 01:24:00 · answer #10 · answered by dew li low moe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋