whose with me? I try so hard to stay positive but its so difficult when everyone else around me is negative.
2006-09-23 18:05:08 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
those of you who say to just surround myself with positive people, thats not really possible because my family is the negativity. I dont have many friends, but the ones I do have are very positive.
Im just having a hard time right now because I just found out that my dad is going to move in with his new girlfriend, and my mom keeps blowing her money on useless crap and we dont even have enough to get by. we recently moved, I just started highschool, and my family is always negative. I have a great class in school(leadership) with a great(and very inspirational) teacher and it has helped me stay positive for the most part, but its still hard because my family never listens to eachother.well thanks for reading I guess... I just needed to get all my problems out.
2006-09-23 18:25:57 · update #1
First, I apologize for the long reply, but I can’t answer your question in a couple of sentences. Life is not that simple to take it casually.
I think that what you are looking for is for someone to sympathize with you. Unfortunately, I can’t, at least not 100%. I know that life has it ups and downs, but it’s up to you how you feel about any particular situation. The fact that people around are negative, should not dictate the way you feel. People don’t have control over your emotions, only you do! It’s up to you if you let people control you or not. I know it’s easier said than done, but with practice, you can learn to tune out the negative vibes of others.
The fact is that nothing has any meaning except the meaning that you give it. The same thing can happen to you and me and we can see it in two completely different ways. You may see it in a way that empowers you to better your life and I may see in a way that can lead destruction, sadness and depression. It’s up to you how you want to see any situation at hand.
Every emotion that you may experience at any given time, whether is happiness, sadness, and depression, they all come within you. They come from the internal dialogue that you have with yourself. In other words, from the thoughts and ideas that you put in your own mind. Depression is not something you catch like the flu. It can’t be passed on to you in any way, shape or form. At least not without you permission.
I know you may not want to hear this, but I really believe that people are responsible for their own happiness or unhappiness. Unfortunately, we live in a society that has thought us that is easier to point our fingers at others and blame them for our unhappiness, than to look at our pass decisions that led us to this point in our life and to take responsibility for our current situation. Think about it, how many times have you blamed someone else for your unhappiness and a few months or years later, you realized all the mistakes you had made that led you to that suffering?
Just like there are a lot of people who are negative about most everything, there are a lot of people out there that are positive about life. If the people around you like to see life on a negative note, then it’s time for you to take responsibility for your own happiness and find new people to be around. If you don’t do that now, if you don’t take action now to change those people that you claim to be negatively affecting your life at this moment, then who will you have to blame a year, two, or more from now for any further unhappiness that these people may bring into your life? No body but you!
I feel for you and I understand how you feel. I’ve been there many times, I’m not bullet proof. There’s not a human alive who have never felt sad about their lives at one point or another. The difference is that some people take action to change their way of life and some others learn to live with unhappiness. In other words, they become used to living that way. They start believing that that’s the way life really is and they accustom themselves to the idea that life sucks!
I hope that all this mambo jumbo helped you at least a little and if you ever need someone to talk to, send me an e-mail. Quite often it’s easier to talk to a complete estranger than it is to talk to a friend. Good luck!
2006-09-23 18:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother.. Just do your very best, stay on the line, and if you fail, chin up.. If everyone is negative, you must stand up and take it full charge make other alternatives, know your resources. Be a leader..... Because what you do is right.....I know life is like this.. But everyone must to struggle hindrances and problems just to stay positive, And I know, in the end of the tunnel you will see light...keep it up...
2006-09-23 18:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by realme 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
life does suck...at times i feel depressed (sorta, not servere)
but as u can see mostly everyone here agrees with u including me
just no that ur not alone
those kids that make u feel bad probably will get wuts coming to them
its called karma
just try to always look on the positive side of things...
a clear, positive, and focused mind can go far..
2006-09-23 18:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Where there s good day and there s bad there s winners and theres losers you have to keep practice to suceed in life. Whatever you having problem with. Not everybody have a perfect life everytime but one day you going to be happy in life that something or someone would make you happen one day so keep ya head up.
2006-09-23 18:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The key, sweety, is to surround yourself with positive people and avoid the negative ones as much as possible. Try it and you'll feel much better.
2006-09-23 18:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it can at time. Not feeling to great at the moment myself. But you got to think positive and hope tomorrow will be better or make it better.
2006-09-23 18:11:26 · answer #6 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes life sucks,but look at it this way, somewhere in this world there is someone who cares about you and you should look at lif ewith clear eyes and do not think of all the negative things in life and anyone who tells you things that are negative then tell them to get a life and stay out of yours.
2006-09-23 18:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by mcwhiteboy6775 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am feeling that way lately, I try to stay positive but its hard, hopefully life picks up soon.
2006-09-23 18:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by ♥HeidiJustine♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Life is what you make it, you can't blame your negativity on others, you need to use your powers to make others more positive!
2006-09-23 18:08:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe u make them feel negative
or u just hang out with negative people
find new positive friends
it's not that hard to make new friends or u just are really helpless
2006-09-23 18:08:22 · answer #10 · answered by mrs.bloom411 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋