me and this guy dated for a 1yr and a couple of months broke up about 4 months ago but talked all the time. At first (he broke up with me) he said he just didnt feel for me anymore, so we were just friends, then he started "talkin" to me again & said he just didnt want a relationship, then he told me he was just so hurt from us fighting all the time in our long relationship that he didnt want to do it anymore, then he told me we dont match (these excuses are within weeks of each other...we will be talking and everything will be going back to the whole love love thing and then he will just freak and say something like those comments) We are having a kid together, im currently pregnant..1 day he acts like the perfect bf and daddy the next he wants to go ape s.h.i.t. & forget about me & his soon to be son and gives me a wierd excuse when I try to just cut it off, he comes crying back with well I love you. The last time we talked he said he just wanted to be friends but he loves me &
2006-09-23 17:58:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he loves me...then he called just like five seconds ago and told me how much he loves me and stuff...I have tried talking to him about all his excuses but he either gets real mad or he changes the subject and doesnt ever give a straight answer. Its like if you push him into a corner to tell you whats going on he rebels and pushes you away from him....if he really doesnt want to be with me or love me...then why cant he just say it and be done with it? He just keeps coming back with I love you...O wait no we cant be together ...O I love you again lol...its driving me nuts. I love him and all but you can only put yourself through so much torture Plz help.
2006-09-23 18:00:41 · update #1
hi. take it from someone who has been there and done that. He has made it clear he does not want to be with you. Being pregnant with his child, I am sure only confuses things. He left you when you were pregnant. That just proves he is not dependable and will never be there for you and the baby. He only loves you and wants you when it is convient for him. A child is no reason to chase a dream, that is never going to happen. As long as you let him, he will keep coming and going in and out of life, Your life and your front door is revolving to fit his needs and wants. For your unborn childs sake, walk away. Do you want your child growing up with a father who comes and goes as he pleases. He could not even stick with you during your pregnancy. right there is proof he is not dependable. He will only keep hurting you and please do not use your child to get him back. Your child is worth more then being used for a pawn to try to win back a man. I know this all hurts, but he does not love you and never will love you. A person does not just fall in and out of love with someone. He will always have feelings for you, he is your fathers child. from the sounds of it, there never was any love. because if they was any love he would have never stuck around. It is better to forget about him now before you daughter is born You do not need his crap once your child is born.
2006-09-23 18:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he is confused over the whole being a father thing, He wants to do the right thing and be a father to the baby and at the same time he might be feeling like he is not ready . Maybe you should find a way to explain to him that if he does not want to be with you anymore that you can accept that but that you would really love for him to be in his sons life especially if he wants to be in his sons life. You should also tell him that he has to decide what he wants because its causing stress for both of you. Maybe he needs to talk to someone that can help him figure out what he wants
2006-09-24 01:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by melthule 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We don't know how old the two of you are. May be he is still young, unemployed, so he is also confused about the situation the two of you are in.
I knew of a couple who had that situation. In fact, the boy does not want to marry the girl, but when the child was born, it was like magic. Your soon to be child will bond you together as a happy family. Pray for that.
2006-09-24 01:11:22 · answer #3 · answered by crisantom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you two? Obviously, he is not stable, committed or mature enough to be a "daddy" or a responsible partner. Move on with your life and make better choices in the future. You should figure out what it is about you that would pick a goof ball like him.
2006-09-24 01:04:30 · answer #4 · answered by midge 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i was out with someone like that for two yrs on and off. he was my 1st love and 1st...we were ok one min then the next we were fighting like mad. he even tried to hit me once. he was such a good person deep inside and very caring but tough and horrible on the inside. we had a bad break up and im in two minds. its 3 yrs since we broke up and i still think of him and compare guys to him. anyways im going off the point. thomas was so inconsistant bcuz he had a hard life and did not know who to trust. not alot of ppl cared adn when he foubnd dat i love him and cared alot he didnt want to let go of me even though we were fighting alot mostly over his friends. he wanted to be the hard man and they didnt like me. so i guess there are reasons for ur mans behaviour. im not sure what u shud do cuz i broke it off with thomas and regret cutting him out of my life completely but u should just talk to ur man. dnt fource him just let him talk and u will eventually find out what he wants. good luck with it
2006-09-24 01:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by Belosnezhka (aka Gex) 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well...you need a better father figure than him, but hes still the dad but you better find a good guy who will do anything for you ( i know,..tuff to find) but at least will support you 100% and loves you ...not just loves you every other week
2006-09-24 01:05:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
my dear, you are the problem.
guys just can't cope with the way women like you always need to conduct a forensic examination of peoples emotions.
back off, biatch, and lighten up.
when he says he loves you kindly have the decency to feel happy and shut the f**k up that big mouth on you.
2006-09-24 01:38:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to tell him to quit playing games. Either he's with you and the kid or leave you alone for good.
2006-09-24 01:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by angie1977c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give it up. It sounds like he just wants you on the side.
2006-09-24 01:01:18 · answer #9 · answered by highchaparral2006 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
then you'll may want to seek relationship counseling and then try individual counseling or the reverse. because you need to find out where exactly the problem is.
2006-09-24 01:01:57 · answer #10 · answered by mysterious_yet_sweet 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋