I was deployed to Afghanistan, and when I got back I found pictures of my wife at a club kissing 3 different guys. what should I do
2006-09-23 17:57:36 · 22 answers · asked by Koolaid1730 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
God bless you. Thanks for your dedication. You know in your heart what went down. It all depends on you and what you want. The best I can tell you is not to do anything to fast. Be cool and then go on your gut. You do it everyday in your job. I hope everything works out for the best. You are the most important one here. Good luck
2006-09-23 22:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by Kathleen L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well its like this... and no offense meant so dont get all torn up okay??
Did you flirt or have you flirted or made any physical contact with anyone else while away from your wife? Any casual touching that could have led to something else?
If you and she dont have ground rules to your marriage, whats allowed and what is not allowed then anything goes until its said differently.
I understand you are a soldier, but your wife doesnt treat you any better or any worse than the average joe out here who didnt go to war for his country. Having said that, I applaude you for fighting for your country, as my husband spent 13 years in the Army.
I would talk to her and ask her what the pictures meant and ask her point blank if she cheated while you were gone. If she gets upset, doesnt wanna answer and gets all huffy then I would flat out tell her that if she couldnt remain faithful with you gone, then it was doubtful that she would be faithful with you home. The thing is.. whats good for the gander is good for the goose and vice versa. She cant expect to be allowed to run wild and act like a floosy when your deployed and then act like the loving faithful wife when you get home. It doesnt work both ways. And I wouldnt put up with cheating, believe me if she would cheat on you while your gone, she is gonna cheat with you home, and right under your nose if she hasnt done so already. If thats the case take your GI boot and kick her A S S to the curb.
2006-09-23 18:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by Shalamar Rue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the answers so far are good one but the bottom line is that only you know what you want to do and what you feel is right to do and if you can forgive and forget on this. Personally I would have a real hard time with this thinking you're doing your job and serving your country and sacrificing yourself and your wife is having some type of kissing vacation. Not cool on her part at all. Think about it yourself and do what YOU think is best. If you do what you think is right at least you know it's your decision and you can hopefully move forward with some peace with that thought. Good luck.
2006-09-23 18:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by jljdc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she is not the material in a wife you need that is for sure. If you found them she must have wanted you to find them. Ask her what she was doing in that bar kissing men. If you can not get the answer that you need which is the truth then move on. There are women who can wait for their husbands while they are gone. To be honest she must not have loved you a whole lot cause if she did she would have been at home waiting on you.
2006-09-23 18:07:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce her azz, I'm in the Army dawg and I've been to Iraq/Kuwait 6 times in the past 5 yrs and bout to go again 9 OCT. If my wifey did that sh*t to me knowing all the BS we put up with over there, she'd better get to steppin. If she was brave enough to take pics of her kissing, just imagine what she did that she didn't take pics of.
2006-09-23 18:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by MexiShortieHubby 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, thank you for your service.
It's a shame that while our men our out doing their duty for their country, there are some of their women that can't do their duty on the homefront and be faithful. And yes, I may be jumping to conclusions, but if there was nothing going on, why even give the appearance that there was? Confront her and if she's been cheating, it's time to hand her her discharge papers.
2006-09-23 18:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by Raven Sky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sit down and talk with her ask her why did she stray away from the marriage especially when you were in another country fighting a war not knowing if and when you would come home see if she is sorry and if she stills wants the relationship/marriage and you have to think about if you really want to work things out with her as well
2006-09-23 18:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude,
divorce her.
what's wrong with u? are u mental? do u like being run over by women? are u a masochist?
geez man! its so obvious she's loose. kissing 3 guys?
gawd only knows what she's done besides kissing!
i'd go for a herpes check if i were u. maybe u caught something from her that she got from those guys she been with!
u go fight for your country. and what does she do? she gets it on with guys that are hanging around in bars, hoping to hook up with women like her. while you're out there risking your life for your country. dude. wake up man. end it and go find yourself someone better. ok?
2006-09-23 18:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From one GI to Another:
Confront her with copies of the evidence and get a good lawyer. Toss her 2 timing a** out.
Thank for your service and sacrifice. Wish you the best bro'
2006-09-23 17:59:32 · answer #9 · answered by Eldude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i imagine you should be basic. tell him why you decide on to split, and that it has no longer some thing to do with him leaving the country. if you're as truthful as you sound, he will understand. i imagine you should do it slightly after he comes back, so he received't sense misplaced at the same time as he comes back, even with the indisputable fact that it truly is my opinion.
2016-11-23 18:32:52 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋