today he and I broke up then he calls me up four to five hours later to tell me that he loves me and really want to be with me, but the only reason he did that because he want to better him self, but i told hime i love him for himself and we can do this together, but he feel that I don't want to help him and that he a stress too me. i told him i don't have no problem with helping him out because i love him and we talked about everything then he start talking about he want me to marry him and be the mother of his children, but i really want to know is this game or is hiding something from me or is he just trying to better himself. men please tell me and women please fell free to enclose an answer to help me better understand this situation.
2006-09-23 17:48:40 · 9 answers · asked by ke ke 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He sounds insecure. It's not your job to council him and to try to help him change his life, he has his own issues that are beyond your responsibility & control. Be with him if you want to, if not, don't feel like you have to. If he's exremely sad, tell him to talk to a councilor or family member. On the other hand he could be exaggerating certain comments to get you to stay with him, cuz again, he's insecure. Just be sure to take care of yourself first, don't let him control you with this tactic, & don't feel responsible for his feelings. Do what makes you feel happy.
2006-09-23 17:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like in my eyes that he might just be trying not to accept the truth, but only because the truth hurts like hell. Depending on how old you are, the marriage and kids thing is kinda freaky but thats besides the point. Do what you gut feeling is, but my gut is saying that he really wants to be with you, but it seems like you two bring out the worst in eachother and thats not good. Maybe you two need to sit down in a few weeks after its fertilized and talk about it. GOOD LUCK!
2006-09-24 00:54:17 · answer #2 · answered by xCrazY4hImx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was told that if someone loves you, he will not think of excuses or silly things to say like,"Be the mom of my children", or, "I love you so much, I will cross the world", and stuff like that. It may sound romantic but that's usually mortal love. If he loves you, he would never think that you don't want to help him. In a relationship, in order for it to be meaningful, lovers must help each other, not space out, or else, problems and arguments will arise and eventually, ruin it all. :)
2006-09-24 00:55:26 · answer #3 · answered by Kevs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... umm, it really all depends on why you broke up. If he doesn't fix what made you break up with him, than don't accept him back. Make an ultimatum as long as he's begging. If he does fix his problems, then it's up to you.
2006-09-24 00:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with him and have a long conversation about what exactly is going on. also ask your self is this something you want to be a part of and can you handle. also ask yourself is this worth it to me and how important is this relationship/bf to me.
2006-09-24 00:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by mysterious_yet_sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is probably jsut his way of saying that he doesnt want a rrelationship with you, but he still wants to be good friends.
but you never know. dont let him trick you. it has happened
to me before. and trust me. you dont want to be hurt like that.
wish you the best !
2006-09-24 00:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump this rascal
who wants to take useless risks anyway
2006-09-24 00:53:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an idiot, dump him forever
2006-09-24 00:51:16 · answer #8 · answered by John Scary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow I am happy for you to have someone really love you
2006-09-24 00:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋