For FUN and to annoy the babysitter,my daughter run out of the house,having the babysitter chase her.My daughter thinks is funny.I tried talking to my daughter, she said the babysitter NEVER did anything wrong.But she likes to bother her babysiiter.
We give her a lot of love and attention.Yesterday she slap the babysitter,i wanted to tell her dad(my husband) but she asked me not to.What should i do ?He's not violent.I need HELP ! She answer back to the babysitter, i ask my daughter in private,she has no complain about the lady,just doesn't like listening to her,on the contrary his 8 year old brother like the babysitter.What should i do ?????? PLEASE ! Desperate MOM !
2006-09-23 17:40:54 · 13 answers · asked by latin l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Easy..
Give her much love, attention, caring, candies and toys when she listens to what you ask her. Deprive her of all the above when she doesn't. And see the immediate result.
Good Luck!
2006-09-23 17:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to start this way, but the first thing you did wrong is not tell your husband. If you want your child to listen, she has to listen to you both. You have to stand united. If you don't she will continue doing things that are not correct and you condone this. If your and her father speak to her maybe she will listen. Unless the babysitter is doing something wrong to her, she has no right to decide who will take care of her and her brother. I really would suggest for you and father to put a camera in the main room the kids will be with the sitter, maybe that way you will see with your own eyes what is going on, while you both are gone. If you live in U.S. you can go to K-Mart, Walmart, or Radio Schack and find a little inexpensive camera and don't tell anyone but hubby is there. You might be surprise on what you can find out. Always be an alert parent. Children sometimes try to tell us things and we don't pay attention to. Good luck.
2006-09-24 00:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are the boss. if the child does the crime the child does the time. its time you started letting your child know you mean business. my step kids know when they can get by with something and when they cant. i have a tone of voice that lets them know i'm not playing and they listen to it. the next time your child bothers the baby sitter, put the child in the corner for 10 minutes. before you let the child out, ask them do they know why they got in trouble or what rule was broken, you need to lay out the rules first! (before you punish) allow the baby sitter to do the same. the child will get tired of being in that corner and learn to respect when you or the babysitter has had enough. oh yeah, until your child gets the point, the second time the child does the crime, increase the time in the corner by 10 minutes. after 30 minutes in tthe corner, start taking things away. like no tv or no video games or something. i promise the child will start to chill out. but you have to stick to your guns and assure your child you still love them. do not pet the child after punishment. simply reintroduce the child into what ever is going on whether everybody is just watching tv or playing a game together. as for the voice, its a stern order and my voice is a bit raised. i swear when they hear it they stop in their tracks cause they know i've had my limit.
2006-09-24 01:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss desperate mom, maybe you can try having her involved with certain activities with your babysitter that would not harm both or you. I suggest that you have them go to your city park and have a relaxing time, or the zoo perhaps. In order to control your child, think like her. This is what i would usually do to get along with my younger sister. Most of the time, it works well enough. Children are blessing to the world, no matter how naughty some of them may be.
2006-09-24 00:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by Kevs 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's got you wrapped around her little finger. If you're not afraid of her father abusing her, why isn't he aware of the total situation? He needs to be as involved with her discipline as much as you. Maybe even more. It sounds like she's the one in control and she knows it. Stop letting her do that. If she does it again, she needs discipline. Take away her favorite toy for a week or don't let her watch T.V. or play with friends, or whatever it is she enjoys doing, don't let her do it. She needs to see some consequences for her actions, because so far it seems your doing a lot of complaining, but aren't doing anything to change her behavior. I think your lucky your babysitter hasn't quit. She must be a VERY patient women. Give her a raise!
2006-09-24 00:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rule #1 YOU ARE THE PARENT! You are not here to be your daughter's friend. She slapped the babysitter and you didnt do anything? She sounds like she needs an old fashioned a-s whoopin to me, your daughter that is. And she asked you not to tell the dad, probably because she knows he would have tagged her bottom (that doesnt make him violent!). To me it sounds like YOU need to learn how to stand up to your child! I am surprised the babysitter hasnt QUIT!
2006-09-24 00:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by Evil Red 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My 6 year old would have a lot of time to think about her behavior in her room. No TV, bike, swimming, park NOTHING. I use the line, "If you want a miserable life keep it up." She knows what that entails and shapes right up. Two days in solitary confinement is an eternity to a little person.
2006-09-24 00:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by Jade H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a new babysitter. it must be a big, ugly, old woman that carries around a whip. i promise your child will never run away again.
2006-09-24 00:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by customdreammachines 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should have a prize box whenever you get home from movie,date,ect you should get a report from the babysitter and if she was good give her a prize but every time she is bad you make her go to bed 30min earlyer but if she is bad again she go to bed 1 hr earlyer bad again 1hr 30min earlyer. Get it/ hope i could help! oh ya and also whoooop her ******* damn *** if she is bad
2006-09-24 00:48:09 · answer #9 · answered by zorganigia 123 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what you should do is find another baysitter that the both of them will like. just ask them question about how would they want their babysitter to act so you will know what kind of person that they want to watch them
2006-09-24 00:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by ke ke 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋