My friends husband is driving her crazy,he is not romantic,never spends any time with her.Hes either working or watching some lame *** movie (typical male pic of guns,shooting and action,when she speaks to him he doesnt take his eyes of the screen,then he goes staight to bed,sometimes without even a kiss good night or anything.He never initiates for sex,and he only responds when he wants to,and not neccessarily when its convienient for her.He goes from one extreme to the next sometimes very caring,gentle and loving and sometimes mean,neglectful and bossy.Shes tired feels lonely and isolate,divorce is not an option for her (SO PLEASE PEOPLE REFRAIN FROM TELLING HER TO DUMP HIM) He was raised in another country OUT IN a village and is really backward in his thinking.She just sits and dreams someday he will change but he does not shes only 26 yrs old and he never takes her out,he just blames it on account of her health problem(shes disabled because of health.What advice to give her?pleas
2006-09-23 17:38:05 · 11 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get this book called 'The Power of A Praying Wife' by Stormie Omartian, it'll help alot (I know 1st hand)
2006-09-23 18:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by shawnthavirgo 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
There seems to be a cultural difference in the two people which can be very hard to overcome, your going against generations of tradition, but it can be done. This is such a hard question to have an opinion on. She is young and has her whole life ahead of her, disability or not, she is young and vibrant at heart. If he is physically abusive, then I say she should leave him. He is neglecting his role as husband and needs serious councelling to bring him into the here and now.
2006-09-24 00:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by Linda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, she can't dream away that he's going to change. Afterall, her husband doesn't see that he has a problem so in his mind, he thinks everything's fine and dandy but what he doesn't realize is that he's taken her for granted. She needs to speak up about it. Tell her to take some time to sit her husband down and start communicating with him her feelings. Chances are, her husband has no clue at all. She can't just wish he's going to change as she might end up wishing her life away in the process.
2006-09-24 01:22:39 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she should develop some hobbies, acquire some basic computer skills and write her own letters. Maybe she does not really want your advice. She has made a choice and seems to stay with this guy and you could do best by supporting her choice and stop talking about it??
2006-09-28 06:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabethfrny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to change. Counseling only works so long. Personalities are quite well evident by the time a person is an adult.
2006-09-24 00:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like they have no communication skills how is someone going to fix a problem unless they are aware there is a problem heres an idea mabye they should sit down turn off the tv and TALK to each other
2006-09-24 00:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice to her is to see if this is the life she really wants. my mistake was to think i can help my man change into the man i thought he could be a man can't change if he doesn't want to it is up to her if she wants to live that way i wish u the best of luck
2006-09-24 00:59:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They could check into counseling but both have to want to. Don't even think about changing him - it doesn't happen! Good luck!
2006-09-24 01:35:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that this guy on the internet would love to talk to you.
2006-09-24 00:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by rickinobetz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST PRAY FOR HER SOMETIMES ITS BEST TO BE JUST THAT LENDING EAR SHELL FIGURE OUT WHATS BEST FOR HER
2006-09-24 00:47:23 · answer #10 · answered by lilsis2576 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋