Sigh, I really enjoy being at home with my boyfriend watching tv. I do have friends and I enjoy the nights with them going to movies or something engaging and conversational. Unfortunately most people my age just want to party all the time so these quieter nights are few and far between.... They still invite me to come out to the bars(for now), but whenever I do, I find myself yawning and holding out for as long as I can before I announce I wanna go home. Still, when I hear about everyone's blowout good time I feel guilty like I'm missing out. Maybe I just worry that I will regret this when I am too old to party like a 20 something...anyone else with this dilemma?
2006-09-23 17:36:37 · 7 answers · asked by JR 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I somewhat understand. My problem was that I partied so hard in high school and my first year of college that by my second year of college I had mellowed out. By my mid 20s I hated going to parties or clubs. I had no problems going to a quiet pub to take in a drink or two while having good conversation with my friends. But I hated loud clubs where everyone's goal was to get as drunk as possible and act like morons. To me that is just so high school and in my mid 20s I was beyond that.
I'm now 31 and still have friends who party a lot. I don't. I LOVE Friday nights. I make popcorn with the kids and we watch movies. I know many people would say it is sad but I love it and think it is cozy. I'd rather relax at home than party any day. We still get asked to go out and I always decline. A quiet evening at home is just more fun for me. It isn't for everyone but it is for me.
You need to decide what you enjoy more. You say you feel guilty when you hear about everyone's blowout good time. You think you're missing out. But ask yourself, when you actually do go do you have that blowout good time? Or do you just have an okay time and wish you were at home? My own experience has shown me that the stories people tell after a night of drinking and partying are always more exciting than the actual night of drinking and partying.
2006-09-23 17:43:25 · answer #1 · answered by Amelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's more about how comfortable you are. I'm 25 and enjoy going out. I used to throw nightlife events at clubs and bars in a big city, but now live in a small town with less chances to go out and less options.
It doesn't mean I don't also like staying in - I need a healthy dose of both.
If you feel like you are missing out, then make a plan to go out on your terms. Pick something you think you would enjoy doing and do that. Maybe your friends tastes in partying just bore you.
2006-09-24 00:43:31 · answer #2 · answered by Darin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I totally understand. I enjoy going to clubs and bars every now and then too, but I do like doing more mellow things with my friends like hanging out or going to the movies. I'm just not a big party-goer.
ausaramenra2000 looks just like me...weird!
2006-09-24 00:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by The Rent Is 2 D@mn High! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man bars are just not your thing, its a great quality in a woman who love the home life. It says alot. I wouldn't worry about it.
2006-09-24 00:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by ausaramenra2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean some people at 26 don't want to go to bars. It's okay just have fun how you want to.
2006-09-24 00:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi Kitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. I like staying at home. But I do like to go to the movies.
2006-09-24 00:38:52 · answer #6 · answered by IHaveQuestions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all !!! And you can fix this with your boyfriend ,,,,,by letting him know about your preferences
2006-09-24 00:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by bashka_515 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋