We have been together for 4 years and I let him go, and used to go with him, but he still wants to go and we live in a small town that is lame, I let him go but feel conflicted, should I make him stop? I feel like when I went with him I condoned it, and I do trust him but only borderline trust when he is lit. How should I handle this?
Looking for thoughtful answers please.
2006-09-23 17:29:11 · 24 answers · asked by trajan 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Get a job as a stripper and then see if he still feels like going. This is a win win solution because he may understand how you feel and stop going because he probably doesn't want other men looking at you the way he looks at other women or you work as a stripper and make him pay for what he could be getting at home for free.
2006-09-23 17:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by E_Soup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the first mistake was letting him go to there in the first place.. give a man an inch and he'll take a mile. You say you live in a small town with not much to do.. I guess maybe it's time to start thinking about moving away, somewhere where there are things you will both enjoy doing together.. bowling, cinema, restaurants, that kinda thing - or whatever hobbies you think you'll both enjoy.
It's not good for any woman's morale to have her man gazing at other women in that way. Nip it in the bud, take the bull by the horns and change direction. If he doesn't wanna go - leave him behind. Tell him you can do better. If he misses you enough, he'll follow. Good luck with whatever you decide. ;-)
2006-09-24 00:39:31 · answer #2 · answered by Butterscotch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him that you do not feel comfortable with him going anymore. If he Loves and cares about you then he would respect your wishes. He might think it is perfectly fine because of the other times he has went and you were okay with it. Try asking him if you can strip for him in the bedroom. If all else fails, and he still goes, sorry but you don't want top be miserable for the rest of your life do you?
2006-09-24 00:34:35 · answer #3 · answered by Koolaid1730 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems like behaviour that might lead to an addiction. I would be very careful. I think there are underlying issues that may add to the issue or...may be at the very heart of it. I would ask for a time to talk. Scheduled not spontaneous so that channels of communication can be prepared and opened. I think if he is willing, he will admit to some issues that he might not have realized before...
this must be difficult for you..
All the best.
2006-09-24 00:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well...your letting him off the chain a bit i mean if you let him go to these places then you should be able to go to chippindales male stripping clubs....at least hes not hiding it from you but maybe on certain occations you can allow him to go but not all the time. hey and maybe you could give him a show yourself, they do have striping classes which is suppost to be a really good work out.
2006-09-24 00:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to your husband about why he goes to the strip club - and lame town is a lame excuse cause you could do other things some of the time.......maybe he wants something more from you sexually or he has a fantasy or some kinky stuff - might be fun - try some lingerie and YOU strip for him - i bet he stays home!
2006-09-24 00:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget the candles and trying to be all sexy for him, he goes to other women he already thinks are sexy enough obviously. This doesn't seem like a fair marriage, maybe you should go to male strip clubs and see how he likes it. Or if you're not up to that, get rid of him, you're not at the top of his list
2006-09-24 00:40:00 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetpea 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and ask him just one question, "Am I not enough for you?" Let him chew on that one for awhile. Because the truth is you SHOULD be, and he needs to decided whether you are or not.
There are other things he could do like play poker at a friends house or just go to the bar and hang with you.
2006-09-24 01:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by geeeezzzzeeee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are visual creatures. That's the way they are.
You only *borderline* trust him? No, sorry. You either trust him or you don't.
You talk of "letting" him go. What's with that? He's your husband, not your kid.
Sorry, I just think there's a bigger issue here than the strip club.
2006-09-24 00:33:46 · answer #9 · answered by Tish 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a thoughtful answer although you may not think it is.
If strippers aren't going to him, he'll go to them. Why don't you try the whole stripping thing for him, maybe he's just into the whole art of striptease.
2006-09-24 00:31:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋