got back with me bf after 2 weeks break up...he asked me "is getting a b*J* cheating?" I asked if he did it during the time we broke up and he denied said he was just asking. I think he did more than that. I believe whenever I asked for time out, he'd go fool around with other women coz he couldn't wipe that guilty look off his face.
He has a habit of hiding or lying to me about things which HE thinks will make me upset. I don't know what to think at the moment coz I'm happy that we're back together. I'm prepared to forgive him but I can't help thinking bout him and other women when he tries to get intimate with me. What am I suppose to do?? Is there a future after cheating?
2006-09-23 17:18:35 · 18 answers · asked by Nemrac666 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
answer #1) yes
answer #2) see answer #1
2006-09-23 17:21:31 · answer #1 · answered by jeanne g 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st of all... A B J is cheating. It's sexual. Second of all it's not okay for him to do this to you and you deserve better. Now, there can be a future after cheating, I'm dealing with something similar, but only if you don't think he will do it again. I can put it like this. I can forgive a one night stand but not 2, 3, or 4. Don't be intimate with him until you figure this out. It will only confuse things.
2006-09-24 00:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he received a bl*w j*b while you weren't together. He didn't do it knowing that you two were dating & committed to each other, which is a different scenario.
He could have the guilty face, because he knows he cares about you and feels bad that he did accept the BJ. You should put the BJ issue behind you & not think of him with other women, it will put your mind more at ease.
But if he fooled around/flirted with other women while you were dating (and that's why you think he hides things from you), you should consider finding someone who values you enough to have eyes only for you.
2006-09-24 00:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by ßella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is cheating for sure. It is possible to have a future after cheating, but you BOTH need to be willing to invest a lot of time and effort into saving your relationship. However, it seems as if you have asked for "time out" on more than one occasion, so maybe he is just not the right guy for you.
2006-09-24 00:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie73 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid to say, not with this one honey. You are in love with the idea of being in love and having someone around. Anyone who makes it a habit to lie and hide things, is not the type of person who deserves your love or trust. It's a beginning to a long, bitter end sweetie. Save yourself the heartache, let him go and find someone who wants to make you happy....It's so much better than being upset and wondering.
2006-09-24 00:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, even talking about it with the pesron is cheating. I am sure that you do not want to be a cheater. Someone people would consider thinking about cheating, cheating. You need to talk to the other person you are in a relationship with and define cheating with them. That is the best way to go about it. See what they say and then you know what is and is not cheating.
2006-09-24 00:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think three things.
1. Him asking you that was his way of letting the cat out of the bag without being a REAL man about it. Dump him.
2. It's tacky, rude and insensitive for a man that is supposed to love and adore you to ask such manipulative questions. Dump him.
3. Trust is everything. Dump him.
2006-09-24 01:00:56 · answer #7 · answered by skevans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's cheating. I do not accept cheaters back into my life. Once they cheat, they're done, but that's me. It's up to you to decide what you can live with and what you cannot.
If he doesn't, or won't talk to you or confide in you, then it doesn't sound like there is anything solid between you, unless you want to try counseling.
Good luck to you miss.
2006-09-24 00:24:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he cheated. I don't have a crystal ball, but the future doesn't look too rosy.
2006-09-24 00:22:17 · answer #9 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately it is cheating bcuz he knew there was a possibility that you guys would get back together. and if he does this everytime you guys take a break then you should really get rid of him.
2006-09-24 00:22:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if all this is true..about what you say ...if you where not together...when that or if it did than ~NO~ but if you are together..~YES it's cheating~ if you thing about that at the time...go in to it then ask it....OK ...later
2006-09-24 00:27:10 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋