hes 28 and im 14 and he really loves me and i do love him but he wants me to marry him but i do love him but i dont know if i culd do tht i dnt know wat i want i jus want to be really really good friends w/ him and all of this is happenin and im so confused i do love him but i cant marry him but if i tell him he mite kill myself cuz hes kinda suicidal sumtimes ...any advice?
2006-09-23 17:04:40 · 18 answers · asked by dmntdchick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him you can't get married until you are XX years old (fill in the blank -- 18 or 21 or something). "If you love me you can wait." The age difference between 32 and 18 is huge, but between 28 and 14 it is utterly impossible.
Don't let him control you with his depressed moods or threats of suicide.
Don't have sex with him until you're done with high school -- if he's still interested at that point.
2006-09-23 17:10:19 · answer #1 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were your mother, and I found out, Id send his *** under the jail, not just in it.
Your just a child and he is using you. He is way to old for you and you should run the other direction as fast as you can. Don't worry about how he takes the news that you DON"T want to marry him, he WON'T COMMIT SUICIDE, I promise you. He will most likely just move on to a new little girl and forget all about you.
Don't play into his hands, he's a pedophile honey.
Men like that that prey on little girls do it because they have mental problems. Go home and try to enjoy the rest of your childhood and stop trying to grow up so fast. Go back to dating boys your own age and stop messing about with the men.
Any grown man that would mess about with a girl your age is a monster and needs to be put away.
Listen and don't ruin your life with such a beast.
He is mentally ill. Run home and stay away from the pedophiles.
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2006-09-23 18:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by frankly2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you did get your question out, and you have to ask what to do, at 14 , you don't know what love is. This suicidal dude just wants in your pants, and not to put them on. From the looks of your spelling ,you need to focus more on your education, and start today, oh by the way , if he touches you , he CAN go to prison !!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-23 17:16:40 · answer #3 · answered by john l 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby, you are way too young to have these kinds of problems.
At your age you will fall in love at the drop of a hat. This guy sounds like the kind of guy your momma has hopefully been warning you about. He is a predator only interested in taking advantage of you. He is way too old for you and he knows it. He is using you to get what he wants, and it ain't marriage. Tell your mom, your teacher, your principal if this guy keeps telling you all this crap. I hope he does commit suicide so we don't have to worry about his crazy a** anymore..He is trying to keep you confused so he can get what he wants. Don't fall for it.
2006-09-23 18:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, You are 14... No, don't marry him. You are too young... your life just began! Your like half his age... He is so wrong to have even been with you at all... Now if ur in another country and all, I know thats the cutom... but... Your so young... u don't want to be tied down like that for the rest of your life to someone like that.
2006-09-23 17:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by SunRise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP WHAT EVER IT IS YOUR DOING GO TO YOUR MOTHER AND DAD DO NOT STOP AT GO AND COLLECT 2 DOLLARS, TELL YOUR PARENTS , YOU ARE WAY TO YOUNG YOU SHOULD HAVE YOUR FOCUS ON EDUCATION, YOU HAVE YOUR WHOLE LIFE TO LIVE. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH A MAN THAT IS TWICE YOUR AGE, THIS GUY SOUND PERVERTED DATING SOME ONE 14 YEARS OLD , IF YOU WERE MY DAUGHTER , I WOULD PUT THIS DUDE IN HIS PLACE THAT IS THE TRASH CAN OR THE TRUNK OF MY CAR AND TAKE HIM ON A VERY LONG JOURNEY. , MY OPINION YOU MAY FEEL LOVE FOR THIS GUY, MAYBE YOUR PARENT JUST HAVE NOT SHOWN YOU LOVE OR SPENT TIME WITH YOU,LATELY, SO YOU ARE DESIRING ATTENTION FROM SOME ONE, I AM SURE YOUR PARENTS LOVE YOU, PLEASE TALK TO YOUR PARENTS RIGHT AWAY. DO NOT LET THIS DUDE MANIPULATE YOUR FEELING BUY TELLING YOU HE WILL KILL HIM SELF I AM SURE IF YOUR DAD KNEW , YOUR DAD JUST MIGHT HELP THE GUY OUT, THAT IS WITH KILLING HIM SELF.
2006-09-23 17:51:11 · answer #6 · answered by soulstore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's threatening suicide? Let him kill himself honey before he preys on someone else. It's one less creep we have to worry about. I'm sorry honey, but this man isn't interested in marrying you. He's a child predator and you are being victimized.
2006-09-23 17:16:58 · answer #7 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he trully loves you he will wait for you til you are ready to marry him when you grow up.he should no this..being 28 and all.tell him to think back when he was 14 and how immature he was.be more mature than that and wait til you are ready and really lived life.
2006-09-23 17:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to marry you.
He just wants to hit it. That means s e x .
He is just useing the wright words to trick you.
Why would he wait so long to want to marry someone so young? Huh, kinda selfish.
Beware, you have been warned.
2006-09-23 17:09:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are very much tooooooooo young to be thinking about him this way. He needs to leave you alone because he could be in trouble with messing around with someone so young as you are.
2006-09-23 17:18:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋