2006-09-23 16:53:39 · 24 answers · asked by richard 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have. It's something that you never get over. And it's bull---- for people to say it makes your relationship stronger!
A part of you will always be 'hurt' and not trust her/him like you did before the 'affair'.
My husband constantly works at telling me and showing me how much he loves me. He's apologized many times for hurting me but you know ... it happened. And can't be erased.
Do I wish I had left? Of course. Now I feel like I'm cheating both of us because I am holding back in the relationship. I will not let him hurt me again. I don't tell him "I love you" as readily as I used to. In fact, when he tells me he loves me, I just smile. He asks if I love him and I say "Of course".
It's a lot to contemplate. I wish you well.
2006-09-23 20:45:07 · answer #1 · answered by Hula girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Every one deserves a second chance and if you made a terrible mistake and realized it you would want one, some people do change. But I would only give him one more chance and one only and it would take a while for the trust to be built up again. He would have to be OK with that with me checking up on him and him not going out without me anymore. If he did it again that would be the end of the relationship.
2006-09-24 00:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by # one 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on the situation, do you love her? how long has she been cheating? Does she love the guy? How badly do you want this relationship to work? And do you ever think you could trust her again? I guess the bottom line is what do you want?
My first husband cheated, and I gave him another chance and he did it again........
2006-09-24 00:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by ~hopeless love~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 10 years and there is one thing that I have learned is that sex and love are 2 different things. Sex is just an act and ANYONE can fall into temptation. Just because that person cheated does not mean that they don't love you. However, if It happens repeatedly then that person has no regard for your feelings and you may need to walk away from the relationship.
2006-09-24 00:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone makes mistakes and forgiveness should be considered but it should be based on the circumstances sirounding the cheating. Cheating occurs on many different levels and some instances are harder to forgive than others.
Just my thoughts.....
2006-09-24 04:26:53 · answer #5 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I already did (although I always said I never would if 'my' partner cheated on me - that is... until he did!!)...
It is SO HARD to trust them ever again when they do..
You may always be wondering..
Ever after (if you do give them another chance)..
2006-09-24 00:04:02 · answer #6 · answered by seaofcolour 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dunno. Scares the muffins out of me to think about it. I love her enough to say yes now, but would I still love her once I knew she had done it? Also, I think it would depend on the situation. If it was a bad deal on a drunken night or an affair with a pre-meditated result?
One is definately worse than the other. I could forgive a drunken mistake, but not anything sneaky.
VB
2006-09-23 23:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by Jester 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya, giving Mrs second chance right now
2006-09-24 00:03:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope! because if my bf cheated on me I wouldn't trust him anymore. So what's the use of being with each other without trust?
2006-09-24 00:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by Arianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say no...I would have to be presented with the situation first to know what my reaction would be. He may not wish to continue our marriage no matter what I wanted. In which case I would take him to the cleaners.
2006-09-24 08:47:24 · answer #10 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋