daddy trying to get joint custody in tennessee?

Question

agree child needs to see father but don't think a three month old needs to be away from mother overnight, much as well for a week. will a judge allow it. father sees son once a week for about 6 hours

he has not helped me at all with expenses and refuses to help with doctor bills. Also he has no drivers liscense due to drinking and driving, he lives in a trashy apartment above a gas station with no lock on door. Don't think I'm trying to keep him from daddy just really concerned

Answer 1

I think it is way to young to be away overnight! sure, children need their father, but BABYS need their mother. I know my son would have freaked if he stayed overnight with anyone! and if you are breast feeding, that is a whole other set of issues. I dont know what the judge will do, but i doubt he will let him take him for a week.. usualy they have to be over a certain age before they will allow that. good luck!!!

Answer 2

Actually, a father fighting for overnight stays with his 3 month old son sound like a decent Father. Must not have been a decent husband, but how many dads would even try for overnight stays this early?

It's a toss up. If, other than the reason for the divorce, he's a decent guy. Good job, No drugs, etc. it might not be too bad. It would give Mom a real night out with her friends. Shoot for maybe once a month for overnights and keep the weekly visits as they are.

Answer 3

You need to ask yourself how would you like to see your child only 6 hrs once a week? As long as the father is a good Dad & treats the baby well, he deserves to see the baby as much as you do. A child needs a mother and a father. I know it would be very hard to be away from your child, but think how hard it is for him too. The father needs to see his child more, they need more time to bond & get to know eachother. I am a mother as well & I know how hard it is for a mother to be away from her child, but I also know how important it is for that child to have a father. Don't try to shut the father out, try to get along and be fair, it's the best choice for the child.

Answer 4

Wrong or not I agree with you. Babies are hard work , and few men (sorry guys but its true) are ready for being up seven times a night to deal with baby's needs. Try to compromise but perhaps when baby is older. My son was 4 before I ever allowed an overnight with Dad, and even he agrees (now) that he would'nt have been able to handle him as a baby. Now my son is 11 and they go all over, but as a baby I could never have let him go.

Answer 5

I think he should see his son, but at three months the baby is WAY TO YOUNG to be away from mommy for long periods of time. I am sure the judge will see that also.

Answer 6

i dont know, if he is a responsible man, and a good dad, i think he should be allowed. I think a lot of men get the short end of the stick when it comes to this stuff. If the dad knows how to take care of the baby, then the only person this will be hard on is you!!!

Answer 7

I myself am a mommy to 4 kids age from 7-2 and as much as I hate their father I do believe all kids need there dad aswell as there mommy

Answer 8

truly it's up to the judge. However, a child needs a father. If the father is willing and competent, then i believe it should be allowed.

Answer 9

He doesnt sound like a huge threat. And, the toddlers cant testify, yet they could seek for suggestion from with a counselor, college education counselor or kinfolk well being care specialist about how they sense about this and the specialist opinion must be filed in courtroom for the prefer to verify. i ought to attempt this.

Answer 10

give him joint custody,trust and believe he will start making up an execuse,when it his week that he can't come.an if he really wanted joint custody,he will see his child more than once a week for six hours.beside you may need a little break.he may just be asking to be in your life as well,know what I mean.