I have asked a few quiestions on here before and the answers were great so can anyone help with this. Im 15 pregnant the dad is 22 I caught him cheating on me 3weeks ago with 2 other girls having another 1 of them pregnant he now wants nothing to do with me and says hes going to take my baby once hes born he hasnt helped prepare for the baby Ive (my parents) bought everything and helped me paint the babys nursey like theyve done it all he hasnt bought anything not even a pacifier. I told my mom if she filed statutory rape charges I would cooperate with her and the courts. I did consent to the sex with him but the state of texas says the age to consent to sex is 17 should I feel guilty for letting my mom press charges? (he's my first love)
2006-09-23 16:30:32 · 38 answers · asked by awesome_chick2009 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
No you should not feel guilty about it at all. Besides if he has not done anything for you or your baby your whole pregnancy he has no right to come along after and try to take the baby away.
2006-09-23 16:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by psyko_kittie12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is definitely statutory rape. Let your mother press charges against the guy. He will do time for it. No you should not be feeling guilty about that decision especially if you told him no. I can't help it if he is your first love. Move on with your life and be a good mother to your child. He is not the only man on earth, all in due time God will send you the right man . Just take care of yourself and the baby when it is born. Just until you finish high school maybe you should consider giving your mother temporary guardianship of your baby.
2006-09-23 16:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cannot legally take your baby from you. Charges or no charges. I was pregnant at 15 and found out the father was really 23 yr.old. I also found that he wanted to have babies but didn't want to care for them. What I mean is I wasn't the only one he got pregnant either. In fact, he was just having sex with girls. He did not care much about relationship or being a real family. He went on to break more hearts because he continued to prey on young teens.
I am 28 yr. old now with a almost 12 yr. old. I've learned a lot and know how to stay away from those guys. Learn how to take care of yourself physically and work on graduating for now. You will not have much time for this after your baby comes.
Taking care of a baby is time consuming. It is a 24 hour shift. Not many breaks. It will be all about baby then.
2006-09-23 16:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by momexeck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck no you shouldn't feel guilty! He's 22, you're 15! Even though it was consentual, he still preyed on you, because you are young. He's also not worthy of you or your baby, you're both better off without someone like him in your life. You did nothing wrong here, not one thing. He's the bad guy. I'm sorry that your first love didn't work out, but there are plenty of fish in the sea, and when you're ready, (and a little older), you'll find him. It sounds like you have really good, involved, parents who love you, so right now just concentrate on getting ready for your baby, it's harder than it seems, and stay in school because an education is very important! Good luck!
Ps. This guy isn't going to take the baby, the courts favor mothers, he's a sexual predator, and you seem like a smart and capable girl. You've got much more in your favor than he does!
2006-09-23 16:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by iamdaphneblake 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No. You need to have the charges pressed against him. I know its easier said than done, but do NOT feel guilty for charging him. He obviously does not care about you or the baby one single bit. Don't even think for a second he does. My cousin went through the same thing with her babys father (who was also years older than her). Her daughter is now 14 months old and she keeps crawling back to him like an idiot. He has threatened to take her daughter away from her, slept with other girls, all that.... two months ago, he put a gun up to their daughters head during a fight the two of them were having (something you would NEVER think he would do). Luckily, nothing happened, but guys like that are NOT good to be around, ESPECIALLY for your child to be around. Your child will be much better and safer without a man like that in their life.
2006-09-23 16:39:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was 16 when i found out i was pregnant and 1 month b4 i turned 17 i had my baby... her daddy has never seen her nor did any thing 4 her she'll b 5 in February.... i had my parents they wanted 2 press charges but i wouldn't let them... he wasn't my 1st. i think that had he been a man and stood up 4 himself everything would have been okay.(he let a woman dictate 2 him that it was not his cause she knew me which was a lie as he soon found out!!!) granted i knew what i was doing but i really wasn't prepared for the challenges that lied ahead of me...i was 16 he lied and said he was 18 after i was about 3 1/2 months pregnant is when i found out his real age.that's also when i found out that he had a girlfriend and his girlfriend wanted to fight me!!!! when my baby was 2 1/2 years old another girl had a baby 4 him and wanted 2 fight me cause my child is his 1st born!! i have since then 4given him and moved on with my life.. my parents wanted 2 press charges on him but i asked them not 2 cause i felt we both knew what we were doing.... my baby have never wanted 4 any thing and has a great man 2 look up 2... if any thing he'll miss out on some of the child's most precious moments!! it'll be his loss 2!! stay strong and give birth 2 a healthy baby!!!!
mother of a 4 1/2 year old beauty.
mother of an angel gone back 2 HEAVEN on 7-20-06
2006-09-23 17:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by MZ.SMOOTH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys can be such *******. I'm glad to hear that you have such great parents to help you out. I was 16 when I had my first and all I had was my parents. My daughter's father hasn't bought her a thing yet and she'll be 5 in March. You shouldn't feel guilty at all for your mother pressing charges. Do you think he feels guilty about taking your childhood away? Or for not helping you out? And if you press charges you don't have to worry about him taking your baby when you have him. He'll be in jail. You may think he's your first love, but you're still young,.. you haven't experienced much at all. Believe me when you get older and more mature, you'll learn what true love really is. Good luck with everything ;)
2006-09-23 16:43:19 · answer #7 · answered by y4h00_f4c3s_4r3_s0_cut3 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please press the charges! You may have consented, but he took advantage of you. Don't worry about the baby, the courts almost always favor the mommy, and besides, you seem to have very loving parents, and they will be taken into consideration if the case does go to court. When you do press charges, make sure that you have a restraining order against him for you AND the baby if possible. Good luck!
2006-09-23 16:42:45 · answer #8 · answered by cailincox 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What? I was in the same situation. I was 15 and he was 23. He left me alone for months but I wasn't about to throw the father of my baby in jail.
The fact is that life in cold and hard. You have learned that lesson early. The baby you are carrying is your child and your responsibility. You should have used protection.
I really don't know what you think you a 15 year old girl could offer a 23 year old man except for sex.
You are 100% wrong in sending him to jail. When ur baby is three and asks you where his daddy is do u feel comfortable saying, I had him locked up?
It's good you have support for your child but you need to take that first step into adulthood, walk upstairs and tell your parents you were angry at him but you want to take the charges back.
He did mess up also by being with a minor but he has the right to be a father to his child. Ho do u expect to get child support if he is in jail and Will be for the next 5-10 years and all this time ur child will never even been held b his dad, Don't do that 2 ur baby think of him.
U never know he may mature in the next few years and be a good role model and father for ur child
Now 6 years later my baby's father and I are best friends
2006-09-23 16:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by lamikashi 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I say, press charges. He has no respect for you, if he is cheating on you and threatening you. A man who loves you would not behave like that. As far as letting you mom adopt the baby, like one lady below me said, don't do it. If you and your mom fall out for what ever reason she could legally keep your baby from you. You would have to give up all parental rights to do it. I'm not telling you to act all crazy in your mom's house, have some respect for her and your dad because they love you and are sticking by you. Feel blessed because a lot of people can't say that. You just need to hang in there, your life is going to change a lot (in good ways and in ways that aren't so good), but as long as you stay strong you can make it through. You don't need a man like your baby's father in your life, so don't stress the fact that you are doing something that is going to piss him off. Even though you may not realize it now, he took a lot from you.
2006-09-23 16:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by Erica M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he might have been your 1st love, but you didn't have great judgement when you chose this guy, did you? Your mom sees HER baby (you) about to have her entire life turned upside down because you decided to have unprotected sex at 15 with a major loser. If I were your mom, I'd be furious at your poor decision making and I'd be worried, as I'm sure your parents will be basically raising this baby now...I don't blame her for pressing charges...HE should have known better as he was the older one in this "relationship." I sincerely hope you grow up fast, as you are now going to be responsible for the welfare and well being of an innocent child who will be looking to you as a role model.
2006-09-23 16:42:25 · answer #11 · answered by becka55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋