We have not seen each other in 3 months and I will not see him before January. I told him many times that he is doing a mistake. I think about him all day. When I do not talk or @ him for a while, then he worries and chases me. He still wants to divorce me though. He says he is happy with her but every time I talk to him, he sounds depressed. What shall I do? I want him to fall in love with me again.
2006-09-23 16:27:25 · 20 answers · asked by Frenchie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he was ready to get back with you after acknowledging depression, but he didn't, then he's not ready....or he's not even thinking of that as a solution to his depression. If you have any chance at all to reunite, I think it would be counter-productive to continue to 'work on him', even lightly, but rather you should remain at a distance and non-pressure bearing. It's his decision to make. There's nothing more you can do to change him. He knows you're receptive to his return. He either will or won't, but his choice won't be influenced by any external coaxing.
2006-09-23 16:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like YOU have now become the other woman. Are you sure that you want to be in that place? And if so why? Don't you think you are worth more than that? As for making someone fall in love with you again....you cant MAKE someone fall in love with you.
You should really go talk to someone about this.
Good luck hope things work out for you
2006-09-23 23:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated on you once already. If you take him back, your behavior of staying in touch, and showing interest in him will only tell him that it is ok for him to cheat again. He is playing you hoping that you will be a side dish for him. Get on with your life. Realize that he doesnt have much respect for women and find a real man who will respect yu and treat you with dignity.
2006-09-23 23:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To honest, you need help. You are suffering from low self esteem honey. Any person who do that to you is not worth having. Take him back without the proper help and you will regret it highly. Take yourself out of the love race until you feel better about you.
2006-09-23 23:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you tell him how you feel?? If he still wants to pursue the divorce and other relationship....stop seeing him no matter how hard it is. He sounds like he wants his cake and would like to eat it too. Don't let him have it both ways....if he won't stay with you for your own good and peace of mind....move on.
2006-09-23 23:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by Sparky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you have, some sick need to be punished? He sounds like such a major loser to me, I am wondering why on earth you would want him back. Count your blessings, girl, be glad to be rid of him and find yourself someone who knows how to act in a relationship.
2006-09-23 23:30:39 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's really nothing you can do to get him back. He has made his choice. His choice is to divorce you for the other girl.
Leave him be and move on. You don't need this two-timing loser.
2006-09-23 23:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by Tara662 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok if he cheated on you once then he will cheat on you again. once a cheater always a cheater. dont put up with his crap find someone who will appreciate you for who you are and not string you along.sometimes when one door closes another one opens. consider your relationship with him a closed door and try to find the open door that will lead you to happiness not misery. because that is what you will have if you chose to stay with him.
2006-09-23 23:44:24 · answer #8 · answered by dzjoni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on and dont talk to him until he is not with her anymore and comes to you and says he wants to be with you and only you. Currently, it sounds like you are just being played or kept on the back burner or whatever ya want to call it. Dont allow yourself to be #2. He's with her, move on. good luck
2006-09-23 23:31:08 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick this fool to the curb and don't take his calls anymore. Don't allow him to treat you the way he is treating you. He is keeping you hanging on, just in case. Be strong for yourself and move on.
Good luck!
2006-09-23 23:30:53 · answer #10 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋