My husband wanted space and I moved in with my mom (with our baby). I found out after a few months that he had been sleeping with someone else in my house in my bed! He said that space means we were seperated. I don't agree. He claims he is still in love with me, but doesn't even seem regretful that he slept with someone else. We talk about trying to work things out, but now I am totally disgusted to have sex with him. I can't even stand being in my own house. We still don't live together. Should I even try to forget and forgive?
2006-09-23 16:12:04 · 32 answers · asked by golden2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's more space than I would allow,,,,,,,,,,,,,,maybe you need some space.............
2006-09-23 16:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mistake you made was leaving. If he's the one that wanted space, he's the one that should have left. But with that said, IF you think you could work through the hurt, then I would forgive and forget, as well as forget him and go for a divorce.
2006-09-23 16:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure is good to forgive and forget, because is not good to have that ugly feeling inside of you. But not because you forgive him doesn't mean that you should be back with him. In my opinion now your the one who needs space, because if you feel disgusted around him you are not ready to be back with him. And analyze this please..... If he doesn't regret sleeping with another woman in your house, hon let me tell you something he doesn't really love you then. JUst in case if you go back with him, the best thing is to move from that house, becuase that would only remind you about that horrible moment in you marriage.
2006-09-23 16:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by Albert M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say that if your husband is catting around so early in your marriage, and especially right after a baby, he probably won't change. If he ever does change, it will be after he's already screwed up this marriage.
You could go to counseling and try and stay with him, but if you have the strength to leave, and have any support at all, then you owe it to yourself to move on.
I wish I could talk to you personally. alicia
2006-09-26 00:38:09 · answer #4 · answered by Alicia Smith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so sad when men just think they can skip all the hard work in raising a child. and move on to the next one. My husband has left me after 21 years for another girl. Just look at in this way ,you are better off with out him
2006-09-23 22:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst part of this problem is that you have a child together. If you go back to him he will probably cheat again. If you think about it a little he has always shown you that he isnt a faithful type of guy. Always gawking at other women or making comments about them. It would be best to try to raise your child where you are, with your parents.
2006-09-23 16:35:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously isnt devoted to you, so take your baby and get away from the asshole. No one deserves an *** like that. And don't think that just because you found out about one woman that there havent been more than that. No offense, just being real.
2006-09-23 16:21:00 · answer #7 · answered by Reese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sleeping with someone else is NOT wanting space. Honestly If I were you I would not waste another breath on him. You can do better.
2006-09-23 16:18:06 · answer #8 · answered by beez224 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to some counseling for yourself. Then, move back into the house and be real nice. Have the house redecorated.....especially the bedroom. Do it up real nice........then kick the bum out. Have divorce papers filed and "surprise" him......why should you move out with a baby??? DUH!!! Grow some balls, sweetie and let him all the spece he wants. He is a looser and a bum. Once a cheat always a cheat!!!
2006-09-23 16:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him. Get the house and get custody of the baby. He doesn't love you...not if hes cheating on you. Hes a dog. Divorce him and find somebody who will be faithful to you and treat you right.
2006-09-23 16:15:13 · answer #10 · answered by Blah..... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really isn't regretful that he slept with someone else then he shouldn't say hes still in love with you. Hes really selfish and since he isn't regretful i say leave him and don't give him another thought.
2006-09-23 16:16:11 · answer #11 · answered by PinkGem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋