I am only 12 but still i am worried i am already having peer presure to have sex and i have never had my first kiss and people are already on my case! I am actually really really scared because my older sister who is 16 was super close to having sex with her ex-boyfriend. I am a christian so i want to stay a virgin for a long time but i mean does it hurt?! How do you know if it is the right person? Is it true that if you wait GOD with make it worth while and not have it be so painful?
2006-09-23 16:03:43 · 17 answers · asked by Jaime D 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just wait, keep believing in God and praying that the temptation will no be so great. When I refer to temptation, that is the devil telling you it is ok, but it is not, listen to God and wait till you are married. God bless you child.
2006-09-23 16:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by morris 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's a trick of fate that your body becomes more mature than your mind when you're 12 years old. Although you have all these feelings physically, you have a long ways to go before you can handle the emotional ramifications of having sex. For instance, have you thought about what would happen if the boy promised that he loved you, so you had sex with him, then he ignored you and never talked to you again? What if he told all his friends you were "easy"? What if your period was late and you worried that you're pregnant, even though you used a condom? Who would you be able to talk to in those situations? It's a huge step, and one you should wait until you're much more mature and able to handle all the "what ifs" after you have sex. You sound like a smart girl, so you will understand that you won't ever regret having waited. But you may very well regret not waiting. Good luck.
2006-09-23 23:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it is pretty painful the first time around. I'm going to give you advise and you should really listen. I'm 15 and I'm about to have a baby yeah I'm happy but my dreams and goals are going to be a lot harder to accomplish and I started having sex at 12 if i could go back i would and i would wait. your question to knowing if its the right guy well when your married your husband will be the right guy just wait and ignore peer pressure if your friends are on your case you might want to get some new ones ..ones that support your descion to stay a virgin.
2006-09-23 23:12:42 · answer #3 · answered by awesome_chick2009 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I didn't get my first kiss until i was 14. I didn't want to kiss just anyone, I wanted it to be special...and if you feel the same then it's worth the wait. screw everyone else who is teasing you about it. stick with your choice and you wont regret it later, i promise. If you want to stay a virgin for a long time, then do so. When you're ready to have sex, you'll just know it. When you find the right person, you'll know it too. Just dont have sex for the wrong reasons....its something that is meant to bring two people closer together, not because everyone else is doing it and you want to fit in....It'll probably hurt reguardless, but im not going to contridicit your beliefs. good luck. :)
2006-09-23 23:10:24 · answer #4 · answered by xopinkcarnationox 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to go against the crowd and say that you don't have to lose your virginity to "the right person". However, you DO have to wait until you're physically, emotionally and psychologically ready.
I had my first kiss when I was sixteen, and had sex for the first time when I was eighteen. When I had sex for the first time, I WAS NOT worried. I WAS NOT scared. I WAS NOT embarassed about my body. I WAS comfortable telling the guy I was with exactly what made me feel good. I DID know a lot about protection from sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy. I DID have a plan in place for what would happen if I got pregnant.
If waiting until marriage feels good, then wait. If you want to have sex before you're married, make sure that you're in a situation that you're comfortable with. It helps to know your body- get a mirror and check out what you look like down there. Get some free condoms from the family planning clinic, open one up and check it out. If the thought of going to a clinic and asking for condoms makes you feel embarassed, that's a really good sign that you're not ready to have sex yet.
Another good idea: Wait until you've met a guy who wants to make YOU feel good. It's not just about sticking it in. There's a lot more to it than that! I can honestly say that the guys I knew when I was a teenager had no clue about how to make sex enjoyable for a girl. It wasn't until college that I met guys who were concerned with my satisfaction too.
2006-09-24 00:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by Jetgirly 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sex at your age is an absolute NO NO. Please stay focus on the things of Christ and your Christian teachings. Abstenstience is the best way to go in order to avoid all the traps of teenage sexual activities.
Besides feel empowered through your Christian teachings and do not bow to peer pressure. You are a precious jewel and don't trade that in your anyone or anything.
Keep believing. You have everything inside you to overcome sexual temptation. And yes God will definitely make it worth the wait. He's going to bring the right person in your life at the right time.
2006-09-23 23:32:45 · answer #6 · answered by solgiver 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know that this is a question for the ladies to answer but if you really want to wait until you get married there is nothing wrong with that. I have not met to many girls that can do that. My wife is pregnant and I am hoping for a little girl so I just felt like I had to tell you don't give into peer pressure. You spoke your mind so I know that in your mind you know what is right. good luck
2006-09-23 23:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by James Henderson 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you have the brains to even ask this question so I'll be honest with you. Sex is totally over-rated. I had sex the first time when I was 13. It hurt, but more than that it was just really disturbing to me. It wasn't anything like everyone makes it out to be and I couldn't even figure out why anyone would want to do that. As far as I'm concerned, the only people who really enjoy sex that young are the guys and baby, they always enjoy it, that's why they are always trying to get you to do it. I finally found a person I really love, who really loves me. We are married and now I'm expecting our first child. I enjoy sex with him very much and I really wish I had just waited because I feel like he is so wonderful that he would have deserved to be my first. And I feel that I deserved better than having a terrible first time. Don't listen to those other kids. There are SO many better, more fun, more pleasurable things to be doing with your teen years than sleeping around. Really, it's totally not worth it. I wish you luck out there, I know it's tough, but you're a smart girl and you deserve to have the best man for you be your first. You will know when it's right, believe me. :)
2006-09-23 23:37:31 · answer #8 · answered by redzodd 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it's the right person, you will know beyond a shadow of a doubt. If you have to stop even for a second to ask yourself if it's right and if you're ready-- then you're not ready. I waited until I was 21, and I am so glad that I did. Believe me, there's no rush. Oh--and it doesn't hurt physically THAT much the first time. And if you're really ready, and really in love, the little pain you do feel is nothing.
2006-09-23 23:13:05 · answer #9 · answered by Jess H 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're only twelve years old... Please keep your mind on things like school, your friends, and since you are relgious -- God. I know that when I was twelve, I worried about those things, too, but stay young and enjoy your youth because it passes you by so quickly.
When you meet the right person in a few years, you will know. If you doubt even a little bit, then don't do it. You'll feel when it's the right time.
2006-09-24 02:51:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋