Guys at my school keep calling me a dyke. My hair is really short and I do like girls, but do I really deserve being called that name? Please help.
2006-09-23 15:54:28 · 20 answers · asked by xxmyhands_stained_redxx 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
honestly, that happened to me when i moved to a small hick town in suckvill usa-i hate it here, can u tell. lol, at first it was like-whoa, what the hell did i do to u? then i figured-they're asses. i found a way to get them to back the **** off. i take it as a compliment, as soon as it stops hurting u, and u scream out, damn right i'm a dyke, and i like it that way, they have nothing they can use against you. plus it stumps them, they have no idea what to say, their power over you is lost. or u could kick their asses and end it with that.
but, that can get u into a lot of troble
2006-09-23 19:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by Dark Angel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, honestly it depends on where you live. If you live in a place that truly recognizes this type of behavior towards gays and lesbians then it sounds as if you have a great chance here to complain about harassment. If you tell the school and the school does nothing to prevent the harassment from happening then they become responsible. I'm not sure of all of the legalities of it, but at least tell the school and if they do not put a stop to it, I would talk to a lawyer.
My girlfriend was called a dyke where she works. She complained. All 3 of the men were brought in and put on probation with the threat of losing their jobs.
If we as a community do not stand up for ourselves, the harassment and abuse that takes place will never stop. I know it is hard and it can sometimes feel as if no one understands or cares, but there are more of us out here than you know. We know what it is like to deal with the abuse and the prejudice. Our community has come a long way; the world has come a long way in accepting us. Both sides need to come further for this world to be a better place.
Hang in there. Stand up for yourself but do not "tell them off" or make a fool of yourself. Show them how much smarter you are than them. Use the system that has been put into place. If that doesn't work, there are lots of lesbian/gay places you can ask for help...for example, Lambda legal has a websight. You should check it out. It might be helpful.
Keep your chin up.
Labrys
2006-09-23 23:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by labryslvr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The value of man is not the body; it is the spirit.
Work hard in your education, you will realize that you are extremely high beyond all criticism and praise. And with a little more learning, your schoolmates will know that they better take care of their own learning if they don't want to bring their lives to real shame.
This may require some time and some patience, but it is worth to try. I think there might be no other better ways than this. If there were, why don't you try with them? And you should also seek advices from the elders in your family.
2006-09-23 23:12:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that you are from the USA, This is a free country. But it is a free country for everybody. You are free to look and act like a dyke if you so choose. Other are free to form their own opinions. Grow up. Take responsibility for the results of your choices. No one owes you anything. Freedom of speech is a right we all share.
2006-09-24 00:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by garfielddean1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly kids are just mean they are probably calling you that just to get a laugh out of there friends. Usually if you act like it bothers you they are going to do it more. Two of my best friends are lesbians and I know that people bothered them a lot in school and she just kept a positive attitude towards others and eventually people left her alone or realized that she was a great person and became friends with her. If it gets REALLY out of hand I would definitely tell a teacher or principle that you are being harassed. You deserve respect.
2006-09-23 23:01:48 · answer #5 · answered by artfreak0124 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a bisexual female from the age of 12 I understand what you are saying. I am now 30 yrs old and have 2 kids. Been married for nearly 10 yrs. People still think that I am strange but I dont let what they think or say bother me. I am my own person and thats all that matters.
As for you ..... If you are happy with whom you are then you shouldnt let these boys bother you. Tell them to screw off and keep right on being who you are.
2006-09-23 23:03:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one deserves to be called any name that is offensive. If you want a funny retort tell them they may call you names but at least they call me. Other than trying to be funny about it if you ignore them eventually they will stop,if you go along with it and agree nine times out of ten they will stop sooner :]
2006-09-23 23:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you have to go through this, look them in the eye and calmly say "I feel sorry for you" and walk away. If they do not stop or do more either tell your principal or get your parents to press charges against them for harrassment. People who do this are very insecure. Be strong and walk with your head held high. Good luck to you !
2006-09-23 23:10:28 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds lilke sexual harassment, and you do NOT have to tolerate it. One thing you can do is tease them back and say "just because you can't have me doesn't mean I'm a d*** - it only means that you are losers!" Then laugh - it drives guys nuts. If they still continue to do it, file a sexual harassment lawsuit and be sure to get plenty of documentation to prove it - then those guys won't find it so funny anymore.
2006-09-23 22:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by Paul H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sonds to me that you have a problem with bullying and sexual harassment.What I should do (according to my years of expereince) is to talk to your parents (or a close older relative) and talk about this. Then notify school officials. If that does not work, try finding out the "bullies" schedule ans stay away from them.
2006-09-24 00:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by aeverine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋