im 46 and my girlfriend is 52. my job takes me away for 3 weeks at a time and she works in an office mon-fri. we have no kids at home and talk several times a day on the phone. heres the problem. when i com home i want sex the first night(not as soon as i walk in the door) and this seems to piss her off. i have tried bringing flowers, cards, going out to dinner, etc...then in the bedroom i try long soft kisses, gentle touching, giving her oral till she cums, back rubs, fondling, extented forplay and then after all this then we have intercourse and then lay in each others arms. then to compromise the next couple of nights we cuddle and watch tv cuz if i try and have sex with her every night im home she gets mad, then on my last day in (usually 3-4) i want sex 1 more time before i leave. i thought i was doing what she wanted but she a couple of days later said she just has sex with me the first night cux thats what i require. what do i do
2006-09-23 15:41:26 · 22 answers · asked by keithy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One thing you need to know, When some women reach a certain age They just don't want it as much or certain meds. works the same way on women that it does on men. They also may have some issues to. Take some time to ask her, you may get your answer your self. Good Luck, Becky
2006-09-23 18:39:22 · answer #1 · answered by Becky H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her what the problem could be? Is her job stressful? Is she on any medication? There are alot of reasons why a woman is not hot to trot all the time. Fatigue or lack of vitamins could be the cause. A stressful job could also be the reason. Hormonal? how far is she from menopause? How long have you been together? I would begin by making sure that physically, she is OK. Mentally stable, and comfortable in the relationship. Love has nothing to do with sex, for a woman. It has very much to do with the stability and trust in the relationship. I love my husband dearly, but sometimes, I am so tired, I have a job, a home, a teenager and alot of things on my mind. I am a decade younger than your girlfriend, and I am already tired.
2006-09-23 22:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by twelfntwelf3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know how long you have been married but I do know that when a person has been around a person for a number of years that they learn that persons habits, dislikes, and likes. Did she have a problem with you traveling when you first got together? If she didn't than why should it be any different than before. I know women can go through menopause or sometimes not even enjoy sex anymore. If that is not the case than she is having sex with someone else. I know if my husband is gone 3 weeks at a time, I would be ready to rip his clothes off when he steps in the door. Let me ask you this. Do the things that you used to do to make her happy make her unhappy now? If so, than she's got someone else.
2006-09-23 22:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by Still_21_nheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she going through menopause, sometimes women her age aren't interested in the same way she used to due to hormonal changes. .Although it's not fair to you, it's a fact of life none the less. Ask her what the problem is.Has she met someone else while you
were away? You didn't mention if her attitude towards sex with you has changed or if it's always been this way..
Communication is the best start to understanding where she's coming from.
Good for you in working hard at trying to please her,she's a lucky woman to have such an understanding man.
2006-09-23 22:53:23 · answer #4 · answered by lcsotter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show her this post (joking) try not asking her for sex. bring her the flowers the card. then sit and have a nice chat. don't give her any oral a kiss on the cheek is fine. then she may see what she is missing and want to give it to you as you walk through the door. she sounds a bit selfish maybe she has issues with you going away. talk to her. if it doesn't work do the above. she will be begging for some.
2006-09-23 22:52:10 · answer #5 · answered by sexylousleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really don't know why she would be upset. it's not unreasonable to think that you would want to have sex with her the first day you get back and the last day before you leave and as much as possible in between. you are going to be gone for 3 weeks which is a long time to go without. have you tried asking her why she feels the way she does?
2006-09-23 22:46:17 · answer #6 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the two of you need more COMMUNICATION. She has these preconceived notions of what you need and you have your preconceived notions of what she likes. You both need to talk to each other as to why you aren't so close that when you get home, she doesn't want to jump into your arms and into your pants. Then again, with the hours you keep, it's really hard to keep fanning a flame alive. Good luck.
2006-09-23 22:45:44 · answer #7 · answered by yodeladyhoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you understand women at all?
We need to know you before sex. That means everyday. In other words when you come home she has to acclimate to you before her desire happens.
Try to be more understanding of her brain. The flowers are just to get her in the sack and deep down she knows it.
2006-09-23 22:45:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you're saying is true, find some who loves and appreciates you. Obviously, she does not..Most women (in love) would be screwing your brains out after three weeks apart. Just a bit of advice from a female someone who knows.
2006-09-23 22:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by risa131313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably has a boyfriend, pal, and is getting plenty of sex while you are gone. The relationship is not going well.....you are not meeting each others needs. Perhaps it time to move on.
2006-09-23 22:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋