I am a mother of a 7 yr old. My daughter and her 4 friends like to get to gether and play every day. sometimes theres 10 grils at my house. Today was a different day. Two of the girls hurt my daughters fellings and did not want to come in the house to help clean up. So i told them that where not aloud in my house til they can help clean up. I need to know if i over reacted or am i just getting tried of helping my daughter clean up her and her friends mess?
2006-09-23 15:36:33 · 26 answers · asked by nothere 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It does not sound like you overreacted at all. You are probably not only tired of cleaning up after your daughter and her friends, but coupled with her hurt feelings today, it was probably enough to finally put your foot down.
2006-09-23 15:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by lovemcss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man, I just don't know, but unless you've got an awfully big house and a maid to boot, having ten girls, or even four for that matter, under the same roof at one time is just way too many. Do these other girls' parents take turns having your little girl as well as the rest of the troop over at their houses? Because if they don't, you're really running a sort of day-care center and the other parents are getting your service for free.
But no, I think you certainly are justified to not let the girls back in who don't want to be part of the cleaning up part of things.
2006-09-23 22:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's right what you said, hopefully in a nice way. You could have just said, they couldn't come back over again if they don't want to clean up their mess. Also, just tell the girls that mean comments won't be tolerated if they want to play. Also tell your daughter that some kids say mean things to others because they could be feeling bad about themselves and don't know how to express their feelings. Tell her to let it bounce off of her. Build her up and make her strong mentally/emotionally so that crazy comments and foolish people won't hurt her. And besides, they are just kids being kids. They'll be friends again tomorrow. However they have to learn to.
Plus, stop having kids over every day. Let her go to the other kids house. Unless you're a baby sitter, that is too much work to keep your daughter happy and her friends entertained. Daily visitation is too much.
2006-09-23 22:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by pinkandpretty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids have stupid fights. The girls didn't want to come in the house because they were probably afraid you would yell at them for hurting your daughter's feelings. Have them clean up before they go out in the first place. I don't think you can control anyone except your own kid, and once your daughter becomes friends with these girls again, do you really want to forbid them from coming to your house? Make cleaning up your daughter's responsibility and she'll quickly learn that she'd better pull some of her friends in to help or she's going to have a lot of work to do all alone. Then if she doesn't want to invite the girls who don't help, it's her choice instead of yours.
2006-09-23 22:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having 10 kids over at your house frequently is a bit much. Instead of giving those 2 girls an ultimatum you should have sat down and explained to them that even if they got into a fight with your daughter, they need to help clean up like everyone else - because they helped make the mess.
2006-09-23 22:38:59 · answer #5 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The little brats need to help clean up every once in a while!!! Especially the ones who come over on a daily basis... You could have handled it a little better though, by calling their parents after they had left & asking them to speak to their own kids about it.
If the adults get all offended that you expect their perfect little angels to help out once in a while, don't stress it... You are teaching your daughter well by showing her good manners!!!
Most kids these days just don't care because they know Mommy & Daddy will fix everything for them!
2006-09-23 22:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by Little Tiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Telling your daughters friends that they're not "allowed" at the house probably isn't the best idea because it may deter them from coming over even after they've made up.
Next time they're invited over....try to reiterate the importance of helping to clean up and community responsibility. Hopefully then, it'll work out better.
2006-09-23 22:41:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you is that when my daughter was younger I expected everyone who made the mess to stick around and clean up, whether they WANTED to or not. If they couldn't help clean up they were not allowed into my home again. They could play outside but they were not allowed inside. The fact that they hurt your daughter's feelings is something that your daughter and them will have to sort out themselves, and you should stay out of that part of it.
2006-09-23 22:41:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guests shouldn't be responsible for cleaning up your house. At 7 years old your daughter can help. What's wrong with you? When you go out to eat; do you "bus" your own table? When you go to a Christmas Party do you clean up the person's house. When you invite people over for dinner at your home ; Do you make them sing for their supper? If you can't handle the girls then you shouldn't invite them over. You don't need help with your daughter's friends ; you just need help with learning the etiquette of hospitality.
2006-09-23 22:47:21 · answer #9 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They should help clean up. You should talk to the parents and tell them why you said the girls were not allowed to come back for a while and that if it continues you will not be the one who hosts all the play times.
2006-09-23 22:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by Angie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋