Well when I was 8 I was sexually molested then started to gain a lot of weight I didnt loose it until i was 17 and had sex for the first time when I was 18. Ive been having trouble getting erect but not all the time. It really stresses me out when I cant get it up and I went to a doctor before they told me It i had nothing wrong physically Just wondering if anybody has some suggestions or tips please help.
2006-09-23 15:26:49 · 27 answers · asked by T B 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Sweetheart, it often takes years for the affects of childhood sexual abuse to surface and one of the first ways is to effect your sex life as an adult, here are links to some books and other sites that might help, but, please get into therapy to help overcome that horrible part of your past. Good Luck and God Bless. (You can find these and many other books on this subject at your local library, if it embarrasses you to check them out, say you are doing research for a Master's Degree.)
http://www.amazon.com/Ghosts-Bedroom-Partners-Incest-Survivors/dp/155874116X
http://www.psychotherapist.net/adultsurvivors.html
http://www.survivors-treehouse.net/
http://www.amazon.ca/Adult-Survivors-Childhood-Sexual-Abuse/dp/0471972231/sr=1-10/qid=1159065277/ref=sr_1_10/702-7987679-2814440?ie=UTF8&s=books
2006-09-23 15:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Daydream Believer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-23 02:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear that you were molested. It sounds like you have alot of emotional scarring and it's effecting you sexually. I would say get counceling. You probably have issues that need to come out in the open, and that might help.
2006-09-23 15:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a professional to bring this out into the light so you don't blame yourself (for God sake you were only 8) and to forgive the person who did this to you. God will take care of the punishment. Are you sure you don't have any health problems. Have you thought about your sexuality or studied sex at all. Most guys have the opposite problem. I hope you take care of yourself.
2006-09-23 15:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely it could have something to do with it. Do you get erections in your sleep? If you do you do not have an erection problem you have an emotional problem. You should ONLY see a reputable licensed counselor EXPERIENCED in sexual abuse. Also I would stay away from "new age" or even religioous counselors that dwell on forgiveness. You do not have to forgive anyone if you do not want to.
2006-09-23 15:30:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've seen a doctor, you might want to get a second opinion or see a specialist.
You could also see a counselor and work on some of the emotional issues.
2006-09-23 15:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they talking to a therapist....definately sounds like your repressed emotions from the abuse is causing you to not create an erection as a defense mechanism.....in order for your mind to fight off the thoughts of sexual experiences as harmful, your mind decides not to produce an erection to avoid that harm and create sexual safety....
same thing happens to kids who are beaten by parents (or others) for talking so much (which is never the real reason they are beaten) and they are told to keep quite......sometimes these kids grow up to become mute, because thier body is afraid that if they talk they will be harmed...so in order to defend thier safety that DO NOT SPEAK....
i hope u get the correlation i'm trying to make and talk to that therapist.....good luck
2006-09-23 15:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be... Focus on the situations that traumatized you. Focus some more. And defuse them. Find a way... life is very short, and you don't have much time to enjoy sex if you allow this to control you. Dig deep, but it might help to have someone to talk to. (just be careful if they try to push 'meds' on you.)
2006-09-23 15:29:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
erectile dysfunction, impotence in this young age is mostly pshychological even if you undergo an extensive workup, see a pshychiatrist for any depression evaluation, then consider viagra, your doctor may want to run some tests before you get labelled inorganic impotence, good luck
2006-09-23 15:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by HK3738 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it can cause psychological distress. You need to find a psychologist you can relate to..someone that you feel comfortable enough to discuss what happened to you.
Start with your parents. If that makes you uncomfortable, talk to your doctor. He will guide you to a good counselor.
2006-09-23 15:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by vze2wy4t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋