I just had a huge argument with my husband. He asked me to return a book to the library and I did. He put another book together with the one he asked me to return. As he was leaving I asked himwant this one too he said "Do as I said" ...Now he asked why did I not return both.... I am so mad. But this is not the first time, he is always hang-up on small details and makes me so mad... HE DOES NOT SEE that I work, clean take care of the kids and him too.... WHO TAKES care of me??? Why are husbands a bit dumb at times and do not understand that they too have to apologize if they did something wrong? He is wrong how the hell am I suppose to read his mind. SO my question is why don't husbands apologize when they are wrong?
2006-09-23 15:23:28 · 33 answers · asked by Marina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We as men sometimes do not want to hear about your day...You know how you want to tell us all sorts of details about you and what happened to you...Sometimes we have very much on our minds that we need to think it through. the last thing we want to deal with is ANOTHER problem...no matter how little or insignificant.
I am not making excuses for your husband but it sounds like he needs his space....You know how you as a woman may feel like you are surrounded by this HUGE wall that makes you feel like you are in a well....sometimes we need to be alone in our thoughts...we will bounce back....99% of the time, we are mad at something and it is NOT YOU
Quit worrying and sleep it off....discuss it tomorrow and share with him how he made you feel without being needy, naggy or arming your self with ammunition for a future fight.
I hope this helps
2006-09-23 15:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by e_guanajuato 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Pride. And, is this that big of a deal. My goodness. A library book? I could tell you some stories. A library book you should be able to get over. Pick your battles. Luck to both and try to laugh at this. A LIBRARY BOOK, I only wish a library book was all I had to worry about. Oh, you did say it was 2. HA! Now, do as he says! ha ha again.
2006-09-23 17:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by teacher1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men view apologizing , but not all, as a sign of weakness ; but then it is also said that men keep quiet when women talk alot becuase you can never say anything that she will beleive. Some times you have to state your case and let him think about it for awhile hoping time will change the problem.
2006-09-23 15:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some men are totally pigheaded and this is the only way they feel like "a big man" to have control over their wives...
This might or might not make you feel better....but you are definitely not the only woman going through this. Every woman I know has the exact same problem. Just try to focus on your kids and make sure you do the best job possible for them and not allow your husband to get to you.....he's just taking advantage of his testosterone when he acts this way!
2006-09-23 15:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by jenny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most men, not all will think they are always right no matter what the case may be. He sounds a bit controlling. If this is the case he will never change his point of view or how he feels about something. You will be the one wrong and him right.
2006-09-23 15:28:16 · answer #5 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO AS I SAID??????
well shame on you for being a slave to a Neandrathal
In a day when women can stand on their own 2 feet and take care of themselves
Obviously he treats you like a child..next thing you know he will tell you that you are grounded too.
Get out the picket sign...you just signed up for strike duty
Tell him to take his own book back next time ..he is a jerk
And if you want an apology..... ask for it
but I wouldn't hold my breath if I was you
2006-09-23 15:30:06 · answer #6 · answered by Blondie 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Because most guys think the argument is over when the griping stops and they move on. Women tend to hold grudges and want apologies.
2006-09-23 15:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by RKC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the same reason that they wont ask for directions when they are lost. They always think they have things figured out and that they are right if anything they feel we should be the ones to apologize first.
2006-09-23 15:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
they have little man brains. they can't help it. trust me, there are a million other women just like us...who bust their butts doing everything for everyone else, putting ourselves last on the list.
Look at it this way..if you did leave it all up to him, your house would be a DISASTER, and your kids would be 100 pound overweight from all the fast food he would serve them.
Put the remote in his hand and ignore him. Unfortunately, he won't go away. Just hope that he stubs his toe on something so you can laugh at him later.
2006-09-23 15:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because they think they are never wrong. LOL.
I feel bad for you for what you are going through. My husband would never talk to me like that and he always tells me how much he appreciates what I do so I really can't offer any advice.
I am not sure if your husband would listen and reason if you tried to talk to him about it. You could give that a try.
Good luck! I will be thinking about you!
2006-09-23 15:30:28 · answer #10 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋