Told my 14 year old she couldn't go out and she took off anyway. What do I do now when she gets home?
2006-09-23 15:04:25 · 8 answers · asked by tired mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
whoop her *** and put her on the pill
2006-09-23 15:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to her and letting her know that you trust her to be responsible? Don't be too strict with her. Let her know that you are scared for her. Also let her know that you trust her judgment. She may express herself more to you and grow to be your best friend like when she was little. The more rules you impose on her, the more rebellious she is going to be. Don't get me wrong, rules need to be set. Tell her she cant go anywhere unless you know where she is going to be and who she is going to be with, whether its her girls or a boy. Or make it a rule that if shes going to be out all night, she has to check in every few hours. You run her world and have been since she was born. She has to know you are not going to let her get hurt by the baddies of the world regardless how much fun she is having. talk to her and try to keep the judgment to a minimum. She knows what shes doing and she wants freedom to make her own choices. You have to support her and give her advice in this crazy world. Sooner or later she will come back and say you was right. More conversations and less fighting will set you free.
2006-09-23 15:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by Good S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the adult, right? Take away every privilege she has. No TV, no phone, no cell phone, no stereo, no ipod, no video games, no privileges of any kind. Tell her she will get them back when you think she is ready to accept the responsibilities of being part of your family and following the rules you set. You are not obligated to give her any of the privileges. That's why we call them privileges!
It takes a strong parent to take away these things, but if you really follow through and don't give in to her tantrums you will be a winner.
2006-09-23 15:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember those days.. except I was the teen doing that to my mother. Alot of teens... you can say don't do this..don't do that, and they still do it. Yelling and grounding never worked for me. It's hard to get through to someone at that age, because they know everything..
Sometimes my mother would take away things that I really liked..for instance...the tv in my room. Which sometimes worked.. but kids are kids..
2006-09-23 15:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of something creative. She sounds bad I wouldnt do that I am 14, turning 15!
2006-09-23 15:12:56 · answer #5 · answered by it's me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her she is underage to do what she wants to do at 14. your are her mother and you love her very much and you also worry about he when she iis not home and doesn't call you to let you know she is ok. tell her not to do it again. if it does happen again take her to counseling. talk to her as calmly as possible but be stern enought to get your point across.
good luck
2006-09-23 15:38:46 · answer #6 · answered by lolo123392000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wd let her know how irresponsible she was and that she will have to have somekind of punishment and let her know that this will not be tolorated. talk to her and see why she thought going against what you said was so important to her.
2006-09-23 15:17:10 · answer #7 · answered by milkmaider2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ground her, take away an item thats inportant to her (phone, computer, outfits, ect.) and if shes out late enoff I'd probaly spank her too...
2006-09-23 15:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by caitybug10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋