I am not sure what to do in this situation. My boss is a pervert in my opinion and my friends opinions at work. He will joke around with me telling me he loves me and calling me baby. I take it as a joke as he knows I am happily married and he laughs when he says it. he has been very touch feely lately on my shoulders or putting his arm around me. the other day i joked around with him when a customer came in the store and it looked like she had lip injections and i said she was prob at his house last night that is why her lips are soo swollen i laughed it out but then he said ""what do u know about that? do u do that? huh? huh? I didnt answer him but he kept on asking me if i did that (meaning going down there) i said no comment and he just smiled. i didnt like that and felt very uncomfortable. I told my friends at work and they said it is sexual harrassment. is it or is it something that is not that big a deal? thx for all advice.
2006-09-23 14:58:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think it is sexual harrassment. find another job hun before he might want to try something on you.
2006-09-23 15:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First step is to tell him that you are uncomfortable with his actions, etc., and ask that he stop. Second step is to report this to his boss. It would be good to go back and document the incidents, and document any further incidents so that you have a record of what has taken place. Be sure to include date and time. Then if it isn't taken care of, and you lose your job, by all means take it to the law. Not only will you have the sexual harassment, but then you will also have a wrongful termination case. Have the courage to follow through with it all!! Do nt let them make you feel inferior, or threaten you. If they do threaten you, document that as well. Use a little tape recorder under your desk if you have to during conversations.
2006-09-23 15:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is without a doubt sexual harassment. Here is what I recommend, and this is very important. Do not joke with him at all regarding anything that might have a sexual interpretation, like that woman's lips, and do not smile when he makes any comments or touching that makes you uncomfortable. To protect yourself, you need to be consistent in that you never co-operated or misled him. At some point after such consistency (two weeks is enough), you'll need to go to him and say specifically what makes you uncomfortable. Cite language and behavior he engages in. Do not expect him to agree. Your purpose is only to give him your point of view. From then on, after your consistent non-cooperation and your giving him what effectively is notice, you have a case of sexual harassment for any of his behavior if he is stupid enough to continue or if he fires you. Making the workplace uncomfortable for someone by allowing inappropriate uninvited sexual behavior is against the law. Coming from a boss, it's even far worse. Whether you chose to stay or not, and whether he fires you or not, you will win in court. You will be financially rewarded and recover your dignity.
2006-09-23 15:08:52 · answer #3 · answered by browneyedgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely bad behavior. In the future though, refrain from any sexual discussion around this guy, he's trying to egg you on. (not that I'm saying it's your fault, just be careful) You'd have a harder time proving a case of sexual harassment if you're known to say off color remarks back to him. Watch what you say for a while, if it continues then you need to have a little chat with him. If you're uncomfortable asking him to stop and you're feeling uncomfortable coming to work, then you need to go over his head to his boss. Document everything he says while it's still fresh in your head, so you can't embellish the story, include the date and time. His boss would need this in order to move forward, or failing that your lawyer would need this too.
2006-09-23 15:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By you joking with him and bringing up things such as "she prob as at your house last night" Is making him think that you dont mind how he acts, and sees that you are the kind of girl who isnt up tight about talking and joking about things like that so thats why he keeps doing it. Also when you smile and show him that when he is calling you baby and tells you that he loves you than he doesnt see that you are taking it not serious. If you are showing him that when he is making comments like such that you dont think its funny. I wouldnt take it as he "wants you or that hes seriously loves you and all" just the type of guy that jokes about things like this to get the day by faster, and hes going to keep doing so if you keep showing him that theres nothing wrong with it. So next time he says hi babe or i love you, dont smile just give him a odd look like you dont like it. And if your scared he might fire you or what something like that or get mad at you than make up that your husband is a really jelous man and that he would flip out if he ever heard him talk to you that way. And say i know its just joking around but i rather it just not be anymore. I dont want my husband to think somthing else. Than smile and go from there. And try not to bring up sexual jokes like you did before, its just provocking him to come up with somthing against you like asking you if you do things like that. Than if he keeps doing so after you tell him to stop and your showing him that its just not funny any more than you need to go to his boss and tell him about it! Because than thats sexual harrassment, when you say stop and he doesnt!! And be carefull around this guy, dont be alone with him for long just incase!!!
2006-09-23 15:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has crossed the line with those comments. You should report him to human resources. There are laws to protect people from guys like him.
The term sexual harrassment means that someone says or does something that is unwelcome or makes someone feel uncomfortable.
2006-09-23 15:12:42 · answer #6 · answered by ingy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His comments and actions are sexual harassment, but your "playing along" and making the comments about the woman are also sexual harassment. Neither of you were appropriate in her case either. I suggest you look for a new job before you try a sexual harassment lawsuit, if you are thinking of suing. Maybe you will think about your remarks as well.
2006-09-23 15:40:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would think any thing that is said sexual at work is cause for harrassment ,do not be laid back on this because some men/women say things like this and honestly belive they can get away with it
2006-09-23 15:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it could be considered sexual harassment, but you should know better than to joke around with him knowing he is that way, tell him straight out that it bothers you his touching you and his obscene joking, and if he does not stop after that than you have a case.
2006-09-23 15:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by pay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's sexual harrassment. I would inform the police and find another job.
2006-09-23 15:01:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋