my friend is dating this guy and he flirts a lot with this preppy chick behind my friends back and i want to tell my friend but i don't want to ruin their relationship because she really likes him!it seems like hes cheating on her!! i want to be a good friend and i don't know if that would mean telling her or not! any ideas???
2006-09-23 14:53:49 · 22 answers · asked by guitar gal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell her, she's got no other options anyway- either knowin it earlier from her frd or later from herself. shes goin to be hurt anyway. y dun u tell her the truth earlier. if u reli want to make ur frd happy, u shouldnt hide the truth from her, instead, keep her company after tellin her, let her know ur still here for her =)
2006-09-23 14:58:24 · answer #1 · answered by mion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation, this is what I would do. If I know him, then I'll go and talk to him. Ask him if he's cheating on his girlfriend or not. If he's not then there should be nothing to worry about. And later if you still worry, go spy on him. Or maybe be friend with one of the girl that he flirted, and ask that "girl". If you want to get the full and correct info. You have to act, be "her" friend for the first couple of days, or maybe weeks, and then ask her about "him". If you become her friend and ask her immediatly, then she'll know that you're using her. After that, if he's cheating on your friend, tell your friend, and maybe take some pictures, if your friend heart is broken, wait and it'll heal. Think about this, if you tell her, she got hurt, or she found out and she got hurt, which one do you think is more painful?
Good luck
2006-09-23 22:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by DBSK LOVER! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You first have to think about wether or not you would want someone to tell you if your b/f ws cheating on you. But you have to sit down and say did I really see anything that could be called caheating. If you see him tyouch another gurl or kiss antoher gurl then id get ready for a big blow up form ur friend because she is to blimd to see waht i her b/f is doing. But you still need to tell her. BEcause sometimes in the end theyll blame u or they just might thank you
2006-09-23 22:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much of a friend are you to each other? If you think you are on the level where you can tell each other anything and everything, go ahead and tell her. If not, just be on the look out and help your friend see for herself (you have to be witty to do this) what her boyfriend is doing. And be there for her when she gets hurt.
2006-09-23 21:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes telling your friend can backfire on you. I was accused of trying to get with my friends x-husband just because I said hello whenever i came over to visit. Her reasoning for this is because she felt that i am very pretty and if i wasn't then she wouldn't be so worried. We didn't speak for about 3 or 4 years behind that. I never told her that he stared at me like he was starving and i was his last meal. Just imagine if I had!
2006-09-23 21:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by Queen J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With out worrying your friend first go to him. Tell him that you think it's wrong and that she woudln't like it. Don't go over board with making your point of view but let him no (in a nice as possible way) that if he doesn't stop doing that you will tell her.
Good luck! i hope it goes ok!!
2006-09-23 22:07:08 · answer #6 · answered by jenna h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a good friend would be 2 tell ur friend about her bf. she may not believe u and she may be mad that ur right. at least u did the right thing and told her. who knows maybe he is cheating on her and he's about 2 dump her. that woudl really hurt.
2006-09-23 22:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ray 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though you know its going to hurt her a lot...you should really tell her because if she finds out about it later..and she will...and that you knew about it...she may get mad at you about the fact you didtn tell her about it...just say calmly i have to tell you something...and be like your bf has been flirting with so and so lately and at first it seemed like nothing but he keeps flirting with her and i just thought you should know or something like that...well good luck
2006-09-23 21:58:28 · answer #8 · answered by devon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of a friend are you if you don;t tell her ? I think you should tell her . Start out by saying " iam telling you this cause you are my friend " " i have been worried how you will react and thats why it sonly now i am telling you ".
2006-09-23 22:47:27 · answer #9 · answered by Don Richard G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would not be a GOOD friend unless you did tell her. Figure out a way that she can see for HERSELF what he is doing. That way you are not the bad guy.
2006-09-23 21:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by jrschulz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋