was recently legaly seperated but now we got back together and its working out good , during that time I was seperated I had sex with a old freind just once and I have been worried she could be pregnant. She had her tubes tied 17 years ago and she is 41 and she thinks i am nuts, She has had 2 normal periods and even took a home pregnancy test just to shut me up which turned out negative but I am a worry wart.
What do you guys think am I just be stupid and need to stop worrying about her being pregnant?
Also please don't flame me I am just a nervious person who always fears the worst with everything
2006-09-23 14:50:06 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Take it from a mother of 3, the woman is not pregnant after two periods and one test! I think you are focused on pregnancy to avoid the actual issue, which would be guilt. If she is okay with it and everything is good, try to forgive yourself, especially if everyone else has!!!! Hang in there and good luck!
2006-09-23 15:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by babydoll121070 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I am not saying that it is right .....{or wrong }, one night stands have been performed by a large majority of our population. {present company included } I know things happen fast and you get lost in the moment, but it would be the least of your troubles if she would have turned up
prego. And the GUILT , that sh*t will eat you alive. And even if your wife never found out, your relationship would suffer to SOME extent, either because of the guilt,,,,,or fear of her finding out. Which is still a possibility. And I guess what I'm getting at , is the lack of respect, or responsibility, by NOT using some sort of protection, by one or both parties involved. You both know better I'm sure. Hope ALL turns out well. You can justify the act, because you were separated, if that makes it better for ya, but keep in mind for future reference, {should you need it},make sure you, take care of YOU. Cover your OWN *** sorta speak. Keep it between the 2 of you,,,or there could be other lives at stake. Its amazing how us humans burden ourselves by doing such stupid SH*T! I know I've done my share. Just passing along a little wisdom I've gathered over the years. Best wishes.
2006-09-24 00:25:53 · answer #2 · answered by Colorado 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats guilt kicking u in the butt. Had not u screwed around on ur wife then u wouldn't have to go through this, if she had her tubes tied then u shouldn't then u have nothing to worry about on that but u should worry if ur wife will find out that u slept with someone. That should be ur worry. and if u always fear the worst as u say then u wouldn't have done what u did to NOW worry about it
2006-09-23 16:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's your guilt more than your nerves.
She's not pregnant. If she's already had her periods, she's not pregnant. And since you slept with her when you were legally seperated, no one can fault you on that.
Stop worrying about your past mistake! Channel that energy into making this second chance of being with your significant other into a wonderful relationship!
2006-09-23 14:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by everfair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you will be ok! I understand how you could be nervous about his, but just relax, I am sure everything will work out in the end! Just think, in a few months, when she is still not pregnant you can put this all behind you, and try to remember to use a condom next time. Ok?
2006-09-23 15:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by ladydragondale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you can stop worrying but I also think you should tell your partner that you had sex with someone else while you were separated....tell her you want a clean slate and you need to be honest.....tell her that you don't want it to come out later and ruin things..........
2006-09-23 14:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by beccam1962 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep your zipper up, and you wouldn't have to worry about that!
She's not pregnant, she's had periods!!!
2006-09-23 14:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by david_e22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋