I am 19 male...from INDIA...i saw one really nice girl..but the thing is..she is..not married but have to kids by accident..we have a lot in common......
So do you think my realtionship...of marriege..with her..would be...good...or...am i doing some thing wrong..
2006-09-23 14:41:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO ONE gives birth to TWO children by 'accident' -- and I mean NO ONE!
I would really think this over if I were you. This does NOT make sense ....
2006-09-23 14:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can she have two kids that were accidents? are they twins? will your future kids be considered an accident? is she marriage material? having alot of things in common doesn't mean you will have a good marriage. it shouldn't matter if she has kids. i am in a relationship for the past two years i have two kids none for my husband so if you love her the kids should not be an issue what should be the issue is if she will stay with you through thick and thin or does she feels like she is in love now until you all make a family then she disappears. observe for a while you are still young maybe you will change your mind after you get married. talk to a married man in your church community. think about it.
2006-09-23 21:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by sexylousleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a woman has 2 girls...those aren't accidents. She obviously wanted children. I would say that if you want to marry her and take the financial responsibility of taking on her and her children...go right ahead. I personally think its ALOT of baggage to take on, but I know because I've been in that situation. One thing to consider is by the time you want to have children of your own... will this affect your relationship with her daughters because they aren't technically "your children". Another thing to be leary of is drama with the children's biological father. I was in a relationship with a man for 3 years that had a son from a previous marriage and I had to put up with so much "baby mama drama" it was HORRIBLE. So I would just say be careful...dont jump into things too fast because you might regret it later and you dont want to harm her girls psychologically thinking you're gonna be the daddy they never had and then take that way because you finally realized you didn't want that kind of life. Just GO SLOW...you're young....you have your WHOLE LIFE AHEAD OF YOU.
2006-09-23 21:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To love someone is to love their children, no matter how they came by them, I mean would you want someone who claims they love you to decide not to marry you if you had two kids to other people? Would you want to be judged by your actions in the past? Have you had such an innocent past that you would not have come by children if you were not careful or lucky??????
Think about it, do you love her? If you do and you get married, you are marrying the children too. If you don't think you can do that, leave her go so she can find someone for all of them!
2006-09-23 21:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by babydoll121070 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son met a young girl he was 22 she 19 she had a child and one on the way no marrage. they married a year later have a son together and would have it no other way. people make mistakes but children are not one of them as long as she loves and treats her children well and does the same to you give her a chance
2006-09-23 21:59:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should take some more time to get to know each other
and use contraception so you don't end up having an accident with her as well.
2006-09-24 03:35:42 · answer #6 · answered by Gossip81 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if I were you I would stay away from a girl who has kids and don't know who the dad is, that just looks like bad news to me. I would say no.
2006-09-23 21:44:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you accept the children and are in love with her it's a match.
You decide you can handle being a young father, than kudos to you...good luck!
2006-09-23 21:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by Nic. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like her it is not a problem. I just hope she's not telling her children that they were accidents.
2006-09-23 21:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by Aubrey's mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, children are NEVER an accident! unless it was a rape! otherwise, shame on YOU and whoever else thinks children are an accident!!!
2006-09-23 21:51:46 · answer #10 · answered by david_e22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋