My husband grew up with no brothers and sisters. I grew up with 2 sisters. He wants to have lots of grandkids. i don't care right now! i'm only 24.
2006-09-23 14:39:46 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
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2006-09-23 14:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by jfont 3 · 1⤊ 5⤋
That is a big difference maybe you all can compromise say have 3. Did you all have discussion of Children before you married because really that is something that should be discussed just for any people out there planning on getting married or engaged.
I personal wouldn’t mind having 4 to 6 kids, but i would adopt some. You should talk to your husband, your only 24 so your biological clock is nowhere near ticking. Have one baby and then go from there, he could change his mind you could change yours. When my brother got married his wife didn’t want any kids but she finale changed her mind and they had 2. My other sister in law wanted to have 10 kids but once she went through two difficult labors she changed her tune
2006-09-23 16:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish you well. I truly hate some of the answers you have received. This is a couple's decision. You and your husband must decide. You both bare and share the responsibility.
The factors influencing your decision are many. They include, but are not limited to, money, time, future plans, education, work, religion, age, health. Children are a wonderful blessing. Not everyone gets to choose due to limitations or circumstances. Make your choice together in love. I wish I could say that there is a definite answer. There isn't. You just have to choose. You are young enough that you have time to change your mind. You don't have to decide right away. If you were 45, things would be different due to health risks. I am personally living with the fact that we might not be able to have all the children we wanted. Whatever you decide, you can live with it together.
2006-09-23 14:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by Jack 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's alot easier for us to "wish" for things before we actually get them....
I have plenty of friends/family who aspired to have huge numbers of offspring and then when they started having children they realized that wasn't something they really wished for anymore...
Keep an open mind-You never know.. you might change your mind once you experience pregnancy and motherhood.. You might want more then just one... And it's very possible that your husband, once the child or children start coming... will change his mind also.....
The best advice I can give you right now for the present is be in control of your body.. which means take charge of your fertility.. If you don't want a child right now or what have you, make sure you are in tune with body signs of ovulation (You can google that up makes for good reading) and be on some form of birthcontrol...
I have 2 kids.. and they are 6 years apart.. I never wanted any kiddos.. then I had one, then I longed for another.. he's 1 now.. and I haven't totally axed the idea of another down the line... so as you get older.. you might change your mind.. or you might not.. Either way it's something that you guys need to talk about and hopefully can compromise on...
Good luck!
2006-09-23 14:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by SassySista 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have the one kid and his opinion might change fast Be sure to give him jr at 2 am when no one is sleeping in the house.
Don't bother argueing - reality has a way of making a comprimise more than possible .
When he figures out how little time he has and how you won't be interested in sex for a while after the baby is born and how many names you will call him durring the miricle of birth you might be able to sit back with a smug look as he says "uh honey maybe 6 kids is too much"
2006-09-23 14:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be concerned with your children, not grandchildren. Children are very costly - does he have a job that can pay for the expenses of six children? We can barely manage with the expenses of three. Also - having 6 kids doesn't guarantee that you will have a lot of grandchilren - maybe the 6 kids will decided that they don't want kids or only want to have one child since they grew up with a lot of kids.
2006-09-23 14:45:14 · answer #6 · answered by lonely_girl3_98 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you are in china, the state pays you for every extra kid since they want to increase the population!
You are in a developed country, both of you have jobs and both are responsible. Come on, one or two in the current times is enough. You may enjoy being with kids but who is going to clothe them and fend for them till they can take care of themselves and movce out? you have to give them the best in food clothing and education and I honestly think you cannot do this for more than 1 - 2 kids at a time especially if both parents are working. Tell your husband to wake up or go to his parents and ask for more brothers and sisters.
2006-09-23 14:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tough one! Take it slow. Do this one step a t a time don't plan for one six or three kids until after you have decided you want to try and get pregnant or until after you get pregnant. Go through the first and after a couple of years when its safe to think about it talk about having another one or not having. You may find that you both have changed your minds by that time.
2006-09-23 14:44:16 · answer #8 · answered by K C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u might change ur mind in due time about having more the 1 child.but who knows!! do u know anyone with a lot of children ?
if u do c if they'll let u & ur husband take care of them for a weekend & mayb.he'll change his mind about wanting to have 6 children,although my husband & i have 5 together & 6 older that r growen.and the 6 older's adore our 5 & they'll say they r not my step siblings
2006-09-23 16:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by Wonetta B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Bluewave. I am a surfer so I love your name. Wow, it sounds like you guys have a lot to talk about. What a difference in opinion, and on such an important topic. But it sounds like you are aware of one another's backgrounds and needs, so that's a good beginning. I would go and find a counselor to discuss it before you start getting pregnant. Six kids is a lot. Talk first, compromise, but always remember, it is your body, your call.
2006-09-23 14:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hey hun.....just wait till you have the first....then watch how quick he down sizes lol...it's easy to wont a big family if you have never had a child....then when you see how hard it can be metally, finantually, and physically then you can get a better ideah of the family size that is right for you....good luck to you hun...love daisy
2006-09-24 05:48:48 · answer #11 · answered by crazy_daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋